Digital Natives: Growing Up Online “ Friending” in the 21 st Century Alecia Berman-Dry Technology Coordinator, St. John’s Episcopal School

A Coming of Age Experience The term digital native is being applied to individuals who have grown up immersed in technology. The opposite term is the "digital immigrant" those individuals that are trying to get to terms with digital technology. A "digital native" will refer to their new "camera", a digital immigrant will refer to their new "digital camera“ An image-focused (visual) versus a textual (Gutenberg era) perspective ( InFORMation Movie ) Social Media is an important part of that experience

The term digital native is being applied to individuals who have grown up immersed in technology. The opposite term is the "digital immigrant" those individuals that are trying to get to terms with digital technology. A "digital native" will refer to their new "camera", a digital immigrant will refer to their new "digital camera“

An image-focused (visual) versus a textual (Gutenberg era) perspective ( InFORMation Movie )

Social Media is an important part of that experience

Pew Internet Research Center

What Does It Mean to Be A Friend? Friends in the face-to-face world Friends in the online world Social interaction in both places www.japanwindow.com/?showimage=153

Friends in the face-to-face world

Friends in the online world

Social interaction in both places

Why Are They Doing This? Identity as a milestone for child development picasaweb.google.com /.../9EfwceFy45Gnk9kMJ16hIw

Identity as a milestone for child development

Global Village Citizen Jenna She is one of 90% of children between the ages of 7 and 17 who use computers She is one of 24% of children between 5 and 17 who have created her own web page. http://www.123ohp.com/images/girl-computer.jpg

She is one of 90% of children between the ages of 7 and 17 who use computers

She is one of 24% of children between 5 and 17 who have created her own web page.

Jenna’s Communication Habits Telephone/Cell Phone Email Internet Gaming Consoles with Internet Hookup Instant Messengers Social Networks Virtual Reality Games http://www.123ohp.com/images/girl-computer.jpg

Telephone/Cell Phone

Email

Internet

Gaming Consoles with Internet Hookup

Instant Messengers

Social Networks

Virtual Reality Games

She thinks this world belongs to her, and you have no idea what she’s doing there.

Which Are You?

The Ostrich?

The Benevolent Tyrant http://www.doomlegends.com/maille/mac1.jpg

Zen Master www.geocities.com/teddy1066/zen.html

Approach Ostriches: Ignorance is Bliss Age is no excuse Irresponsible Benevolent Tyrant: Total Restriction Developmentally appropriate to push boundaries. Choose battles wisely. Zen Master: Interested, Educated Partnership The way of negotiation and renegotiation

Ostriches: Ignorance is Bliss

Age is no excuse

Irresponsible

Benevolent Tyrant: Total Restriction

Developmentally appropriate to push boundaries. Choose battles wisely.

Zen Master: Interested, Educated Partnership

The way of negotiation and renegotiation

The Wave is Here The future is now Television Rock music Be the role model Use the powers for good

The future is now

Television

Rock music

Be the role model

Use the powers for good

Two Basics: YOU NEED A WEB FILTER (see resources at end for ideas) YOU NEED your computers in public rooms. A closed door is a dangerous situation waiting to explode—yes, I mean to be that dramatic.

YOU NEED A WEB FILTER

(see resources at end for ideas)

YOU NEED your computers in public rooms. A closed door is a dangerous situation waiting to explode—yes, I mean to be that dramatic.

Computers In Rooms… “ I gave Ryan one of them. I allowed him to put it in his room . I thought it would be a great place. He could put it at his desk where he did his homework; he can use it for homework; he can type up his reports; he can research. Around this time now we got the broadband Internet, and ... he was starting to get into e-mail, so he was e-mailing his uncles and his grandmother. ... Somewhere in the early middle school years, he started to get into instant messaging . I can't tell you exactly when because it kind of snuck up on me. ... That kicked off a lot of discussion about: ... "I don't want you chatting with strangers, and I don't want you giving out your real name, your phone number, your address, and I don't want you sending pictures to anybody. If somebody comes to you and wants a picture of you, even if it's your friends, I want you to come to us for permission. I don't want you sending pictures of yourself to people." ... I said: "Look, you can do all this stuff, but I need to know the passwords for these accounts . ... I promise I'm not going to spy on you; I'm not going to read your personal e-mails. But God forbid you just disappear one day, I don't want to waste any time with AOL or Microsoft Messenger or Yahoo! trying to get them to give me access to your account. Time will be of the essence. I'm going to want immediate access, and I don't want to have to go through lawyers or with law enforcement either." That was a very critical rule that sort of played out in a way I had never imagined until later on after Ryan's death. http:// www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/kidsonline/interviews/halligan.html#2

“ I gave Ryan one of them. I allowed him to put it in his room . I thought it would be a great place. He could put it at his desk where he did his homework; he can use it for homework; he can type up his reports; he can research. Around this time now we got the broadband Internet, and ... he was starting to get into e-mail, so he was e-mailing his uncles and his grandmother. ...

Somewhere in the early middle school years, he started to get into instant messaging . I can't tell you exactly when because it kind of snuck up on me. ... That kicked off a lot of discussion about: ... "I don't want you chatting with strangers, and I don't want you giving out your real name, your phone number, your address, and I don't want you sending pictures to anybody. If somebody comes to you and wants a picture of you, even if it's your friends, I want you to come to us for permission. I don't want you sending pictures of yourself to people." ...

I said: "Look, you can do all this stuff, but I need to know the passwords for these accounts . ... I promise I'm not going to spy on you; I'm not going to read your personal e-mails. But God forbid you just disappear one day, I don't want to waste any time with AOL or Microsoft Messenger or Yahoo! trying to get them to give me access to your account. Time will be of the essence. I'm going to want immediate access, and I don't want to have to go through lawyers or with law enforcement either."

That was a very critical rule that sort of played out in a way I had never imagined until later on after Ryan's death.

Anne Collier, “My Space Unravelled” “ Fear is bad. Fear is actually increasing risk, because when we're afraid, we shut down communications with our kids. When we start banning things and overreacting, they want to get as far away from us as they possibly can. And so what do they do online? They go into stealth mode. And there are so many devices they can use to connect, there are so many hot spots and friend's houses and libraries and cafes and school and all these places where they can go online where we can't control them. If we really want to control every movement of their lives, they're at greater risk, actually, if we shut down communication.”

“ Fear is bad. Fear is actually increasing risk, because when we're afraid, we shut down communications with our kids. When we start banning things and overreacting, they want to get as far away from us as they possibly can.

And so what do they do online? They go into stealth mode. And there are so many devices they can use to connect, there are so many hot spots and friend's houses and libraries and cafes and school and all these places where they can go online where we can't control them. If we really want to control every movement of their lives, they're at greater risk, actually, if we shut down communication.”

Top Issues Parents Face in the Village Bullying Consumer mentality/Media Literacy Social development Peer interaction Sexual identity Language development, esp. written Predators 2000: 1 in 5 2006: 1 in 7

Bullying

Consumer mentality/Media Literacy

Social development

Peer interaction

Sexual identity

Language development, esp. written

Predators

2000: 1 in 5

2006: 1 in 7

Cyberbullying “ Nationwide, more than 4 in 10 teens have been victims of taunts and threats via social network Web sites such as MySpace and Facebook, instant messages and text messages from cell phones, according to a survey by the National Crime Prevention Council. One in 8 reported feeling scared enough to stay home from school, according to the survey.” – San Francisco Chronicle, May 23, 2007, Ilene Lelchuk

“ Nationwide, more than 4 in 10 teens have been victims of taunts and threats via social network Web sites such as MySpace and Facebook, instant messages and text messages from cell phones, according to a survey by the National Crime Prevention Council. One in 8 reported feeling scared enough to stay home from school, according to the survey.” – San Francisco Chronicle, May 23, 2007, Ilene Lelchuk

Issues to Consider Avery Donninger Disciplined for a blog post written off of school grounds Megan Meier Missouri teen committed suicide due to MySpace Bullying Ryan Patrick Halligan Vermont Bullying Law Signed into Effect after 13 year old boy cyberbullied and commits suicide

Avery Donninger

Disciplined for a blog post written off of school grounds

Megan Meier

Missouri teen committed suicide due to MySpace Bullying

Ryan Patrick Halligan

Vermont Bullying Law Signed into Effect after 13 year old boy cyberbullied and commits suicide

Social Networks Facebook MySpace Ning

Facebook

MySpace

Ning

Here It Comes

Tools for the Tyrant and Zen Wannabe Windows Vista and XP Controls Benefits: Free, easy to use Cons: Could be easily turned off, harder for you to surf AOL Parent Controls Benefits: Free, Comprehensive, Very Safe Cons: You MUST use their browser Watchdog Benefits: Comprehensive, Very Safe, May use any browser Cons: $40 cost for three computers Cybersitter, Netnanny and Cyberpatrol Caveat: 14% of pornography will not be blocked JAMA, http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/446149

Windows Vista and XP Controls

Benefits: Free, easy to use

Cons: Could be easily turned off, harder for you to surf

AOL Parent Controls

Benefits: Free, Comprehensive, Very Safe

Cons: You MUST use their browser

Watchdog

Benefits: Comprehensive, Very Safe, May use any browser

Cons: $40 cost for three computers

Cybersitter, Netnanny and Cyberpatrol

Caveat: 14% of pornography will not be blocked JAMA, http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/446149

Which Path Will You Choose?

Choose wisely, Grasshoppers

Internet Filter Review and Comparison http://internet-filter- review.toptenreviews.com / AOL Parental Controls Download www. parentalcontrols . aol .com/ NetFamilyNews Blog http:// www.netfamilynews.org / Frontline: Growing Up Online http:// www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/kidsonline / Megan Meier Chicago Tribune Story http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/nationworld/chi-megan-meier-myspace-080515-ht,0,1888103.story CNN Story on YouTube http:// www.youtube.com/watch?v = HFsfDLCkfQU Megan Meier Memorial MySpace Page http:// profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction = user.viewprofile&friendID =282649353 Olivia Gardner Story in San Francisco Chronicle (Bullying) http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f =/c/a/2007/05/23/MNGTFPVVON1.DTL Avery Donninger Case: Hartford Courant Newsarticle http://www.courant.com/community/news/fv/hc-doninger0530.artmay30,0,5206405.story Instant Messenger Dictionary http://www.pbs.org/parents/childrenandmedia/mediaglossary-lexicon.html Crimes Against Children Research Center 2006 Report http://www.unh.edu/ccrc/pdf/cv138.pdf Pew Internet Research Center: Teens and Social Media http://www.pewinternet.org/PPF/r/230/report_display.asp Pew Internet Research Center: Teens, Privacy and Online Social Networks http://www.pewinternet.org/PPF/r/211/report_display.asp Tips For Removing Offensive Profiles from Various Social Networking Sites http://www.cyberbullyhelp.com/Help%20Tips%20for%20Reporting%20Offensive%20Profiles.pdf

Internet Filter Review and Comparison http://internet-filter- review.toptenreviews.com / AOL Parental Controls Download www. parentalcontrols . aol .com/ NetFamilyNews Blog http:// www.netfamilynews.org / Frontline: Growing Up Online http:// www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/kidsonline / Megan Meier Chicago Tribune Story http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/nationworld/chi-megan-meier-myspace-080515-ht,0,1888103.story CNN Story on YouTube http:// www.youtube.com/watch?v = HFsfDLCkfQU Megan Meier Memorial MySpace Page http:// profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction = user.viewprofile&friendID =282649353 Olivia Gardner Story in San Francisco Chronicle (Bullying) http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f =/c/a/2007/05/23/MNGTFPVVON1.DTL Avery Donninger Case: Hartford Courant Newsarticle http://www.courant.com/community/news/fv/hc-doninger0530.artmay30,0,5206405.story Instant Messenger Dictionary http://www.pbs.org/parents/childrenandmedia/mediaglossary-lexicon.html Crimes Against Children Research Center 2006 Report http://www.unh.edu/ccrc/pdf/cv138.pdf Pew Internet Research Center: Teens and Social Media http://www.pewinternet.org/PPF/r/230/report_display.asp Pew Internet Research Center: Teens, Privacy and Online Social Networks http://www.pewinternet.org/PPF/r/211/report_display.asp Tips For Removing Offensive Profiles from Various Social Networking Sites http://www.cyberbullyhelp.com/Help%20Tips%20for%20Reporting%20Offensive%20Profiles.pdf