FAMILY ORDER ACTIVIT YStudents who are: The oldest child go to the back right corner of room. The youngest child go to the front right corner. The middle child go to the back left corner. The only child go to the front left corner.Each group is to list the advantages and disadvantages of their birth order on the butcher paper. Each group will present their findings.
BIRTH ORDER The order in which children are born into a family influences the development of the children. Oldest children bear the burden of the parents heaviest expectations and also of the parents’ inexperience in raising children. Second or third children are generally treated in a more relaxed way by the parents. Youngest children often have a more difficult transition to adulthood.
OLDEST CHILD Usually set up as an example to the other children. Treated more like an adult by his/her parents. A high achiever. Given and accepts more responsibility than the other children. Usually college-bound. Independent. Affectionate.
MIDDLE CHILDMay work extra-hard to get recognition.Is usually a peacemaker.Is somewhat average in schoolwork, but is an all-around good student.Is usually a calm, even-tempered adult.
YOUNGEST CHILD Gets a lot of attention, along with a lot of bossing. May be spoiled. Usually matures quickly. May be undisciplined and irresponsible. Is easy -going about school. Likes to associate with someone who takes charge of situations.
ONLY CHILDFirstborns in triplicateEven more responsibleEven bigger perfectionistsUsually get along better with people older than themselves .
TIPS FOR OLDEST CHILD Don’t overextend yourself Learn to say no--- you can’t do everything Don’t expect so much from yourself. You don’t have to be perfect. Don’t be afraid of being a detail person Take problem solving step -by -step Even though you may not like to be an example, with younger siblings you generally are. Don’t let others pressure you into making decisions. Take your time. Try to develop a sense of humor and laugh at your mistakes. Never apologize for being conscientious or over organized.
TIPS FOR THE MIDDLE CHILD Use your people skills to see both sides of issues and deal with life as it really is. If you are a free spirit, fight to keep your unique qualities. Middle children grow up thinking that no one ever listened to them and they never had a chance to express their ideas. Share your ideas! Enjoy your many friends, but don’t spread yourself too thin. Don’t compare yourself to others —just be you! Don’t think only firstborns are leaders; you understand, negotiate, and compromise. Try being a leader!
TIPS FOR THE YOUNGEST CHILD Accept responsibility for yourself! Many last borns are messy; learn to pick up af ter yourself. Choose jobs where you interact with people because you will do well! Be less self-centered and of fer to help others. Don’t blame others if you’re the one who really caused the situation. Your gift of humor will be an asset; use it correctly. Give others a chance to share the limelight. Concentrate on asking others about them! Lastborns tend to be the most compatible.
TIPS FOR ONLY CHILDREN Be able to enjoy your parents, all their attention is going to be on you so instead of fighting them enjoy it. Bring friends home and have them meet your parents. Don’t think you need to control everything, remember you are a child and you don’t have control over everything. Remind yourself that it’s okay to be young!
SIBLING RELATIONSHIP BANK ACCOUNT What are some deposits into the relationship bank account? What are some withdrawals from the relationship bank account?
SIBLINGS Brothers and sisters in a family. Can be the best of friends or worst of enemies. Why would these be? Give some examples. I KNOW YOU HAVE THEM!!
SIBLING RIVALRY Competition between brothers and sisters. Usually created by jealous feelings as they compete for their parents’ love and attention or other things. Are there times where you feel like your parents love your siblings more?
Friends may come and go, but our siblings are always our siblings.