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American Family
• Verbal
• using words to communicate how we feel.

• Non-verbal
• using facial expressions, body language, tone of voice,...
The more consistency
there is between
these three
elements, the more
believable you are.
W
hich Style are You?
Discovering Your Communication Style

Complete the quiz,
but do not answer the questions
after you f...
1. Passive
2. Aggressive
3. Assertive
• Assertiveness is believing we have a right to have ideas
and feelings. Assertiveness is standing up for our rights
and s...
• Aggressive is: When I take my own rights into account
and not the other person’s.
• Aggressive communication always invo...
• Passive can be defined as when I take the other person’s
rights into account and NOT my own.
• Compliance
• Avoid confro...
• Let’s role play the three styles of communication.
• Groups of 3
• Each group will be given a phrase. Each student in th...
W
hich Style are You?
Discovering Your Communication Style

NOW COMPLETE THE QUESTIONS AT THE END
Listening
Skills and Blocks
Listening Skills
• Stop Talking and Listen
• Help the other person feel free to
speak—look like you are interested in
what...
Listening Skills
• Go to an appropriate environment to
talk…Not in the middle of a noisy
gym.
• Remove all distractions su...
Listening Skills
• Let the person finish what they are
saying before you begin to talk—do
not finish sentences for them.
•...
Listening Skills
• Ask questions to the person. This shows
that you have been listening and are
interested in what is bein...
Listening Skills
• Listen with appropriate body
language—Nods, hand gestures, etc.
• Don’t yawn or lean back—act as if you...
Effective Listening
• Be honest and sincere, but not
critical and sarcastic.
• Remember, people react to what is
said as f...
Listening Skills
• Sit or stand near the person to whom
you are speaking.
• Maintain Eye Contact
Listening Skills
• Give Appropriate Feedback
– Reflective Listening
Listening Blocks
• I must defend my position
I’m looking for an
Entrance• Don’t be more concerned with what
you have to say than what is being
said.
I don’t have time to
listen to you
• If the current time is not convenient,
simply tell the other person that
another time...
I already know what you
have to say.
• You don’t know what another person
is going to say until they have said it.
Listen!
I know what you should
do…
• Don’t give advice unless it’s asked
for.
Destructive and Constructive
Communication
American Family
“Sticks and stones will
break my bones, but
words will never hurt
me.”
Words, tone of voice
and body language.
Motivator
A hammer represents communication and
there are 4 parts.
Brainstorm ideas for labeling the four parts of
the ham...
Hammer of Communication
THE CLAW IS LIKE
DESTRUCTIVE
COMMUNICATION.

THE SHANK IS LIKE
NON-VERBAL
COMMUNICATION:

It is sh...
Destructive Communication
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.

Blaming
Interrupting
Endless Fighting-don’t bring up old
issues
Character Ass...
Video Clip
The Little Mermaid
Constructive Communication
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
7.

“I” Messages
Clarity
Timing
Asking Questions
Reflective Listening
Respect...
“I” Messages
To solve conflicts it is important to be able to express feelings
without attacking the other person. “I” mes...
Clarity – Meaning what you say and
then saying what you mean.

Timing – Select a good time to do your
important communicat...
Asking Questions – People seldom say
what they really mean the first time.
-

"Why do you think that Mr. Jones doesn't lik...
Respect and Consideration – One sure
way of ending good communication is
by being critical or judgmental. Respect
the othe...
Shouting
Name Calling
Physical expression

Roadblocks

Destroys Self- Esteem and creates Fear.
1.Father wants to read the paper. Child
keeps climbing on his lap. Father is
irritated.
“You” message: “You shouldn’t ever...
Conflict Resolution
Positive and Negative
Techniques
Conflict
 Make

a list of words that you associate
with conflict?

 Which

words are positive?

 Which

words are negat...
Changing Our Attitudes
 We

need to have a new association list:
Healthy Conflict Resolution


Definition of Conflict:
– It is an emotional state
– in a relationship
– with disagreements...
Conflicts
 Conflicts

are often a result of
perception.

 How

many F’s?

 How

many passes did the white team mak
Communication and Relationships
 Confrontation

in Conflict – It’s about

FEAR!
– Fear of change in relationship drives m...
Activity…
I

need two volunteers.
Top Ten
Quick and Easy Ways to Solve Conflicts











10. Flip a coin
9. Own Up
8. Skip It
7. Deal with it l...
It’s best to have a WIN-WIN outcome!
High
Aggressive

Competition
I win – You lose
Compromise
I give a little – You
get a ...
Learning to Resolve Conflict
 S.O.D.A.S.

– Situation
– Options
– Disadvantages
– Advantages
– Solution

Look at ADVANTAG...
Let’s Solve a Conflict
 You

want to go to the movie this
weekend with your friends, but you are
suppose to be babysittin...
Conclusion
 Complete

the SODAS activity.
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  1. 1. American Family
  2. 2. • Verbal • using words to communicate how we feel. • Non-verbal • using facial expressions, body language, tone of voice, and gestures to communicate how we feel.
  3. 3. The more consistency there is between these three elements, the more believable you are.
  4. 4. W hich Style are You? Discovering Your Communication Style Complete the quiz, but do not answer the questions after you figure your score.
  5. 5. 1. Passive 2. Aggressive 3. Assertive
  6. 6. • Assertiveness is believing we have a right to have ideas and feelings. Assertiveness is standing up for our rights and still respecting the rights of others. • The most effective and healthiest form of communication, but used the least! • • • • • Communication without games and manipulation. We work hard to create mutually satisfying solutions. Communicate our needs clearly. We care about the relationship. We know our limits and refuse to be pushed beyond them just because someone else wants or needs something from us.
  7. 7. • Aggressive is: When I take my own rights into account and not the other person’s. • Aggressive communication always involves manipulation. We may attempt to make people do what we want by inducing guilt (hurt) or by using intimidation and control tactics (anger). • We simply want our needs met - and right now! • Although there are a few arenas where aggressive behavior is called for (i.e., sports or war), it will never work in a relationship.
  8. 8. • Passive can be defined as when I take the other person’s rights into account and NOT my own. • Compliance • Avoid confrontation • In this mode we don't talk much, question even less, and actually do very little. We just don't want to rock the boat. • Passives have learned that it is safer not to react and better to disappear than to stand up and be noticed.
  9. 9. • Let’s role play the three styles of communication. • Groups of 3 • Each group will be given a phrase. Each student in the group will act out the phrase using one of the styles of communication. Each group will demonstrate all three styles of communication for their phrase.
  10. 10. W hich Style are You? Discovering Your Communication Style NOW COMPLETE THE QUESTIONS AT THE END
  11. 11. Listening Skills and Blocks
  12. 12. Listening Skills • Stop Talking and Listen • Help the other person feel free to speak—look like you are interested in what he has to say.
  13. 13. Listening Skills • Go to an appropriate environment to talk…Not in the middle of a noisy gym. • Remove all distractions such as the phone,TV or radio.
  14. 14. Listening Skills • Let the person finish what they are saying before you begin to talk—do not finish sentences for them. • Do not offer advice unless it is asked for.
  15. 15. Listening Skills • Ask questions to the person. This shows that you have been listening and are interested in what is being said. • Ask questions that cannot be answered with one word? – Open ended - Avoid Yes/No
  16. 16. Listening Skills • Listen with appropriate body language—Nods, hand gestures, etc. • Don’t yawn or lean back—act as if you are interested.
  17. 17. Effective Listening • Be honest and sincere, but not critical and sarcastic. • Remember, people react to what is said as follows – 55% to facial expression – 38% to tone of voice – 7% to words
  18. 18. Listening Skills • Sit or stand near the person to whom you are speaking. • Maintain Eye Contact
  19. 19. Listening Skills • Give Appropriate Feedback – Reflective Listening
  20. 20. Listening Blocks • I must defend my position
  21. 21. I’m looking for an Entrance• Don’t be more concerned with what you have to say than what is being said.
  22. 22. I don’t have time to listen to you • If the current time is not convenient, simply tell the other person that another time would be better, that you are busy right now
  23. 23. I already know what you have to say. • You don’t know what another person is going to say until they have said it. Listen!
  24. 24. I know what you should do… • Don’t give advice unless it’s asked for.
  25. 25. Destructive and Constructive Communication American Family
  26. 26. “Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” Words, tone of voice and body language.
  27. 27. Motivator A hammer represents communication and there are 4 parts. Brainstorm ideas for labeling the four parts of the hammer of communication.
  28. 28. Hammer of Communication THE CLAW IS LIKE DESTRUCTIVE COMMUNICATION. THE SHANK IS LIKE NON-VERBAL COMMUNICATION: It is sharp and dangerous and is used to destroy and tear down relationships. It is strong and can be used to support construction or destruction. THE HANDLE OF THE HAMMER IS LIKE US– IT IS THE DRIVING FORCE. We are in control of our communication and choose to use it in a constructive or destructive manner. THE HEAD IS LIKE CONSTRUCTIVE COMMUNICATION. It is smooth and rounded and is used to build and help put things together.
  29. 29. Destructive Communication 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. Blaming Interrupting Endless Fighting-don’t bring up old issues Character Assassination-no name calling Calling in Reinforcements-don’t bring other people into the argument Withdrawal-communicates hurt, rejection, Withdrawalneglect, indifference, and/or anger
  30. 30. Video Clip The Little Mermaid
  31. 31. Constructive Communication 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. “I” Messages Clarity Timing Asking Questions Reflective Listening Respect and Consideration Avoiding Intense Anger
  32. 32. “I” Messages To solve conflicts it is important to be able to express feelings without attacking the other person. “I” messages allow you to say how you feel in a positive way. An “I” message has four parts: 1. 2. 3. 4. I feel… (state the feeling) When you… (state the other person’s behavior) Because… (state the effect) I need… (state what you want to happen) Situation: You come home and discover that your sister has hacked into your email account. Response: “It makes me mad when you open my mail. I feel like my privacy has been invaded and that you have no respect for me. Please don’t do that again.”
  33. 33. Clarity – Meaning what you say and then saying what you mean. Timing – Select a good time to do your important communicating.
  34. 34. Asking Questions – People seldom say what they really mean the first time. - "Why do you think that Mr. Jones doesn't like you?" "What did Mr. Jones say to you?" "Where were you when your friends left you?" Reflective Listening – listener mirrors back thoughts and/or feelings the speaker is experiencing. Purpose is to clarify. - Are you saying? - You seem to be saying?
  35. 35. Respect and Consideration – One sure way of ending good communication is by being critical or judgmental. Respect the other person’s point of view. Avoiding Intense Anger – Sometimes we become too emotional to communicate effectively.
  36. 36. Shouting Name Calling Physical expression Roadblocks Destroys Self- Esteem and creates Fear.
  37. 37. 1.Father wants to read the paper. Child keeps climbing on his lap. Father is irritated. “You” message: “You shouldn’t ever interrupt someone when he is reading.” “I” message: ______________________ 2.Mother using vacuum cleaner. Child keeps pulling plug out of socket. Mother is in a hurry. “You” message: “You’re being naughty.” “I” message:______________________
  38. 38. Conflict Resolution Positive and Negative Techniques
  39. 39. Conflict  Make a list of words that you associate with conflict?  Which words are positive?  Which words are negative?
  40. 40. Changing Our Attitudes  We need to have a new association list:
  41. 41. Healthy Conflict Resolution  Definition of Conflict: – It is an emotional state – in a relationship – with disagreements, misperceptions, miscommunication about needs, drives, wishes, demands, incompatible goals, scarce resources, interference from others. – It arises when change is needed in one or more parties in order for the relationship to continue.
  42. 42. Conflicts  Conflicts are often a result of perception.  How many F’s?  How many passes did the white team mak
  43. 43. Communication and Relationships  Confrontation in Conflict – It’s about FEAR! – Fear of change in relationship drives most confrontation. – We often wait until the pain drives the confrontation. – Talk to the person while your motivation is to improve the relationship.
  44. 44. Activity… I need two volunteers.
  45. 45. Top Ten Quick and Easy Ways to Solve Conflicts           10. Flip a coin 9. Own Up 8. Skip It 7. Deal with it later 6. Give a little, get a little 5. You’re probably right, but… 4. Split the difference 3. Lose like a winner 2. Leave them laughing 1. SAY YOU’RE SORRY!
  46. 46. It’s best to have a WIN-WIN outcome! High Aggressive Competition I win – You lose Compromise I give a little – You get a little Concern for self Low Aggressive Collaboration I WIN – YOU WIN Avoidance I lose – You lose Low Cooperation Accommodation I Lose – You Win Concern for Others High Cooperation
  47. 47. Learning to Resolve Conflict  S.O.D.A.S. – Situation – Options – Disadvantages – Advantages – Solution Look at ADVANTAGES first!
  48. 48. Let’s Solve a Conflict  You want to go to the movie this weekend with your friends, but you are suppose to be babysitting your little brother. • • • • • S O D A S
  49. 49. Conclusion  Complete the SODAS activity.
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