Giving from the Heart: The heartof Nonviolent Communication “What I want in life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart.” - Marshall Rosenberg
What empowers us to stay connected to our compassionate nature even under the worst circumstances?
“ I am not easily frightened. Not because I am brave but because I know that I am dealing with human beings, and that I must try as hard as I can to understand everything that anyone ever does. And that was the real import this morning: not that a disgruntled young gestapo officer yelled at me, but that I felt no indignation, rather than a real compassion, and would have liked to ask, ‘Did you have a very unhappy childhood, has your girlfriend let you down?’ Yes, he looked harassed and driven, sullen and weak. I should have liked to start treating him there and then, for I know that pitiful young man like that are dangerous as soon as they let loose on mankind.” - Etty Hellisum: A Diary
Approach to communicating-speaking and listening Leadsus to give from the heart, connecting us with ourselves and with each other in a way that allows our natural compassion to flourish. This approach is called Nonviolent Communication.
Refer to our natural state of compassion when violence has subsided from the heart. Known as Compassionate Communication. NVC (Nonviolent or Compassionate Communication).
NVC Founded on language and communication skills that stre The intent is to remind us what we already know. Guides us in reframing how we express ourselves and he Trains us to observe carefully, and to be able to specify b
Replaces our old patterns of defending, withdrawing, or attacking in the face of judgement and criticism, we come to perceive ourselves and others, as well as our intentions and relationships, in a new light. Fostersrespect, attentiveness, and empathy, and engenders a mutual desire to give from the heart. Itis an ongoing reminder to keep our attention focused on a place w
Thequality of compassion, which was referred to as “giving from the heart,” is expressed in the following lyrics by Ruth Bebermeyer’s Given to.
Benefits of Giving from theHeart. Thereceiver enjoys the gift without worrying about the consequences that accompany the gifts. Thegiver enhanced self-esteem that results when we see our efforts contributing to someone’s well-being.
Theuse of NVC does not require that the persons with whom we are communicating be literate in NVC or even motivated to relate to us compassionately.
The NVC Process The four components of NVC: Observation Feeling Needs Request
Two parts of NVC Express ourselves through the four components. Empathically receive these four components from others.*The essence of NVC is to be found in ourconsciousness of these four components,not in the actual words that are exchanged.
Applying NVC In Our Lives and World When we use NVC in our interactions, we become grounded in our natural state of compassion. It is therefore an approach that can be effectively applied at all levels of communication and in diverse situation: Intimate relationship Families Schools Organization and institution Therapy and Counselling