LOVELESS TEXT #1• Dear Tom, I don’t know how to say this to your face, so I’lljust come out and say it in this text. I can’t tell youwhy, but I don’t want to go out with you anymore. Ijust can’t explain how I feel, and if I call you, youmight talk me out of this. I really don’t see any hopefor us.
LOVELESS TEXT #2• Hey Tiffany! I’m in History listening to Mr. Hall ramble on. Didyou have work last night? I worked on my dad’s carand watched a movie. Well, I guess I’d better tellyou, I think we could see other people and not betied done. Okay? See you later.
LOVELESS TEXT #3• Cory, This is hard for me to write, because I careabout you a lot, but I need to share my feelings withyou. For the past few weeks, things haven’t beenvery good between us. It seems like we don’t enjoyeach other’s company as much and we thinkdifferently on a lot of important issues. I think it mightbe best for us to try seeing others for a few weeksand see how we feel then. We have had a lot ofgood times and while I’ll miss them, I don’t want us tokeep on and risk ending up hating each other. Callme letter and let me know how you feel.
HOW TO BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE• Do not do it over text, Facebook, email, etc.• Stick to the facts• Don’t be mean or say hurtful things• Walk away if emotions run to high• Cut off communication
WHY DO PEOPLE BREAK UP?• What leads to break ups?
FEELINGS AFTER BREAKUP• Depression• Loneliness• Living in the past• Anger• Out of control feelings and actions• Hurting yourself or another
DEPRESSION• Feeling sad all the time• Can’t keep your mind on one thing• Trouble sleeping• Self doubts• Cry or feel like crying
LONELINESS• You feel alone and like nobody understands• Feels like you are in a fog
LIVING IN THE PAST• Play “your song” over and over• Read old notes and look at old photos• Go out of your way to go places to bring back memories
ANGER• Mad at: • ex love for dropping you, • yourself for getting hurt, • the whole world because it’s in your way • Your family because they may ask you what is wrong
OUT OF CONTROL FEELINGS AND ACTIONS:• When your anger towards your ex-love turns harmful, you are out of control.• Revenge, spreading rumors or hurtful gossip, harassment of trying to hurt yourself for attention, are signs that your feelings are out of control
HURTING YOURSELF OR ANOTHER• Violent feelings cause the pain you feel is so strong• Thinking of suicide to “get even”• If you are ever so upset that you want to hurt yourself or another, you must get help right away.
BREAKING UP STORY
HEALTHY WAYS TO DEAL WITH A BREAK UP• Let your pain out• Reconnect with friends• Celebrate your self-worth• Exercise
REMINDER• Breakups are natural and will happen. Group dating eliminates having to go through it all the time, but it will happen at some point in your life. Learning ways to break up with someone gracefully and being able to cope with being “dumped” will help you remain constant in your life.