Upbringing children is a challenge

1. Upbringing of Children in
the right way…
Nurturing thoughts for young parents
Dr.Balasubramanian (Balasandilyan)
Thought Leader and CEO www.visionunlimited.in
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2. Nuts and Bolts of Parenting
 Many parents crib that their
children are adamant and
dominant. This tendency goes up
when the child starts going to the
school. BUT they are like clay. It
is very easy to shape and mold
them. It is possible to mend them
and bring them up with lots of
values for sure.
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3. Pamper not in the name of love
 Many parents do the mistake of
pampering their children in the
name of love and affection.
Excessive hugging, kissing and
granting them more without their
asking for…, not necessary. It all
starts from feeding the milk itself.
These type of kids take it for
granted that they would get
everything they ask. It is next to
impossible to bring them under
control.
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4. Grant anything if it is necessary
 If the children’s demand for a
product or an item is necessary
and significant, and you can
afford to get the same…you may
grant them. We need to
understand the actual need or
purpose.
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5. Be firm on adamant situations
 If the child is adamant on a thing
or product which is not very
necessary or important, you may
be firm in not granting or getting
the same. If the child is still
adamant in the shop, try to
explain your state. If the situation
remains the same, just start
moving from the shop, the child
will surely follow you. Next time
the child knows your mind.
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6. No need to sympathize…
 The child may roll down, shout
and scream , knock the head on
the wall or floor. It is fine. The act
has to stop when it pains. If you
sympathize and oblige, it is an
indication to the child that such
acts can bring favorable results.
Therefore it is in your hands to
tackle such situation.
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7. Difficulty in studying…
 Lots of children postpone doing
home work. Some do not want to
do because it is difficult. Find out
the reason. Is it the subject, tough
teacher or punishing mother or
adamant sibling..? It is better to
sit with them, simplify the lesson
with your narration like a story
and create a liking in them for the
subject. Assure your help, hand-
holding and support.
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8. Discourage junk food
 Do not bow down because the
child is adamant when they ask
for packed food, junk food, fast
food etc. Give them the taste of
fruits, vegetables. Introduce some
new recipes of nutritious food like
soup, salad, cut fruits, sprouts,
milk and milk products. Some
how say ‘good bye’ to junk food
and fast food to save them aging
fast.
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9. Time management
 Some children waste lot of time in
watching TV, mobile like gadgets,
video games etc. Encourage and
educate them on reading habits,
making handicrafts, drawing and
painting etc.
 Obviously the TV time comes
down when they are usefully
occupied with other equally
interesting things.
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10. Punctuality in early age
 When children intentionally
delay in starting for the
school, let them get
punished in the school. If
they get the personal
experience of agony the
children would try to be
punctual and never be late.
 There are few parents who
themselves delay…then the
parents need to be
corrected.
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11. Let them experience
 Nothing wrong in telling children
what are the repercussions for
every act of theirs (good and
bad).
 If they are accepting or valuing
your opinion, let them experience
the pain, failure. The experience
would bring them the needed
wisdom.
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12. Silence is the best ‘punishment’
 Children who pester often,
adamant, rebel in nature,
disorganized, not disciplined…As
parents, you may not shout, yell,
beat or punish.
 Keep your cool, calm and silence
even after watching what is not
desired of them.
 There is not better punishment
than ‘silence’. They would rather
surrender to your love and care
sooner or later.
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13. Kids are smart in understanding
body language
 Hard words, punishment, showing
agony and anger, scolding –
some times may not work.
 Your facial expressions, nods,
eye cues, starring looks – many a
times would convey the needed
message and they rather
understand gestural
communication better and that is
the way to correct children…!
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14. Make parenting enjoyable…!
 Parenting is an internal affair
 Time for ‘two’ to come together
 There cannot be two bosses in
the house
 Are you a concerned parent or a
critical parent?
 Being different is wise, otherwise
critical
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15. Best wishes
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