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  • Share Report Abuse Next Blog» Create Blog Sign In How to make money on FacebookHome Making money with Facebook Chapter One Internet Advertising and marketingChapters1 continue World wide web Promoting CHAPTERS 1 CONTINUE Social NetworkChapters 1 concludes future of social media Chapters 2 what is Facebook Chapters 2 what is viral advertising?Facebook demonic possession dangers of Farmville,P... ULTIMATE FACEBOOK PICK UP GUIDEMaking $500 a day with a Facebook fan page FRIDAY, 20 JANUARY 2012 FOLLOWERS 50 hottest tips to online dating BLOG ARCHIVE COULD SOMEONE REALLY MAKE $680-$1887.89 MONTHLY PART TIME WORKING 1 ▼ 2012 (1) ▼ HOUR A DAY DOING ONLINE SURVEYS? CLICK HERE TO SEE PROOF IN HOW IT ▼ January (1) ▼ CAN BE DONE BY YOU TOO. ▼ Jan 20 (1) ▼ 50 hottest tips to online dating ► 2011 (5) ► ABOUT ME Making money with facebook View my complete profile 50 Hottest Tips To Online Dating converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comBless your beautiful hideWherever you may beWe haven’t met yetBut I’m willing to betThat you’re the one for me!And so goes the song from the Hollywood classic ofyesteryears, ‘Seven Brides for Seven Brothers’ and thissong is precisely what online dating is. Online dating is in,in, in! Gone are the days when mothers used to escorttheir daughters to ball room dances and help themchoose partners from the boys.That was something that passed into oblivion withthe last century or even earlier than that. In those dayssingle people met at parties and other social gatheringsand had to choose partners judging just by outerappearances, a very superficial choice indeed! Nowadaysthanks to the Internet, the outward appearance hasbecome the last criterion for selection.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comWhy You Need To Know More...But wait! Online dating is not all fun and gamesand there are a lot of things that a person has to knowabout Online dating before one gets into the intricacies ofit. Online dating may seem to be the simplest thing in theworld but it is not. It should be viewed in all earnestnessor things could go hay wire. Every game has its rules andunless you know all the rules you just can’t become agood player and eventually a winner.Tastes DifferPeople! There are so many kinds around. Just lookaround you, how many people you know look the same?Sizes, builds, shapes, features, they are all so different.And that is just about the external appearances. Andwhen it comes to character, it becomes a very differentstory altogether. Take a trip down memory lane, go backto your class rooms and take a look around.A class room is one place where we get to interactwith a lot of different people on a very close basis. We getto rub shoulders and corners with very different peopleand we get to know them on a one to one basis. So howmany of your class mates did you genuinely like?Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comI don’t mean like them as class mates but aspeople. Was it easy to get along with all of them? That iswhy we often end up with best friends or clichés in classrooms.We do not and do not have to like every body. Thetastes and interests of one person might match with ourswhile the tastes and interests of another person may beat complete logger heads with ours. converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • So when it comes to dating, it is very much thesame story. But over here there are some stringsattached. Unlike in a class room contact, most people goon dates with a more impressive purpose, and that is tofind life mate. There are a hundred and one things thatshould match before two people decide to spend the restof their lives with each other.Many people are of the opinion that they do notneed any help with dating. They may be right because nobody knows a person’s tastes and likes better than theperson himself or herself.Maybe most of us do not need any help in makingthe right choice but isn’t it good to get a few pointers onthe dating process as such, particularly on Online dating?It is with this objective that this matter was prepared sothat the thousands who are now availing of Internetdating may get the best out of it.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comReading This BookI understand that most of my readers are verybusy people who do not have too much time to spendreading an instruction manual. So I have come up withsomething that requires just a single glance to get thegist of it. At the most you might require 10-15 fifteenminutes to run your eyes along the entire length of thisbook. It’s that simple. But at the same time, do not letthe simplicity mislead you. It is indeed a verycomprehensive work that aims to leave no stonesunturned.You can either use this book as a general guidelineto streamline your match hunting venture, or you cankeep coming back to it to make sure of every step beforeyou actually put your foot forward. I can promise you thatif you use this book to guide you, there is no need to fearat all…you just won’t stumble.What Makes Online Dating So Different?We, human beings have been in this world for somany thousands of years. And since the beginning peoplehave been choosing partners. Cultures across the worldare very different and we can come across so manydifferent ways in which people choose their life mates.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comBut the concept of finding a life partner with thehelp of the Internet is a fairly recent concept whencompared with the history of man kind as such. Of coursethe internet and computers have influenced man’s life somuch that it is no surprise that in the matters of finding asuitable partner too, the Internet has made its presencefelt.Online dating is, to put is very simply or flatly,finding a partner with the help of a machine namely thecomputer via the Internet. That itself makes the idea andthe process a very novel one indeed, Hundreds of happypeople across the globe have been successful in findingsuitable partners by the means of Online dating.But to be frank with you, a lot of not-so-luckypersons have been goofed and jilted by the same process. converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • So in order to make sure that you find a place in the firstlist let us go into the details of Online dating.The Magic of the InternetEverything that applies to the Internet, applies toOnline dating as well. The Internet as we know allows forunlimited possibilities in communication, and it is thisfeature that has proved to be at the same time thebiggest boon, as well as bane for Online dating.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comPeople can start from scratch and get to knoweverything about each other before the actual meetingtakes place. Tastes and preferences, likes and dislikes,interests and obsessions can be discussed on a one toone basis so that when the meeting actually takes placethese two people are not in the least strangers to eachother. Wonderful, isn’t it?But at the same time this possibility for unlimitedcommunication leaves a lot of space for guile as well. Thehuman race is endowed with a remarkable ability to use,misuse and abuse the same thing. And naturally, Onlinedating too has been and is still being used for vilepurposes.The person who is misusing this facility may eitherbe a practical joker or may be someone with moredevious intentions who is out to get some victims. It isbecause of this reason that a little bit of home work isgood before you actually hit the road.But you do not have to worry, the home work hasalready been painstakingly done for you and all you haveto do is run your eyes along the following lines and youwill be all set to strike gold.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comHow Did Online DatingBecome So Popular?The reason is pretty simple. It is very much thesame reason that the internet itself became so popular.The Internet opens up a whole new world ofcommunication and contact. And the reasons for this aregiven below.· SpeedTry to picture what used to happen earlier in thedays when people had to depend on the good ol’postal system. During those days, a person had towait for one or two days for a letter to get acrossto a person who lived in the same state itself. Thesecond person in turn would take one or two daysto respond and this letter would take on or twodays to get back to the first person.So in effect, a single correspondence would stretchover a week. But now it’s a totally different story.The time taken for the first letter and the responsehas been brought to an amazing 2 minutes! converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • Waiting may make the heart grow fonder but e-mail makes two people get close faster!Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.com· PrivacyThe Internet provides for absolute privacy too. Onecan carry out communication with another personin the absolute privacy of one’s bedroom or bathroom or wherever one chooses to be. There is nofear of eavesdropping (ugh) or over hearing(shudder!) thanks to e-mail and chat facilities.· Options and OpportunitiesThe Internet provides for other options like voicechat or video conferencing and stops short only ofthe physical touch. But then who would want tostart a relationship by touching right away?You can see a person, talk to a person, and listento the person’s voice, can you think of a better wayto start a date?· EconomyAll this and more is possible thanks to the internetand the best part is that all this comes to you forpeanuts.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comAll you need is a P.C (who doesn’t have one?) andan Internet Connection (how can anybody livewithout one) and you are all set. The only thingmore you could ask for is a step by step guide tofind your dream date…well here it is!So what are we waiting for?Be Clear About What You WantWe all know that man is a social being. Howeverman is also a lonely being. (And when we say man, wemean women too). Man longs for company.Company not just from friends and the family, butfrom that special person with whom he or she can sharethose sweet nothings, those simple pleasures and pains,someone with whom he or she can build a whole new life,someone with whom he or she can raise a family of his orher own.Now this is a fundamental need of man: to find alife mate. And the most popular method used for this isdating. When we talk about dating in the very finestsense of the word, please understand that dating is not tobe viewed as a precursor for sleeping together. It is muchmore than that. It is the first step towards choosing a lifepartner and online dating has made the whole process alot simpler now.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comMarriage Versus A Casual RelationshipNow what you do and what you want is entirely converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • your business. I don’t want to sound nosey but I wouldlike to draw a fine line between the kind of dating that isinvolved in these two quests.Of course we are all grown up and so let us act likegrown ups. Obviously in a casual relationship we arelooking for fun. And mind you, fun can have a lot ofconnotations. So here the object of one’s desire willobviously be a person who is not inclined towards aserious relationship.If both parties are of the same view then it is welland good because they understand each other perfectlyand do not expect much from such a relationship. Thisleaves no room for heartbreak.It is when one party is in for something moreserious and the other party is into sheer frivolousnessthat the problems start. So you should be absolutely clearabout what you are looking for from the start, and youshould make your intentions very clear to the otherperson.At the same time you should have no doubts aboutthe intentions of the other person as well. Remember,even if it is a casual relationship, there should be mutualunderstanding at least about the nature of therelationship.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comOf course, there is yet another possibility where acasual relationship can blossom into something moreserious. But, again in such cases it is your instincts thatcan help you identify what is good and what is bad.No matter how strong a person is, anyone can betaken for a ride or be taken for granted. Being jilted isnever a nice experience. So those of you who are going infor a casual relationship, for heavens sake, be on yourguard! Marriage is altogether a different story but we willdeal with that later.Dating Comes From a Fundamental NeedLet’s face it, of course sex is important, but sex isby far not the most important reason for dating.Maybe during the age of thoughtless youth, whennew hormones are being pumped in and out, sex is onevery one’s mind. But as one matures (mind you thatdoes not mean growing old and gray) sex takes the backseat and mutual support, likes and dislikes, cooperation,caring and sharing come to the forefront. We startthinking about building up a world of our own and weneed someone to share it with, and not just someone tosleep with.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comSex is a fundamental need of every human being.We all have it in us to give and receive physical pleasure.But when you sit and think about it for a minute, you cansee that this urge is actually the result of another urge.There is a more primary urge in every human beingto breed and produce offspring, and it is this urge thatgives rise to such a powerful sexual desire. But whateverbe the urge, the most dignified means to satisfy it is converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • dating.Nobody, not one of us, is complete without apartner; and it is to satisfy this need that people date.Because of this, the rest of this manual will be dedicatednot to finding the right sex partner, but to finding theright life partner.Online Dating Is Here To StayLet’s accept the fact that dating couldn’t really getbetter. Online dating is THE real thing. Let’s compare itto the old system of evening balls or social gatherings.Imagine you are this big gathering where there are a lotof men and women looking out for suitable partners.Suppose you bump into one or two people withwhom you seem to strike an immediate rapport. You arethen able to take this person out onto a balcony with justthe moon to keep an eye on you.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comYou get to talk to this person for hours and hours;just talk and nothing else. You get to discuss likes anddislikes and finally when it is time to part you leave with apromise to meet on a following day at an equallyenjoyable spot. These talks go on for days and weeks andfinally you decide that this indeed is the THE person withwhom you want to spend the rest of your life with.Then of course you start meeting in more openplaces, you hold hands and even kiss. You begin to goout for lunch and dinner and spend even more intimatetime together. When the moment is right and yourdecision is made, it then becomes time for you to say, “Ido.”Sigh! It sounds like a nice fairy tale, doesn’t it?Well it needn’t be. It could be your own love storybecause the concept of online dating is just what hasbeen described above. If you click the right buttonseverything could work out fine for you and we haveevidence to prove it. Just take a look at the figures givenbelow and you can behold for yourself what a universalphenomenon online dating has already become.As I mentioned earlier, one of the best things aboutonline dating is that it affords a lot of privacy. You canchat for hours, video conference, or do whatever it is youcare to do without arousing the interest of others orattracting the wrong kind of attention. All you need is acomputer and Internet access everything becomes asdiscreet as can be.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comBut along with that, may I add that we need a littlebit of common sense as well or else we might findourselves within the clutches of many lurid monsterslurking out there.Another good thing about online dating is that itsaves a lot of money which otherwise you would have hadto splurge each time you took someone out on a date. Itis because of these reasons and many more personalreasons that thousands of people find online dating to bea great convenience. converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • Online Dating:How To Get The Most Out Of ItMany people who decide to give online dating a tryoften end up with their hair singed and fingers burnt.The reason we decided to put together such amanual is that online dating is not as simple as it looks.You need to know how to go about it in order to get thebest out of it. Most people do not like to take chances andwhen it comes to finding a life partner people do not wantto take chances at all.But you can relax for through this manual we willbe dealing with all the do’s and the don’ts and so thewhole process will be quite easy and enjoyable to you.This manual will provide you with step by stepinstructions on how to being online dating.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comWe have no doubts about the decision makingabilities of our readers and so we do not propose to give alot of advice on the issue. Our purpose is simply toprovide a couple of guidelines which we hope our readerswill find valuable as they proceed in the attempt to findthe perfect partner.Step 1: Getting StartedOnly fools rush in where angels fear to tread.It is always best to approach unfamiliar territorywith caution. You need to plan before you actually go outthere and start dealing your cards. Be sure about yourselfand be sure about what you want. Just because anyoneand everyone can type out whatever they want in a chatroom doesn’t mean that we have to do the same.The Internet has a wonderful quality of beingaccessible to every one. But this same quality attracts allkinds of people into it. But just because a lot of peoplewho enter a chat room have only dirt on their minds, itdoesn’t mean that everyone is like that. If you stick to theclass that you have and maintain your poise, you canindeed get the right kind of response.There are a lot of nice people using the Internet,but it all depends on what you do.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comDo onto others what you want them to do to you isthe golden rule that applies here. There are no rules forthe game. All are players out there. But just becauseothers are ruffians, it doesn’t mean that you have to beone too. Your approach is the only thing that can get youthe kind of response that you want.I don’t think that it is very sensible to decide all ofthe sudden that you would like to use the Internet to geta date. By just entering a chat room and saying “I’mavailable” you are merely putting yourself up for sale, andwill most likely not get the results you desire.One point that all of us have to understand is thatin a chat room, all are equal. Do not go by themisconception that entering a chat room is like saunteringinto a ball room dressed in your best. Then everyone converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • turns to stare at you and the most eligible person (readthat as the sexiest person of the opposite sex) catchesyour eye and makes his or her way towards you.That kind of thing happens only on James Bondmovies and we all know that James Bond never goes infor a serious relationship. It’s all fun and games for him.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comWhere Do You Start?The first tip we would like to give you is NOT to gostraight away into a singles’ chat room and try to findsomebody who would interest you. All of us know thatmost of such chat rooms are virtually flooded with peoplewho have only one thing on their mind -sex. So, nomatter what you ask for, it always ends up in that and thepurpose is defeated. You will never get the kind of personwho kind of matches your interests and tastes.Sometimes it can really get quite infuriating.Everything starts off well. You are having a niceconversation with a person and warming up when all ofthe sudden, the topic moves towards the three letterword. The you let out a sigh and either have to barmessages from that person and risk the person badmouthing you in a public chat room. Usually you have toleave the chat room all together.In other words, it is the easiest thing to getsomeone to sleep with you but if you are looking forsomething more enduring, like a partner for life, then youare going to have to be a little more patient. The pick ofthe litter is not easy to find. But you do find it; it is goingto be worth the effort.So instead of going into a singles’ chat room, whatyou could do is, you could try the whole thing out from adifferent angle. You could try working backwards.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comMore Than LooksSit for a minute or two and try and think about thethings that interest you and things that you would findinteresting in a person.By ‘things’ over here I am not referring to physicalattributes. I am not referring to something that mightinterest you in a person’s physical appearance. Again thedistinction has to be drawn between a serious relationshipand a casual relationship. In a casual relationship, theimportance is always for the physical attributes. We aremore concerned with what the person looks like and whatthe person has been endowed with.On the other hand, if we have a seriousrelationship, then the physical qualities are not soimportant. Compatibility is probably the most importantfactor over here. Along with that there are certainqualities that obviously we will be looking out for. We aretalking about qualities of the mind. After all, beauty isonly skin deep!This idea might sound strange, but it is actuallytrue. The idea is that it is possible to grow to like thelooks of a person. Once you find the character of the converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • person agreeable you will start liking the person as awhole. It is entirely possible to fall in love with a person ifthe person does not look like a movie star. That is one ofthe tricks that nature plays.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comThere are many people who insist on taking a lookat the other person’s picture before actually committingto a relationship. They might have their reasons ofcourse, but I, for one, feel that such a decision basedlargely on looks is more suitable for a casual relationship.It is bound to sizzle off after some time. After all, howlong can you keep staring at a person? And what happensif the person doesn’t stare back at you?Or even worse, what happens if you find the personstaring at another person? Looks may be important, butthey certainly are not the most important thing andshould never be used as the deciding factor if you arethinking about a serious relationship.Common InterestsA human being is not like a piece of glass thoughwhich you can look and see the other side. A humanbeing is more like a diamond, which when held againstlight reflects and deflects light so that a myriad of colorsare seen. We’re complex.We have a lot of interest and the interests of oneperson need not match with the interests of another. Butthankfully the interests are not as numerous as humanbeings. So we are bound to find a lot of people who shareour interests.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comAnd if we can find someone like that, then oursearch should end there. So, what are your interests?That is something for you to find out.Mind you, you might have to do some seriousthinking before you level down you preferences. Theremight be a lot of things that you enjoy doing but aboutwhich you have given a second thought.Your interests could be something like sports oroutdoor activities. Or you could think of interests likesocial work or cross-words or religious interests. Keep theball rolling; please understand that the words I havelisted here are mere suggestions.Your tastes and interests could be very different.So let them be. And once you have decided on what yourinterests are then half the story is done.What Interests You In A Person?This is probably the more important part of thestory. Each one of us has to sit and think about what wewould like in another person. Having the same interestsdoesn’t necessarily mean that you can get along with aperson.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.com converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • For example, if you a person who likes to talk a lot,it doesn’t mean that you could like another person wholikes to talk a lot as well. If two people try to keep talkingat the same time then obviously, there cannot be anydialogue.So also, if you are the silent reserved type and theother person too is the silent reserved type, the there willhardly be any dialogue at all! The word over here is“compatible.” The interests of partners shouldcomplement each other and not clash.Key Word SearchesSo now that you have decided what is it thatinterests you in a person and what your interests andtastes are, try such key word searches on a search enginelike Google.The idea over here is not to advertise yourself as aperson who is in search of a life partner. No matter howwell you put it, it looses that touch of subtlety once youare in a singles’ chat room. So don’t do it that way. Youremember how we spoke about working backwards; thisis how it is done.We will tell you how to project yourself best in alater chapter but for now let us talk about finding Mr.Right or Ms. Right.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comAn interesting thing to be noted here is that it isnot difficult to fall in love with a person or to make achoice. The difficult part is to make the right choice andto fall in love with the right person.Likes Versus DislikesThe second thing that you could do is chalk out alist of qualities that you genuinely dislike in a person. YesI am not joking! Dislikes are just as important, or evenmore important than likes. We all have to makecompromises here and there, but if we start away bycondoning things which we genuinely dislike, it is going totell on the relationship at sometime or the other.I would like to give a word of caution over here. Alot of people make a mistake when they are courting.They put up their best behavior which is very good ofcourse, but they try to be very adjusting andaccommodating which is NOT very good. A point that theytend to over look is that they are not going to be going ona camping trip with this person that they are trying toimpress; they are going to be living the rest of their liveswith the person.So it is best not to be very “oh so veryaccommodating and adjusting.”Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comYou can afford to stick to things that you are veryparticular about. And if you have any thoughts that youwill be able to mold the person out of his or her offendinghabits at a later date, forget it.The moment you start trying to mold or cajole the converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • person out of his or her habits, whatever they may be,the word becomes ‘nagging’ and if at all the person doesdrop the habit, he or she will love you less for it.It really doesn’t work that way. So it’s best to havea clear idea about qualities and habits that you genuinelydislike in a person and steer clear of the ‘lesser mortals’who have those habits.Once you have a fairly clear idea about your likesand dislikes you are in a better position to make the rightchoice. And considering the multitude of people out there,you do not have to worry or be over anxious that you justmight not find any one at all. He or she is out there, andif you are doing what you are doing right, namely barkingup the right tree you will succeed.There are some people who even believe that everything is ordained. It has been written down who shouldmarry who and in the end only that which should happenwill happen. Well, I don’t know about that, but I do knowthat dating helps speed up the process.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comAnother thing that you could do is that you couldjust let nature take its course. Oh nature has itswonderful ways. There is a lot of chemistry involved inthe selection of partner so maybe the best thing we coulddo is lend nature a helping hand.Friends FirstTry to look at this endeavor not as a prospectivehusband/wife hunt but as an effort to make a lot offriends, and I mean good friends. Friends that you canlaugh aloud with, friends who make you laugh. Noteveryone can make us laugh, and when I say laugh, I amnot referring to some comedian. We are talking aboutfriends here.It really does pay to have a lot of friends. It makesones life richer. The best thing about friends is that youcan be yourself with them. And they too can bethemselves with you. And that means letting it all out. Wemust remember that apart from being the dutiful husbandor wife, your spouse should be your best friend as well.That is one mistake that most couples make. Theytend to look upon their friends and their spouses asseparate. While it is perfectly ok to have your ownfriends, your best friend should always be your husbandor wife.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comIt should be someone you can share your dreamsand fears with, someone who understands, someone whocan give your hand a gentle squeeze when things gowrong and someone who can brighten up your darkestday.All this is a very far cry from sex right? That is whywe did mention earlier that looks and sex should be thelast criteria in the selection of a life partner. The marriageproposal must come as a natural sequence and it shouldby no means be the first thing that comes out as soon asyou warm up to a person. You cannot very well saysomething like, “hey, you know what, I think we have the converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • same tastes so let’s get married.”You can say that of course but it would not be invery good taste. So what do you do if you discover thatone of the friends that you made and the one who youwere keeping your fingers crossed about is alreadymarried?Do you have a car? Then the answer is simple, justrun over that person’s spouse and remove the unwantedelement, right? Wrong! It is just not done. You can still befriends with that person and shift your attention towardsanother direction. Who knows, you might even find abetter person. All you have to do is shuffle your cards anddeal them out again.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comI hope you have got the hang of what we meant byworking backwards now? Good. There is another catchinvolved in this process. There is a chance that one of thefriends that you made may have read this book too andmaybe the proposal may come from the other end. If itdoes, then well and good; for it saves you the ritual.Mr. Right and Ms. WrongBut then, what if the person who proposes to youwasn’t really what you had in mind? Well, the choice isyours of course; you can take it or leave it. But there is apoint worth considering over here. If we can findsomeone that we love that is good, but if we find someone who loves us, isn’t that better?But I would also like to add a word over here.Suppose some one does come and propose to you butunfortunately, you are not in the least interested? Youhave every right to turn the proposal down but please doit gracefully. There is no need to hurt the other person’sego. This person is obviously a friend of yours, and surelyyou care deeply for them. However, if you know that youcannot marry this person, a turned-down proposal isbetter than a divorce. Try to explain your feelings in thegentlest way possibleNumber 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comStep 2: Making Yourself Look LikeAMillion DollarsNobody is perfect in this world but that does notmean that we cannot try to look our best. There isabsolutely nothing wrong in giving nature a helping hand.Work on your image, work on your profile, and work onyour appearance.Many people go by the philosophy, “this is me,whether you like it or not it’s your problem. I am notgoing to change.” Well, nobody is asking you to change,but what are you trying to do? Scare people off?Well, the fact is, such statements are just amanifestation of your own insecurity. We all have acertain degree of insecurity, some people more thanothers. It is this insecurity that makes us sound gruff anduncaring when it comes to improving our appearances. converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • Come on, what are you afraid of? I’ll give you a tip.Whatever you are afraid of, others are afraid of the samething. In this world, most people are neither for us noragainst us. They are thinking about themselves.Presenting oneself is an area that requires a lot ofwork, but surprisingly, this is the one area which peopletend to neglect the most.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comMost of us have a laid back attitude when it comesto painting a picture about ourselves. When it comes topresenting yourself we really have some work to do.If we knew you on a more personal basis we wouldhave loved to help you to chalk out a profile of your selfthat would be as impressive as possible. But of course, itis impossible to know all our readers on a one to onebasis.But you do not have to worry because we havedone a lot of study in this regard and once you follow ourdirections, you can indeed come up with that dreamprofile.The Dream ProfileOne cannot take too much effort in preparing aprofile. It is something that should be viewed in allseriousness. Please do not treat the subject lightly.Imagine that you are preparing for a job; won’t youspend a lot of time getting your resume ready?Well, most of us take up jobs for how long, four orfive years? And how about a relationship, definitely we donot embark on a relationship with the expectation that itwould last for just a couple of years.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comWe have to understand that a relationship is reallyworth much more than a job, because it is probably themost important decision in your life. So now let us discussways in which you can spruce up your profile.You can of course get a professional to do the jobfor you since it saves you the effort. You may have todish out a small amount of course, but it could be worthit. There are many people who have qualms aboutincluding a picture in the profile. Well, I don’t want topress the issue. It certainly does look better to have apicture in your profile, but due to privacy issues you canrefrain from including a picture.The best thing you could do is once you arecomfortable chatting with a person and are convincedthat this person does not have any devious intentions,you could send your picture over as an attachment or afile. But this, too, is best done a mutual exchange basis.It would be unfair if you know what the other personlooks like but the other person is kept in the dark andvice versa.The Face In The MirrorNow, coming to the picture as such, if you aresending over a picture of yourself, for heavens sake, sendover a decent picture. converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comIt should be a recent one and please do not makeany compromises about the quality. Get a professional todo the job for you and with the digital techniques oftoday, they can do a very impressive job.At the same time do work on your expressionbefore the photograph is taken. Stand in front of yourmirror and try out various expressions till you getsomething that you think is the best for you. Andremember that it has to be a picture of you smiling. Youshould not have the classic hang dog expression, or the“butter-will-not-melt-in-my-mouth expression”. Smile, itcosts you nothing and it really lights up a person’s face.Now, the first thing that you should do is take out apencil and paper and write down the raw details aboutyourself. By raw details we are referring to things like youage, your height and your weight.This is the skeleton of which we are going to workon. And when we have added enough flesh and blood tothis back bone, why even you will be impressed by yourprofile! But first let us steer clear of certain pit falls intowhich most people fall.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comThe Modesty PitfallMost of us have been trained to be very modest.When it comes to saying something good about ourselves we feel very queasy about blowing our owntrumpet. Right, no body is asking you to do any trumpetblowing but facts have to be stated as facts.If you are a music lover and have a good voice too,I can’t see why you can’t put it down like that itself. Whycan’t you declare simply without sounding very proud thatyou have good voice? A pointer that you could bear inmind would be to add something like, “My friends thinkthat I sing rather well.”There now, you can’t feel too bad about somethingas simple as that. It is as good as saying “some peoplethink that I sing well, but it is for you to decide whether Ihave a good voice or not.” Similar statements that youcan work on and even add are given below.“Lots of people appreciate my cooking.”“I am no Rembrandt, but I enjoy painting.”“I like decorating, and many of my friends thinkthat my tastes are not too bad.”So go ahead, if you really have a talent, you mightas well as let others know about it, after all a talentedperson would any way like to be appreciated by a partner.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comWhile we are talking about modesty, there is one converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • question that I want to address right now. It is somethingthat all of us are familiar with. If you have chatted with astranger with whom you are trying to build a rapport youmust have been confronted with the question before. Thequestion is “what do you look like?’I have often wondered about the sense of thisquestion. The best answers that I could come up with are“I look like a cross between an orangutan and aTasmanian devil” or “I have my mothers teeth, myfathers nose, my uncle’s eyes and my roommates’ shoes.”But of course we cannot give such answers whichfunny though they might sound, might just rub theperson in the wrong way. What the person actually meansis, “are you good looking or not?”A very tricky question indeed! How can you answersuch a question with out sounding either super modest orextremely vain? The answer to that is not to tell them theanswer directly. You can say something like:“I am as fresh as peppermint.”“I look like a bunch of fresh lilies.”“I have the appeal of a bowl of fresh fruit.”If the person still does not take the hint, then give them adetailed description of ever inch and let he or she decidefor himself or herself.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comThe Braggart PitfallBragging, as we all know, is a major turnoff. So itis best to steer completely clear of it. This is especiallytrue in the case of physical attributes. You might be onehell of a looker, but let the other person decide,remember that what wine is for Peter can turn of to bevenom for Paul.You can make implied statements like, “I amcertainly not a bad looker,” or “opinion is divided, somepeople think that I am good looking while others thinkthat I am not.” But perhaps the best way of describingyourself would be to add a touch of humor to it.If you are chubby you could say something like, “I amround in all the right places…I hope.” If you are tall youcould say something like, “some say I should playbasketball.” If you are on the short side you could saysomething like, “I might seem to lacking in size but Iassure you, it is all there.”You know what is the best part about such wittyremarks about oneself? Humor always works. All of ushave been blessed with a sense of humor to some degreeat least and if a person is able to make funny commentsabout himself or herself, that always acts as a turn on.And you can take my word for it; humor sells like a billiondollars.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comThe Hackneyed PitfallWe have seen and heard other people describethemselves and these kind of descriptions sort of sink into converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • our heads. The moment some one asks us to describeourselves, we start off by using such hackneyed phrases.I think it is much better to completely steer clear ofhackneyed phrases. It makes us look like just anotherface in the crowd. Tell me, unless you have an identicaltwin, have you ever seen any one who looks exactly likeyou?Then why on earth should your description ofyourself sound like a banal organ that has been playedagain and again. Try to sound as original as you can.Make yourself sound interesting.Try to use as many similes and comparisons aspossible. If you are blonde, well don’t just say that youare blonde. You could descriptions like,“My hair is the color of freshly harvested hay.”If you are a brunette you could say something like“My hair color would make a raven blush.” If you havered hair, you could try something like, “My hair is like thesetting sun.”Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comAnother point that I would like to add is you do nothave to belittle yourself. Every coin has two sides and itall depends on the way you look at it. For example, if youhave dark skin, there is absolutely no reason to feel badabout it. It all depends on how you put it across. Youcould try expressions like, “If you like chocolate then youare going to love the color of my skin.” Or “My bodylooks like polished wood.”Remember, beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder,and it is left to you to convince the beholder. Most peopleare willing to believe what you tell them, provided you tellthem convincingly enough.The Boredom PitfallTry to make yourself sound as interesting aspossible. I mean it. If you are painting a self portrait youmight as well use the right colors. Before we leave ourhomes what do we do? We all spend at least five minutesin front of our mirrors in an attempt to make our selveslook as presentable and as impressive as possible.Well, the same thing applies to our profile. Removeall drab details about yourself that might be of no interestto the reader. If you job is something like editing journalson the etymology of words derived from ancient Aramaic,well, just say that you have an editing job.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comSimilarly try to bear in mind that anything can beput down in two ways. You can either make it interestingor boring; so work on it until you are sure that it will notbore a reader to death and the best test for this would beto hand it over to a close friend and ask that friend’sopinion. Nobody likes a bore so take all efforts not tosound like one.The Vagueness PitfallAt the same time what ever you put down aboutyourself must not be confusing. It just does not work to converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • put down a statement like, “while I am not really given tosports, nor am I considered to be an outdoor person, Ihave developed a passing interest in watching football,and have had my stints with Terra firma.”Phew! If, anything drives people away, statementslike this certainly do. For Heaven’s sake avoid phraseslike “I am different,” especially when you are talkingabout your appearance. The other person will in alllikelihood conjure up images of a three horned monster ora lion tailed monkey.Another example is when you use phrases like, “Idon’t play by the rules,” or “I am game for somethingnew.” These expressions can be hopelessly misleadingand it is the easiest thing in the world to add a sexualinnuendo to such an expression and that would be a sureshot method of biting off more than you can chew.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comNow that we have discussed the major pitfalls, letus go the real profile. The reason I said real profile is thatthe profile must indeed reflect the person you are.The Web of deceitWhile you might take some care to conceal youridentity it is best not to lie.Do not try to bluff your way through a relationshipbecause at sometime the whole thing might come out andas we all know, one lie leads to another and then beforeyou know it the whole relationship will crash. Be as honestand as frank as you can, taking care to conceal youridentity.Some one once said that a friend is some one whoknows all about you and loves you just the same. Sothere is no need to hide things about you. Of course youdo not have to tell the person every ghastly, gory detailabout yourself, but at the same time you do not have toconjure up stuff about you that just is not true.If at all you do paint a very rosy picture aboutyourself, including things that just are not true, or are farfetched exaggerations, and the other person does flip foryou, in reality you will be basking in another person’sglory. This picture you have painted is just not you.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comYour alter egoWhen you choose a handle to identify yourself by,you have to be sharp. Do not try to attract as manypartners as possible. After all, what are we looking for,quality or quantity? Try to attract only the kind of peopleyou are interested in and who would find you interesting.That is why we suggested that you use a handlethat better defines the kind of person you are. Do not tryto sound like a sex god or a sex goddess. If you are, letthe other person decide for him self or her self; (it ismuch better than having the person come up withstatements like “is it in yet?”) So steer clear of handleslike Megastud, Handsomehunk, Superbabe or Bedlover.Instead of that you could try handles that gives one converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • an immediate idea about the kind of person you are. Ifyou are an outdoor person use something like Natureguyor Naturegirl; if you are a music freak use something likeMusicman or Musicmaid. If you are into theatre and stufflike that you could choose a name like Theatreguy orTheatregirl.The point is to win over people who are interestedin the same stuff as you are. That of course increasesyour chances of gelling with the person.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comBrevity is keyAnother crucial thing about writing your profile isthat you should keep it as brief as possible. Nobody andthat means nobody wants to read through lines and linesof another person’s profile. If you make it so long windedthe person who is reading it will get the idea that you arethe kind of person who would love to keep on talkingabout yourself and instead of go on a date with you, thereader would rather curl up and die.But that doesn’t mean that you have to limit thewhole thing to just a few words. A too brief profile wouldsound as if you do not have time for all this, but you arejust doing it for the heck of it.The best style that you could use would be to be100% natural. Write your profile as you would describeyourself to a person directly. The conversation style hasthe widest appeal I might add. Make it simple and stayaway from big words and hackneyed expressions.You are UniqueThink about it for a minute. Look at yourself in themirror. Do you look like anyone else that you know? Weall look so different though essentially we have beenendowed with the same external characteristics, whichare one nose, one mouth, two eyes and two ears.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comSo in spite of having the same building blocks, ifwe can look so different why do we have to sound alike?Think about yourself in a different way. Do not justconsider your likes and dislikes when you are writing yourprofile, consider your endearing qualities as well.Endearing qualities, what are those?Those are those qualities which make you liked byothers. Of course, these are things that we never bother,about but maybe we should. So what I would suggestwould be to ask your best friends why they like you. Whoknows, their answers just might surprise you! But at leastyou will get an idea of what you can include in yourprofile.You could try out the following exercise tofind out what kind of a person you are. I won’t say thatthe results are absolutely fool proof but they certainlymight be interesting.The Animal TestWhich among the following animals do you identify withmost? converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • · A shark· A rabbit· A bear· A hen· A dog and finally· A catNumber 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.com•If you chose a shark, you are generally anaggressive kind of person who has no time forothers who are not up to the mark. You won’t thinktwice about slicing through those who stand in yourway and you have a very clear idea about what youwant and you know how to get it too.•If you chose a rabbit you are generally sweettempered but timid. You bend very easily. You liketo stay clear from the limelight as far as possibleand do not interfere much in the affairs of others.•If you chose the bear, you are a warm person bynature but not very sure about whether others likeyou. Hence you might go out of your way to winfriends and love reassuring others.•If you chose the hen, then you are one of thosepeople who constantly fuss about minor details.You keep your eyes open but you are verydependable though sometimes you might end uppoking your nose into things that do not concernyou.•If you chose the dog you are a happy go luckyperson. You are willing to help others but if you donot watch out, more than once you might be takenfor a ride. You do not bother about trifles but whenyou lose your head, it is really lost.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.com•Hmm, you chose the cat did you? Well you live in aworld of your own; you do not trouble others anddo not like others troubling you. In short you arevery much the modern apartment creature whoknows all the manners but uses them only to becivil.Now, the descriptions given here are just generalguide lines but I suppose that it does give you a cueabout how to write your own profile. You can do it byyourself. Think about the animal or bird that you likebest. Do not consider physical attributes but think oftraits or characteristics that you like.Then you can sit down and write a brief descriptionabout the animal and hey presto! Before you even knowit, your profile is ready but it would be a good idea todelete the name of the animal when you post your profile.There is something that I want all my readers tounderstand. Each one of us has something remarkableabout us. It is all a question of finding out what thosequalities are. Do not always believe what other peoplehave to say about you. Don’t you have something to sayabout yourself?Pretend as if you were talking to your best friend.Talk to yourself. If your best friend were to ask you what converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • his or her endearing qualities are then wouldn’t you bequick to reassure the person?Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comWell, the same thing applies to you as well. Youcan be your own best friend. And when you try out thisexercise on yourself, well, you have a list of your pluspoints ready. Common if you can do this to your friend,then you can do it to yourself as well.Such an exercise is very useful not just from thedating point of view but only if we understand what areour positive traits are, can we understand what kind of aperson we deserve to get. The same holds true about ournegative traits too, but then nobody is perfect.Step 3: Letting The RelationshipBlossomRight, so now we are as ready as we can be withour interests all chalked out and our profiles posted. It isperfect picture. It is almost like being seated alone at thisposh restaurant, dressed to kill, with a glass ofchampagne in one hand and the other hand swung overthe back of the chair. You have a smile on your lips, atwinkle in your eye and an invitation on your face.So what happens next? This person who appears tobe the perfect match for you catches your eye andsaunters towards you. Now what do you do? Pleaseremember that the description above was pertaining to avirtual environment.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comIn effect, what we meant is that while you spendtime idling in a chat room, this is the mood that you aregoing to generate.So what happens when a person takes the cue andstarts chatting? Well, that really is an intelligent question.I would like to make one thing straight over here. TheInternet is like any other highway. It is not safe until youget to know your way around. So what I would suggestwould be to trust your instincts and proceed with caution.You can sound like a very warm person but please beextremely cautious about giving out any personalinformation.Nicknames and Pet namesLet the other person know that you would prefer tobe known by the handle you use or even better, youcould tell the person to call you a pet name but let theperson know that it is indeed a pet name, because at alater date, if the relationship really blossoms it doesn’tlook nice if you have to say something like, “Gee, I’msorry, but my name isn’t really Janice, it is Heptullah, Iguess I lied to you.”The best thing in this case would be to let your selfbe known by the name of some celebrity.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.com converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • You could call yourself Cinderella or Pocahontas orArchie, or Betty or Veronica. The chatting has now begunand you can start exchanging information. Keep to thegeneral and stay away from the specific.Helping your MemoryThe human brain is indeed a remarkable thing. It iscapable of storing and processing such a wide range ofinformation that even a supercomputer would shy awaywhen compared to it. But due to the virtual explosion ofinformation, our memories have become very selective.This means that we cannot recollect everythingthat we hear or see. Do not trust your memory too muchwhen it comes to chatting over the net. You might meet alot of people over the net and you might chat with acouple of them. So eventually it might become difficult toremember all of them and their details as well.Or even worse than that is that you might becomeconfused and mix up details. It would look bad for you ifyou call a person the wrong name, or ask the person thewrong details. In such cases where you have beenchatting with a number of persons, for heaven’s sake jotdown the details about each person separately or createseparate files for each person ad store them in yourcomputer.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comWhen you add them to your friends list use handlesor nicknames that can help you remember the person themoment you start chatting at a later date.Now, in case you do not really remember theperson, then it is unadvisable to play the guessing game.The other person might get very offended if you saysomething like, “Is it Sarah or Mary?”In such cases when you have a genuine lapse ofmemory, the best thing to do is to be honest with theperson and say, “I know we chatted the other day, butI’m terribly sorry, can you please refresh my memoryabout you?”Small TalkThere are few topics that are best for the initialtalks so that an intimacy is not developed and at thesame time you do not have to struggle for matters ofcommon interest. You can talk about the weather, sports,movies, music and even food.But at the same it is in bad taste to discussreligion, politics and family matters in the initial stages.You can crack jokes but dirty jokes are an absolute no-noat least in the first few talks.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comOnce you have talked more than once or twice andyou feel comfortable with the person you can give theperson your e-mail address but remember this is the firststep towards virtual intimacy so you have to trust yourinstincts and nothing else. This takes things out of thepublic chat rooms and into the private inboxes. converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • Beware of Instant IntimacyThere are many people who feel that e-mail willnever have the warmth or the personal touch of the oldfashioned letters and cards that people used to sendthrough the postal service. That may be true but e-mailhas an advantage of the here and the now.Because you are aware of the fact that the personyou are chatting is reaching out to you in the same wayas you are reaching out to that person, there is atendency for an intimacy to build up even before youknow it.The medium ceases to be the deciding factor andwhen a person presses you for information which youhave to supply immediately you might let certain detailsslip out unless you are well prepared.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comYou have to be on your guard all the time and keepconstantly reminding your self that the person you arechatting with is, after all a stranger and a goodness-knows-what. The best thing that you could do is avoidinstant intimacy altogether.It doesn’t really matter if the other person findsyou cold or reserved, you can easily solve that by tellingthe other person that it takes sometime for you tobecome comfortable with a person. That in fact is a goodquality because it is as good as saying, “Well, I’m sorryI’m not the loose kind who plays around.”There is something that many of my readers mightwant to know and that is how to find out if the otherperson is lying. As I had told you earlier, the Net can be avery unsafe place and so we have to be absolutely sureabout the good faith of the other person before revealingany personal details about ourselves. So the next parthas been devoted specifically for that.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.com4 Ways To Tell If Someone Is Lying1.As discussed earlier, we are not going to resort tosingles’ chat rooms dedicated specifically to onlinedating. Instead we will be in chat rooms of specificinterest. So one very effective way of finding out ifa person is lying would be to ask the person verypointed questions about the area of interest. If theperson fumbles or gives vague answers then youdo not have to waste your time on such a person.2.Another thing that you could do is that from themoment you first make contact, jot down whateverdetails the person chooses to reveal to you and insubsequent encounters nonchalantly question theperson about the details, if there is a contradictionin the two details then you can be as sure as patthat the person is lying.3.Ask the person seemingly general questions butwhich in fact should have a very definite purpose,for example ask the person what he or she islooking for in such a relationship. Note down the converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • answer. After two or three encounters again repeatthe question and see whether the two answersmatch.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.com4.You could try pretending that you have chattedwith the person before and innocently ask theperson if he or she is such and such person (makesomething up) and try offering compliments to theperson like, “I really enjoyed chatting with you theother day. You were perfectly charming…” and soon. If the person falls for cheap flattery like this,then obviously he or she makes it a hobby to chatwith people under various identities.And so the chatting goes on until the person reallygrows on you. When you feel that you can really trust theperson, you may try giving the person your telephonenumber. Remember that this too is a giant leap towardsbuilding a relationship so it’s better that you be sure thansorry.The safest thing you can do about telephonenumbers is to mutually exchange it preferably at thesame time, so that neither party is at a disadvantage. It’sreally no big deal, you can afford to tell the person thatyou are just being wary, the person will understand. If heor she does not, then there is a good chance that he orshe will not understand a lot of other things as well. Inthat case, dump the person.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comStep 4: Meeting Face To FaceOnce you have started talking over the telephone,then the relationship has already taken wings, then is noreason to postpone a direct meeting. So what are wewaiting for? But wait; there is no need to push it. Youshould not sound over anxious to meet this girl or guy.Let the decision to meet evolve over a number oftelephone calls. And there are certain things that you canbear in mind before you really meet.The RendezvousIt is not advisable to invite someone home beforeyou have really met the person. You had better choose apublic place preferably somewhere where there are plentyof people around, just in case, you know.That is why most couples prefer to meet in arestaurant over lunch or dinner. There is one thing abouthaving food together. When people sit together and havefood together they get to know a lot about each other.Table manners tell us a lot about a person’supbringing and background and you can learn a lot abouta person by observing him or her eat. The second thing isthat warm food has a wonderful effect on the humanmind.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comIt releases all those digestive juices and sets the converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • tongue wagging. People loosen up a lot, especially after aglass of wine or two.The first mistake that most people make is thatthey go under the wrong impression that a meeting, eventhe first meeting must end up in bed. No, it does not haveto be so.There is no compulsion on your part or anyone’spart that you have to take the person home with you.Just because you enjoy talking or chatting with a personit does not necessarily mean that you have to sleep withthe person. Let that too evolve, so it is best to keep anysuch situations that might lead to a bed room scenecompletely at bay.So how do you do that? The first thing you shoulddo is that you should be clear about the time. Eveningsare tricky times to meet. If you have dinner together,then there comes the possibility of dropping the otherperson home.And of course you can’t just accept a ride and walkaway after being dropped without inviting the otherperson in. And then one thing will lead to the other andthen the inevitable is bound to happen. Of course, ifthat’s the way you would like it to be then you just haveto do what I just told you not to do.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comLunch time is the best time because in the daytime most of us are busy with work and we can just sparean hour or a half for lunch. So you can always leave onthe pretext that you have to get back to work orsomething like that. Very few people end up going hometogether after lunch. Another thing is that at lunch theelement of romance does not really come in.Take care to be at the arranged spot on time, youcertainly do not want to keep a person you are meetingfor the first time waiting. Dress appropriately for theoccasion, keep it simple but at the same time it should besomething that looks good on you.Leaving Your Mark BehindNow, suppose this date did work out as plannedand you really and thoroughly enjoyed the company ofthe other person you would want the other person toremember you and think about you, wouldn’t you? Sohow do you make sure that the other person does thinkabout you?The answer is simple. Just leave your mark behind.Mind you, a business or visiting card is not appropriatehere. It lends a very formal color to the picture. Surelyyou do not want the person to remember you for yourcredentials or your designation. Something morepersonalized would be more appropriate.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comPut your artistic and creative talents into full gear.If you are poetic, you could pen down a few lines on asmall card and hand it to the person. Mind you, the linesshould not be about the person, but about general topicslike friendship, relationships, togetherness, warmth, ormeetings. But do the writing in advance and keep it for converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • the right moment. Do not try to write a poem on a papernapkin with the person sitting in front of you!If you can’t write poetry, maybe you could getsome dried flowers and stick them onto a card and copydown the lines of somebody else, but admit that the linesare not your to the person.Keep such a token with you and wait for the rightmoment. Just before you part, if you are sure that “this isthe one” then hand it over to the person with a very shyexpression on your face and a timid, “I made this foryou…” Believe me, it’s miles better to say “I made this foryou” than “I bought this for you”So what happens if you are not too sure that youwant to see this person again? Well keep it with you itselfand save it for the next person.If the person is the right person, and if you didhand the person this personalized token, the person issure to think of you in a much fonder way.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comClothes Maketh A Man (Or Woman)You do not have to be dressed to kill when you goout to lunch. The best thing about lunch dates is thatmost of would be in our work clothes and that saves usthe agony of choosing the right thing to wear on a firstdate.A wonderful thing that you could do when going ona fist date is to make it a group activity, preferably afoursome. This takes away the awkwardness of thesituation and definitely takes away all those embarrassingmoments of silence.A group has another advantage in that lesserattention will be focused on each other so that there isless stress and as a result both partners would be morerelaxed. It is also safer too, since there is safety innumbers.But the company to be included should be mutuallyagreeable and not be thrust upon the other person. Buttake care to avoid any person who you know to be achatter box; it takes all the fun away if one persondominates the conversation.You may drink if you want to, but do not drink toomuch on your first date. Not only is it in bad taste butwhen you are drunk, you might blurt out something whichyou didn’t mean to and that might ruin every thing.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comFooting the BillIt is a good idea to decide before hand andcommunicate your decision to go Dutch, which meansthat each person should pay for whatever he or she has.That’s the way that it is supposed to be because ifnothing works out of this relation you certainly do notwant to be obliged to the person.When you choose the place, avoid secluded spotsand places that you are not familiar with. But the converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • ambience is indeed important. You cannot expect to havea tête-à-tête in a crowded shopping mall, can you? I thinkthat is about it about your first date.Many DatesSo what happens if you get more than one offer todate at more or less the same time? Or in other words,what happens if you become close to more than oneperson at a time? Hey, that is probably the very thing weare looking out for. You could go on different dates andthen compare for your self and choose the best person.You do not have to leap for the first person who caughtyour fancy. You have the right to choose, so go aheadand do it. There is no need to feel guilty about two timingany body as long as you do not promise any one that youare not seeing any one else.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comAnd what happens if you bump into date numberone while you are out with date number 2. Well, all youhave to do is treat it as the most natural thing in theworld. Introduce date No.1 to date No.2 as your friendsand watch how they behave. This is an excellent way offinding out how a jealous husband or wife may behave infuture.But what ever happens, a double date, that isgoing out with two people together is completely out ofthe question!Offline Dating: How To Make ThatGreat ImpressionWhen you are dating online, you have a lot ofthings to your advantage. For example, the other persondoes not really see you and you do not really have tobother about appearances. You can devote your entireenergy towards sounding intelligent and witty.But when you are actually seated in front of aperson, there are a thousand things that you have to payattention to. There are many people who believe that it isnot really important to keep up appearances. They feelthat it is more important to be oneself.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comIt sounds good enough. But on your first date atleast you certainly have to keep up appearances. Theother person should not feel ashamed to be seen aroundwith you and so you should try as hard as possible toavoid that faux pas.Let us start with your physical appearance. While Idid mention earlier that you do not have to be dressed tokill, it is very important that you have to appear wellgroomed. Take special care about things like nails, hair,and teeth. Check for bad breath too because that indeedis the worst turn off.What you wear should not be loud and attract thewrong kind of attention. Choose something that you arecomfortable in and at the same time that looks good onyou. Ladies, please be careful about your make-up, andremember that make-up is meant to accentuate yourlooks not to hide it. It is best to avoid garish colors.. converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • You should smell good of course but don’t over doit. We certainly don’t want you to remain in the otherperson’s memory as just one strong smell. Men, pleasetake care to go in for masculine scents like musk, orsmells from nature. Women, keep it as light and dainty aspossible.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comThe Secret is CharmAll the things that have been said so far are abouthow you can create a favorable impression. There issomething that is equally or even more important thanthat, and that is to make the other person feelcomfortable. Help the other person relax.Any way you have been chatting for quite sometime so you do know a great deal about each other. Thebest thing you can do is to ease the tension and break theice. Sometimes the ice gets so thick that you can literallyfeel it. Break it up by cracking a joke or two.But the joke should be spontaneous and in keepingwith the situation or else it will fall flat. Do not rehearse ajoke because a rehearsed joke sounds…well…rehearsed.The key word here is charm. Use all the charm thatyou can muster. Try to be as considerate and asthoughtful as possible. Do not dominate the conversationbut try to get the other person talking. People generallylove to talk about themselves so try to get the otherperson talking by asking about the person’s work. Showinterest in whatever the other person says.Try to be a good conversationalist. A goodconversationalist is not a person who talks well, but isone who listens well as well.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comSo try to be a good listener. And while you are listeningtry not to get distracted by something else or the otherperson might feel that you are losing interest in what heor she is saying.Then comes the question, “what do you do if youfind that the other person is dominating theconversation?”Well, in that case listen patiently for a minute ortwo and then give a subtle sign like a raised eyebrow or asmile through the corner of your mouth. If the otherperson is intelligent enough, he or she will get the cue. Ifnot, then take your chance, you might have to listen tothis person for the rest of your life.Humor rarely fails. But again take care not to overdo it. There is only one thing worse than a total lack ofhumor and that is too much humor.Gifts?It is a good idea to take a gift along with you asthat does create a good impression, but remember thatwhen you are courting the gifts should be limited toflowers or chocolates only. While you are chatting try tofind out what the other person likes in flowers and converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • chocolates. You certainly don’t want to give the personflowers that he or she is allergic to.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comThe object of your gift should not be to woo theperson but to create a good and lasting impression. Thereis no sense in splurging a lot on your first date for there isno rule that every thing should work out well the firsttime itself. Do not over do it and at the same time do notappear cheap and stingy either.However if the other person has forgotten to bringyou a gift, be quick to reassure the person that it isperfectly alright. Do not let the other person feel uneasy.In fact, that is a wonderful way to make the conversationlight. You can jokingly tell the other person to get you agift the next time.Step 5: Once BittenMany of my readers might be worried thateverything does not work out like has been described,what would they do? Or in other words if this first datedoes not work out what should they do? The answer isvery simple, repeat the whole process again.Let’s go back to where we started. Remember, thisis a chance to find the partner for life so we might have togrow many plants before we get the right harvest.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comI am not talking about two timing here. What Imean is that instead of putting all your eggs in onebasket, keep the avenues open. Don’t just bank on oneperson, because if that doesn’t work out, you might loseheart. You can hope for the best but expect the contraryas well.Only the every lucky ones get the right pick at thefirst go it self. For the rest of us, we just have to keeptrying till we succeed. Another advantage of trying outdifferent people is that you can get to choose. It shouldnot be that you just flipped for the first guy or girl whocame your way. Take you time, give yourself somebreathing space and then make the right decision.Nobody can force you into making a commitment.It should be completely your choice. Of course, if you getthe right cues and something deep down inside tells youthat this is the right person for you, then what are youwaiting for, go ahead and show the green signal.But on the other hand if someone is trying to forceyou into making a commitment and you feel hardpressed, gently try to break away. All you have to do isput your foot down very firmly and tell the person thatyou need more time.Number 1 College Dating Site on the Webhttp://FlirtyCoeds.comHowever, it is not good to keep a person waitingindefinitely. Tell the person that you need perhaps aweek’s time or more than that. But don’t let the personrealize that you are checking out other people. Just tell converted by Web2PDFConvert.com
  • them that this is probably the most important decision inyour life so you just want to be sure.Signing OffI would like to add one word about signing off. Incase things do not work out please take care to partgracefully. In such instances it is not the best decision tosay such things over chat. The other person may putforward some very uncomfortable questions that you willhave a tough time answering.The best thing you cold do is send the person ane-mail telling him or her that he or she was not reallywhat you had in mind, but you would like to remain goodfriends all the same.You do not have to worry about being pestered bythe other person in future; the “good friends” part neverfails. Most people dislike to be called a good friend after aclose encounter. In most cases the relationship justsizzles out after this. However please remember that it isindeed bad manners to part with out a word and just stopanswering mails without any information at all.Some people do that because they do not want tooffend the other person. But such callousness is reallyworse.So that is all about it. You know everything that isto be known and the ball is now well and truly in yourcourts. So what are you waiting for, why don’t you go outthere and make your presence felt and come back withthe catch of a lifetime.I don’t think that we have left any stones unturnedand from here I’m sure that on your first date everythingwill be well in your control.Think youre prepared for theonline dating scene?Find HOT singles ready for ANYTHINGat:http://FlirtyCoeds.com Posted by Making money with facebook at 05:53 0 comments Recommend this on Google Links to this post HomeSubscribe to: Posts (Atom) Simple template. Powered by Blogger. converted by Web2PDFConvert.com