X3 Rock Your FamilySession 4: Iʼm the Parent... ...dealing with teenagers
Ten Commandments ofRock Your Family• Commandment #1: I am the parent and you are not• What does it look like to train/instruct and build a relationship with your teenagers?
I Am The Parent• At 13, teens become addicted to freedom• They are becoming adults• We should expect them to pull away• They have to
I Am The Parent• Sometimes the harder we push our values on them, they harder they push against it• Allow them freedom to choose their values• This creates tension• Engage with them
I Am The Parent• This is the age when you start asking tons of questions• With teenagers, “Rules without relationship equals rebellion”• You enter their world• To engage with them means to pursue them
I Am The Parent• If youʼre a dad with a daughter, date your daughters• A way to cultivate a relationship with your teen is to listen
I Am The Parent• Get them to talk• Donʼt judge their answers• Donʼt critique or complain• The key is to build the relationship
Homework• Go to your teen and apologize• Write down three ways you can engage with your teen