RELATIONSHIPS• Relationship: a bond or connection you have with other people • Acquaintance • Casual Friend • Friend • Best Friend • Boyfriend/Girlfriend • Marriage • Family • Parent • Child • Sibling
ACCORDING TO ABRAHAM MASLOW…• Everyone needs to be loved and to belong.• Each of us also needs to feel safe, secure, valued, and recognized.• Relationships provide these basic human needs
HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS CAN…• Help you become a better person• Give you someone to talk to when you’re having problems• Help relieve stress• Make life more enjoyable
ROLES• Role: a part you play in many relationships
BRAD PITT VIDEO CLIPS• Brad Pitt is just one person, but he has played many different roles. Is that true for all of us?• Do we all play different roles in the relationships we have throughout our lives?• Do the roles we play ever change?
INGREDIENTS FOR A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP • Self Respect • Respect for Others
RESPECT FOR OTHERS• Listen to other people• Be considerate of other’s feelings• Develop mutual trust• Be realistic in your expectations
TRAITS OF HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS• Mutual Respect • Treat others with respect, they’ll respect you in return• Caring • Treat others with kindness and consideration. • Be empathetic• Honesty • Honest and open with others, rather than concealing thoughts, feelings or actions• Commitment • Contribute to the relationship and work to keep it strong, may require sacrifices.
CHARACTER AND RELATIONSHIPS• Trustworthiness: • Caring: • Doing what you say • Sympathy, empathy you will do • Citizenship:• Responsibility: • Helping neighbors, • borrow something shoveling walks etc. breaks you replace it. • Respect:• Fairness: • Listen when someone • -taking turns, sharing is talking,
UNHEALTHY BEHAVIORSStereotyping: making an exaggerated or oversimplified judgments about people who belong to a certain group.Prejudice: an unfair opinion or judgment of a particular group of people.Bullying: deliberately harming or threatening other people who cannot easily defend themselves.Hazing: making others perform certain tasks in order to join the group.
SKILLS FOR A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP• Communication • Exchange of thoughts, feelings, and beliefs between two or more people.• Cooperation • Working together for the good of all• Compromise • Problem-solving method in which each participant gives up something to reach a solution that satisfies everyone. • Parents Cooperation/Compromise Challenge
RELATIONSHIP BANK ACCOUNT We have a different bank account with every person we have a relationship with. The quality of our relationships depends on how many deposits and withdrawals we make in each account. When there are significant “funds” in our bank accounts, an occasional withdrawal will not damage the relationship. Minimize withdrawals and make generous deposits on a regular basis. Activity