X3 Rock Your FamilySession 4: Iʼm the Parent...                ...dealing with teenagers
Ten Commandments ofRock Your Family
Ten Commandments ofRock Your Family• Commandment #1: I am the parent and you are not
Ten Commandments ofRock Your Family• Commandment #1: I am the parent and you are not• What does it look like to train/inst...
I Am The Parent• At 13, teens become addicted to freedom
I Am The Parent• At 13, teens become addicted to freedom• They are becoming adults
I Am The Parent• At 13, teens become addicted to freedom• They are becoming adults• We should expect them to pull away
I Am The Parent• At 13, teens become addicted to freedom• They are becoming adults• We should expect them to pull away• Th...
I Am The Parent• Sometimes the harder we push our values on them, they harder they push against it
I Am The Parent• Sometimes the harder we push our values on them, they harder they push against it• Allow them freedom to ...
I Am The Parent• Sometimes the harder we push our values on them, they harder they push against it• Allow them freedom to ...
I Am The Parent• Sometimes the harder we push our values on them, they harder they push against it• Allow them freedom to ...
I Am The Parent• This is the age when you start asking tons of questions
I Am The Parent• This is the age when you start asking tons of questions• With teenagers, “Rules without relationship equa...
I Am The Parent• This is the age when you start asking tons of questions• With teenagers, “Rules without relationship equa...
I Am The Parent• This is the age when you start asking tons of questions• With teenagers, “Rules without relationship equa...
I Am The Parent• If youʼre a dad with a daughter, date your daughters
I Am The Parent• If youʼre a dad with a daughter, date your daughters• A way to cultivate a relationship with your teen is...
I Am The Parent• Get them to talk
I Am The Parent• Get them to talk• Donʼt judge their answers
I Am The Parent• Get them to talk• Donʼt judge their answers• Donʼt critique or complain
I Am The Parent• Get them to talk• Donʼt judge their answers• Donʼt critique or complain• The key is to build the relation...
Homework
Homework• Go to your teen and apologize
Homework• Go to your teen and apologize• Write down three ways you can engage with your teen
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X3 family session 4

  1. 1. X3 Rock Your FamilySession 4: Iʼm the Parent... ...dealing with teenagers
  2. 2. Ten Commandments ofRock Your Family
  3. 3. Ten Commandments ofRock Your Family• Commandment #1: I am the parent and you are not
  4. 4. Ten Commandments ofRock Your Family• Commandment #1: I am the parent and you are not• What does it look like to train/instruct and build a relationship with your teenagers?
  5. 5. I Am The Parent• At 13, teens become addicted to freedom
  6. 6. I Am The Parent• At 13, teens become addicted to freedom• They are becoming adults
  7. 7. I Am The Parent• At 13, teens become addicted to freedom• They are becoming adults• We should expect them to pull away
  8. 8. I Am The Parent• At 13, teens become addicted to freedom• They are becoming adults• We should expect them to pull away• They have to
  9. 9. I Am The Parent• Sometimes the harder we push our values on them, they harder they push against it
  10. 10. I Am The Parent• Sometimes the harder we push our values on them, they harder they push against it• Allow them freedom to choose their values
  11. 11. I Am The Parent• Sometimes the harder we push our values on them, they harder they push against it• Allow them freedom to choose their values• This creates tension
  12. 12. I Am The Parent• Sometimes the harder we push our values on them, they harder they push against it• Allow them freedom to choose their values• This creates tension• Engage with them
  13. 13. I Am The Parent• This is the age when you start asking tons of questions
  14. 14. I Am The Parent• This is the age when you start asking tons of questions• With teenagers, “Rules without relationship equals rebellion”
  15. 15. I Am The Parent• This is the age when you start asking tons of questions• With teenagers, “Rules without relationship equals rebellion”• You enter their world
  16. 16. I Am The Parent• This is the age when you start asking tons of questions• With teenagers, “Rules without relationship equals rebellion”• You enter their world• To engage with them means to pursue them
  17. 17. I Am The Parent• If youʼre a dad with a daughter, date your daughters
  18. 18. I Am The Parent• If youʼre a dad with a daughter, date your daughters• A way to cultivate a relationship with your teen is to listen
  19. 19. I Am The Parent• Get them to talk
  20. 20. I Am The Parent• Get them to talk• Donʼt judge their answers
  21. 21. I Am The Parent• Get them to talk• Donʼt judge their answers• Donʼt critique or complain
  22. 22. I Am The Parent• Get them to talk• Donʼt judge their answers• Donʼt critique or complain• The key is to build the relationship
  23. 23. Homework
  24. 24. Homework• Go to your teen and apologize
  25. 25. Homework• Go to your teen and apologize• Write down three ways you can engage with your teen

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