SERVICE ETIQUETTE From Service Etiquette by Oretha D. Swartz Naval Institute Press, Annapolis Presented by Betsy Bird 12 20 2012
MANNERS AND DRESS One of the most valuable habits you can acquire is to be on time. For a dinner party, you should not arrive before the hour named. It ispermissible to arrive up to 15 mins after the stated time and should stayfrom 30 to 45 mins after dinner if nothing is planned. At a very important social function, you should not leave until after theguest of honor or the high-ranking guest departs. All social invitations are answered promptly, within a day or two. Do not fail to reply to an R.S.V.P. After a special occasion, a note of thanks is in order.
ART OF CONVERSATION Be a good listener. Learn to remember names and faces Put shy persons at ease by getting them to talk abouthobbies, pets, children, or known interests. Talk in a moderate tone of voice Keep your eyes and ears open – and occasionally yourmouth shut..
ART OF CONVERSATIONDo not: Say anything about a person that you would not want that person tohear. Interrupt or contradict others Monopolize a conversation or talk endlessly Exclude anyone from a conversational group. Give the state of your health when someone asks “How are you?” Talk business at a social gathering
GOOD TABLE MANNERS Napkins are placed at the left of the fork. At the end of themeal, replace the napkin unfolded at the left of your plate. Do not talk with food in your mouth, make noises whileeating or swallowing, chew food with your mouth open, orblow on hot liquids to cool them. Do not rise out of your seat to reach something on thetable. Do not place your elbows on the table while eating.
GOOD TABLE MANNERS Be careful of controversial or unpleasant subjects. Do not pick up dropped silverware. Ask for another. Leave the table if necessary when sneezing or coughing. If a person is choking, he needs help immediately. Befamiliar with the Heimlich Maneuver. Know the difference between silverware (i.e., the dinnerfork, salad fork and dessert fork.) Be familiar with placesettings.
GOOD TABLE MANNERS How to eat various foods: Cake: with a fork when served as a dessert Ice cream: with a fork and/or spoon. Olives: hold in the fingers; place stones on butter plate.Small olives are eaten whole. Onion rings: with a fork Pickles: with a fork
TOASTS When you are the one receiving the toast at a table, youremain seated while everyone else stands, and you do not sipyour drink. After everyone else sits, you may rise and thank them andoffer a toast in return. If you are making the toast, be well-prepared When you tell an amusing story or joke, don’t laugh at ityourself. Never tell a story which may reflect adversely on the personbeing toasted.
MORAL OBLIGATIONS Always remember that your word – or signature – is yourbond. Think twice before you make promises. Be honest and direct in all your dealings. If you do not know the answer to a question, do notattempt to answer it. Answer only as much as you canwithout being misleading. It is better to say “I don’t know” ifyou don’t know!
FINAL THOUGHTS Be kind to others. Be responsive to invitations and RSVP on time. Thank others by handwritten note or telephone for dinners,receptions and social gatherings that are special occasions. Prepare yourself in advance for social events if you areunsure of protocol. Keep a copy of an etiquette book available for late nightreading.