Catch Cheating Spouse: Stop Letting Your Lover Take Advantage Of You! (Sneak Peak)

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You’re going to learn the secrets of a real world private investigator with experience catching cheaters!

You’ll also learn about the different cheater types so that you can easily identity what kind you might be living with!

You’ll also learn how to find out what your lover is doing on the Internet and how they may be using it to aide them in cheating on you!

Also covered is using other information such as cell phone records and cell phones themselves to find out what your lover is doing behind your back.

There is also a section on surveillance gear, which will show you all the cool things you can use to spy on your lover!

You don’t deserve to be cheated on and it’s time that you take back control of your life and your pride.

Grab your copy of Catching Your Cheating Lover today so that you can catch them red-handed tomorrow!

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Catch Cheating Spouse: Stop Letting Your Lover Take Advantage Of You! (Sneak Peak)

  1. 1. Catching Your Cheating Spouse Or Lying Lover -1-
  2. 2. contents1 OUR CHEATING HEARTS ....................................... 52 CHEATING IN CYBERVILLE ................................... 73 CHEATER PROFILE - TOP TEN TRAITS ................. 9 LIKELY CHEATERS HAVE.... ......................................................... 9 SEXUAL-SOPHISTICATION ........................................................... 9 RISK-ATTRACTION ...................................................................... 9 PARENTAL CHEATING ................................................................ 10 OCCASIONAL CHEATERS HAVE.................................................. 10 BAD MANNERS ......................................................................... 10 OPPOSITE-SEX "PALS" ............................................................... 10 CHEATING PEERS ..................................................................... 11 SERIAL CHEATERS HAVE.... ....................................................... 11 CHEATING-ITIS ........................................................................ 11 PAST CHEATING ....................................................................... 11 BAD-REPUTE ............................................................................ 12 ALPHA-CHEATERS HAVE... ........................................................ 12 INFIDELITY-MANIA.................................................................... 124 INVESTIGATION 101- BASICS & GUIDELINES .... 14 INVESTIGATOR BASICS ............................................................ 14 -2-
  3. 3. DOS.... .................................................................................... 15 DONTS.... ............................................................................... 15 INVESTIGATOR GUIDELINES .................................................... 175 SEARCHING FOR TELL-TALE SIGNS .................... 20 PERSONAL INDICATORS ........................................................... 20 RELATIONSHIP CHANGES ........... ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. BEHAVIOR TRAITS ...................... ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. WORK HABITS ............................ ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. PHONE SIGNALS ......................... ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. ONLINE TENDENCIES .................. ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED.6 COLLECTING CLUES .............ERROR! BOOKMARK NOTDEFINED. POCKETS/PURSE/WALLET .......... ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. CLOSET ....................................... ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. HOME OFFICE/DESK/WASTEBASKET ......... ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. CAR ............................................. ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. WORKPLACE ............................... ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. JOURNAL .................................... ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. BILLS & FINANCIAL STATEMENTS ............. ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED.7 TELEPHONE SLEUTHING ......ERROR! BOOKMARK NOTDEFINED. CALLER ID .................................. ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. -3-
  4. 4. REDIAL ....................................... ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. *69 ............................................. ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. *67 ............................................. ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. REVERSE PHONE SEARCH ........... ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. TELEPHONE MONITORING .......... ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED.8 CYBER-SNOOPING ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. EMAIL ADDRESS FINDER ............ ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. COMPUTER MONITORING SOFTWARE ........ ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. EMAIL/CHAT/INSTANT MESSAGING.......... ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. INTERNET BROWSING ............ ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. KEYSTROKES......................... ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. SCREENSHOTS ...................... ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. WEB-BASED/REMOTE MONITORING ......... ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. KEYSTROKE LOGGER/RECORDER ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED.9 SURVEILLANCE GEAR ..........ERROR! BOOKMARK NOTDEFINED. GPS MOBILE PHONE.................... ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. GPS TRACKER ............................. ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. ELECTRONIC VIDEO SYSTEM....... ERROR! BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED.10 HIRING A PRIVATE INVESTIGATOR ........... ERROR!BOOKMARK NOT DEFINED. -4-
  5. 5. CONCLUSION - NOW WHAT? ..ERROR! BOOKMARK NOTDEFINED. -5-
  6. 6. 1 OUR CHEATING HEARTSWe prefer honesty in our relationships, but reality doesnt always measureup to our expectations. Cheating is an everyday occurrence.Some cheating isnt even considered cheating. Football games are won bytrick plays and earn quarterbacks the title of hero, along with multimillion-dollar salaries. Other cheating is entertaining, like the magiciansrepertoire of card tricks, sleight of hand, and beautiful women whodisappear or survive being sawed in half. Military strategy often involvescamouflage, which throughout history has won wars, going back to theTrojan horse in ancient Greece.Most cheating however is undesirable, whether its a gambler trying tobeat the casino, the student who cheats on exams, the citizen who fudgesnumbers on a tax return, or the CEO who pays himself a multimillion-dollar bonus while shareholder profits plummet. But perhaps the mostdisappointing, and personally painful, cheating is that which occurs amonglovers and spouses. An unwritten expectation of fidelity is the core of oursexual relationships.We expect our partners not to cheat. Sometimes lovers release eachother from that expectation, as in the 1960s and 70s when openrelationships and free love were part of a sexual revolution that valued -6-
  7. 7. experimentation. The vogue continues to a much lesser degree in thetwenty-first century. For the most part, when two people are in acommitted relationship, monogamy is not only implied, its assumed. Onemate at a time is the expectation when youve given your heart and soulto another.Fidelity, unless mutually exempted, rules adult sexual relationships andhelps bind two persons together. Infidelity, or cheating, is a serious threatto that bond and when suspected needs to be addressed seriously.Cheating rarely can be ignored. The injured party might try to ignoretheir suspicion, shove it to the back of their mind through somecomplicated form of self-preservation coupled with denial. But such adefense mechanism rarely works either short or long-term.The gnawing reality lurks in the background, only to resurface. Cheatingwhen faithfulness is expected by the partner signals something beyondsexual indiscretion is wrong in the relationship. Theres a break in theemotional fabric of the relationship, too. Whatever is wrong will not healitself.A cheater lives a life of deception based on tricks that go unnoticed. Acheaters success depends on how well they sustain a hidden life. A victimof cheating only survives to the degree they can discover what is beinghidden. Whether surviving ultimately means ending the relationship orhealing it, knowing how to catch your cheating lover is the first step. Thepractical information presented here will help you along your journey. -7-
  8. 8. 2 CHEATING IN CYBERVILLETechnology has changed relationship cheating forever. Mobile phones,PDAs, beepers and computers make it easier than ever before to cheat ona lover or spouse. Email, instant messaging, chat rooms, dating websites,social networking and text messaging mean the cheater doesnt have toleave home and wander bars to meet a potential partner.Legitimate online dating sites do not allow married people to use theirservices, but nothing can be done to keep users from lying about theirmarital status. Other companies specialize in targeting married personsand lure them to their websites with ads that romanticize infidelity anddownplay monogamy. Email spam further entices potential cheaters whomight never have thought of being unfaithful but are easily tempted tosee whats out there on the World Wide Web.Whether deliberately looking for a fling or innocently surfing the Websromance filled waters, an endless source of willing partners is instantlyavailable for online cheating. Cyberspace provides a safe, seemingly risk-free atmosphere in which to travel, without worries of being seen togetherin public. Whether at work or at home, a cyber-affair is alwaysconvenient, just a mouse click away, even if your spouse or lover is in thenext room. Once cyber cheaters connect, the Internet provides aconvenient means for the relationship to continue. -8-
  9. 9. Many people do not consider cyber cheating an actual affair because theparticipants might never meet face to face or have sex. But a cyberaffair, even under those circumstances, is in the least emotional cheating.Time and energy are spent with another individual outside the mainrelationship. The cheater is taking something from their loved one andgiving it to another, depriving the spouse or lover of their totalinvolvement. Even when there is no sexual contact, theres an emotionalattachment to the comfort that is found logging onto the Internet andfinding fulfillment of one sort or another. A need is being fulfilled by athird party and the cheater is depriving the partner of that role, not tomention presumed trust. William Shakespeare said, A rose by any othername would smell as sweet. An affair by any other name still stinks.Its a widely held belief among relationship experts that cyber affairsresult in real-time sex more often than not. According to surveys byWomanSavers.com, of those whove had an online affair, one-third admitsthat so-called innocent cyber flirting eventually goes from email and chat-room conversation to telephone calls and finally a sexual encounter.Another study by the Fortino Group shows nearly one-third of all divorcelitigation results from online affairs. Odds therefore are not good that acommitted relationship can survive online infidelity. One out of threecyber relationships is probably going to escalate into much more than aninnocent way to spend time online. Cyber cheating is not the same asonline solitaire, even when it involves avatars in an alternate reality.Ultimately its between real people who must face the stark realism ofheartbreak and damaged relationships.Technology indisputably enables a cheating lover. The good news is its fareasier to catch a cheater with todays technology. What previously tookmonths even years to uncover can now be learned in less than a week. -9-
  10. 10. 3 CHEATER PROFILE - TOP TEN TRAITSIs everyone a potential cheater? No. But a large number of people thinknothing of cheating on their partners. Some are more likely to cheat thanothers. Psychologists and relationship experts believe that cheaters havecertain characteristics in common. Looking at personality traits, familyhistory and past experiences, you help you recognize a cheating heart andmind.LIKELY CHEATERS HAVE....Sexual-sophisticationPeople with active sex lives prior to a committed relationship have a hardtime settling down. Theyre far more likely to stray outside a relationshipthan someone whos had little sexual experience.Risk-attraction - 10 -
  11. 11. Some people find cheating a thrill. The excitement, deception and intriguefeeds them. When presented with an opportunity to cheat, they just cantseem to resist. They need constant watching because its always easy forthem to cheat.Parental cheatingThis is not to say cheating is genetic. But it tends to run in families. Achild raised in a household where cheating took place often grows up andconsiders it normal for partners to be unfaithful to one another.OCCASIONAL CHEATERS HAVE....Bad MannersWhen a person is discourteous regarding, say, a simple thank you orappropriate excuse me, its because they simply are not considerate ofothers. This includes their attitude toward animals as well as people. Atried-and-true adage is love me, love my dog. Some cheaters simplydont have regard for anyones feelings but their own. Someone whoalways puts themself first is unlikely to consider how cheating is going tomake their partner feel. Theyre just downright rude.Opposite-sex "Pals"A cheater often has lots of close friendships with members of the opposite - 11 -
  12. 12. sex, including ex-lovers. It only takes one of those best-friend situationsto blossom into an affair and destroy an existing relationship. This personfeels if youre just friends, its safe to cheat and you probably wont getcaught.Cheating PeersBirds of a feather flock together. A person who hangs around with peoplewho cheat is soon to be cheating as well. Theres a camaraderie amongcheaters; they support each others exploits and often share secrets abouttheir sexual encounters.SERIAL CHEATERS HAVE....Cheating-itisThis person cheats at everything in most areas of their life. They lie notonly to their lovers, but to their parents and friends as well. When theywere students, they probably cheated on tests and stole books from thelibrary. A toxic flaw in this person is the constant white-lie. Someone whotells lots of lies about little things usually lies about big things, too.Past cheatingHistory tends to repeat itself, and tigers dont change their stripes. Sure,theres such a thing as a reformed cheater, but its rare, and only after - 12 -
  13. 13. extensive psychotherapy or a life-changing cataclysm. Seldom doessomeone with years of cheating suddenly become a model partner. Thisperson has an Olympic-gold medal in covering their tracks, and are notashamed to recount their past cheating to a current lover.Bad-reputeThis serial cheater is terrible at concealing their past and has abackground that would make Casanova blush. The bad-boy/girl reputationfollows this cheater wherever they go. Everyone knows about this person,everyone except their current partner. Often people will approach theinnocent party and come right out and ask if your lover, or spouse, ischeating on you, too. Usually, when youre being cheated youre the lastto know.ALPHA-CHEATERS HAVE...(a category all their own)Infidelity-ManiaThis is perhaps the most potentially dangerous partner of all, becausecheating is a life-long compulsion....OCI (Obsessive CompulsiveInfidelity). There are people, men and women alike, who believemonogamy is an unnatural state and theres nothing morally wrong withbeing unfaithful to someone who presumes your trust and exclusivity.OCIs truly believe cheating is an antidote to boredom, or anyshortcoming, in a relationship. This serial-cheater will have an affair at the - 13 -
  14. 14. drop of a hat and knows how to hide everything. Catching this one ishardest of all.Its unlikely anyone has all ten traits, but several often occur incombination. Two to four traits are common. Yet even a single trait, whenpredominant, can indicate that your loved one is cheating. Familiarizingyourself with traits in a cheaters personality can go a long way towardhelping you find the truth when you suspect cheating. Forewarned andforearmed, you will be better equipped to catch your cheating lover orspouse. - 14 -
  15. 15. 4 INVESTIGATION 101- BASICS & GUIDELINESIf youve ever fantasized about living the life of a sleuth, heres yourchance. Investigating a cheating lover is no different than investigatingany case you read in newspapers, see on TV or watch on film. Your mostfundamental tools are your eyes and ears. You only need to hone yourobservation, listening and information gathering skills. With the methodsand tools suggested here, youll be using the techniques employed bydetectives and private investigators for ages. You dont need to be JamesBond or Agatha Christie. All you need is a desire for the truth and thewillingness to persevere until you find it.Catching a sneaky, lying, conniving cheater can be accomplished byanyone with a little determination and effort. A few rules and guidelinesused by professional investigators will get you started, and well on yourway to uncovering the truth about whats really going on in yourrelationship.INVESTIGATOR BASICS - 15 -
  16. 16. DOs....  Trust your intuition If you think theres cheating, theres a good chance its taking place. Have faith in your ability to uncover the truth, dispassionately and thoroughly.  Stay calm Face reality, and accept that its possible your partner is cheating.  Be observant Take off the blinders, and notice all the little signs that are staring right at you. Notice, for example, if your lover is on edge or acting guilty, disconnected, less fun, or telling you how miserable they are. These subtleties are important.  Listen to what other people are saying If your partner is cheating on you, someone else knows and theres sure to be gossip. Just make sure its not idle gossip before you act on it.  Discuss boundaries Know whats important to your partner, what they value. If a person says its okay that Ryan or Kate is cheating, they probably think its okay for everyone to cheat.DONTs.... - 16 -
  17. 17.  Dont make accusations without evidence If your partner is innocent, youll only hurt their feelings. If theyre guilty, youll just be warning them to cover their tracks better, and making it harder to catch them. Dont confront your partner until you are 100% positive theyre cheating. Confronting a loved one with cheating, whether theyre guilty or innocent, has the potential to change your life permanently. Dont monopolize Dont think you can limit cheating by monopolizing your partners time; it will only make them want more time away from you. Dont even consider going after the third party It will only make your partner defend them. Cheating is between you and your partner. If something were not wrong in your relationship, there wouldnt be any cheating. Dont ask your friends or relatives to spy for you You run the risk of their wanting to spill the beans to the cheater to help save your relationship, or worse yet take sides against you. Dont think this problem will go away on its own Face the unpleasant fact this person doesnt mind hurting you....and dont be afraid to consider dumping them. - 17 -
  18. 18. INVESTIGATOR GUIDELINES  Keep a journal or calendar Record collected evidence, dates, times, places. Also keep a diary of your partners activities, people he sees, excuses, etc. A micro- cassette recorder is a professional detectives gadget-of-choice. It can be slipped into a pocket and is easily available for taking notes whenever you find a valuable piece of evidence, and for recording reminders to yourself. This information will be useful to compare against any bills or credit card receipts you find.  Study simple techniques of lie detection A library book is all you need. Learn how to interpret physical signs like eye contact, vocal tone, facial expression, sweating, twitching, etc. Note speech mannerisms that reveal lying, such as delayed response to questions, avoidance techniques, excessive speaking, exaggerations, use of humor or sarcasm an evasive ploy when questioned.  Learn how to follow someone without their detecting you Use a car whenever possible, wear a disguise, take binoculars and a still-camera, preferably with telephoto lens. Never follow a suspected cheater when theyre leaving the home you share; if theyre guilty, thats when theyre most cautious. Always have a back-up story ready in case youre spotted.  Make allies Stay friendly with your partners friends and converse with them often to learn if your partner is truthful about how much time is spent with them. - 18 -
  19. 19.  Telephone Call often, whether your partner says theyre at work or out with friends. Note background noises, or if theres an uncomfortable tone in your partners voice because someone else is present. Make surprise visits and depart from your usual routine Show up at your partners workplace unannounced, or come home unexpectedly from shopping or work. Make a special announcement that youll be working late, but come home early. Set a few simple, but tactical traps, to aid your investigation Once youve begun uncovering evidence, youll come up with ways of your own to uncover whatever information you need to prove youre being cheated. Here are a few examples of simple set-ups that help catch a cheater. Send a gift without a card If your partner asks you if youre the sender, theyre not cheating. If theres no mention, the odds are pretty good theyre involved with someone else. Fake a trip with friends Then watch your house from a distance to see who visits when youre not expected, or if your partner doesnt come home at all because youre away. Call the house to see when and if anyone answers. Ask someone to hit on your partner Make sure its only an acquaintance, not a friend who might want to help you by intervening, nor a mutual friend who might be tempted - 19 -
  20. 20. to tell all and warn your partner. If you dont know anyone who can help, you can hire someone for a small price. A local actor or drama student at a nearby college would be good choices. Check the bed If you suspect someones been sleeping in your bed when youre not home, make an identifying fold in the covers, or plant something inside the covers that will fall or become dislodged the next time the bed is used. This is a sure way to catch any dalliance when youre not around. Monitor his monitor If youre worried about excessive online activity, mention it to your partner. If they say their activity is harmless, or make light of your concern, ask if you can sit beside them while theyre innocently surfing, visiting networking sites or participating in a chat room. If theres no cheating involved, your partner will welcome your involvement and interest. If theyre unwilling to let you participate in their online relationships, you can be sure theres cheating involved, either online or in real time. - 20 -
  21. 21. 5 SEARCHING FOR TELL-TALE SIGNSWhen the gnawing feeling that your loved one is cheating wont go away,its time to begin a serious search. By familiarizing yourself with commonsigns of a cheaters demeanor and lifestyle, you will be better equipped todiscover whether your lover in fact is involved in an extracurricularrelationship. The characteristics of a cheating lover apply equally to malesand female. A cheating boyfriend, cheating girlfriend, or cheating spousewill exhibit the same behavioral signs and patterns.There are many clues that indicate your twosome has become athreesome. No one sign, or any one area with several signs, indicatestheres an affair behind your back. But a combination of signs needs to betaken seriously when looking for evidence that will lead to catchingsomeone who indeed is unfaithful.PERSONAL INDICATORS  Energy People who are cheating often exhibit a sudden, unexplainable surge of energy. Actually, it only seems unexplainable. The source of all that newly found vim and vigor is partially endorphin related. Clandestine affairs can be thrilling and exciting, especially to the serial cheater. The mystery, the intrigue, and the risk are - 21 -
  22. 22. intoxicating. Especially in the beginning, it can make someone feelalive again, renewed and refreshed. Or, the cheater simply needsto muster more energy to constantly keep covering their trail. Lyingand cheating on a daily basis are hard work. Want to read the Full Version ?? Check it out here - 22 -

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