At the Heart of Conflict"What causes fights and quarrels amongyou? Dont they come from your desiresthat battle within you?" (James 4:1-3)
“I Desire” – Conflict begins with some kind of desire.“I Demand” – unmet desires can workthemselves deeper in our hearts. Especiallywhen it is something we feel we deserve.“I Judge” – We are inclined to judge otherswhen we have an idol in our heart.“I Punish” – When others fail to satisfy ourdemands, our idols demand that they suffer.
At the Heart of Conflict is an Idol 2 1 BitiwanI need to mo ito!show this Kailanganreport to ko ito paraour boss sa opisina! now. 4 3 Ah ganoon! Anong Ako ang selfish klaseng IDOL ha!? Sige simula ngayon,tatay ka. Selfish! huwag mo ng asahan ang sweldong ibinibigay ko. Selfish pala ha.
At the Heart of effective conflict resolution is…LOVE that FOURGIVES.
Love FOURGIVES#1 Delay your sermon. Give the other person the opportunity to hear and be heard.
Love FOURGIVES#2 Suspend your judgment. Give the other person the benefit of the doubt.“Dont judge others, and you wont bejudged. Dont be hard on others, andGod wont be hard on you. Forgiveothers, and you will be forgiven.”
Love FOURGIVES#3 Give the other person a second chance.
Love FOURGIVES#4 Give the other person the other person the privilege to keep his/her dignity intact.
HAPPY “FIGHTING”Changing our mindset aboutconflict, changes our ways ofdealing with conflict.Conflict presents us withopportunities to grow, serveothers and glorify God.You can choose to break peaceand fake peace. But the best wayis to be a Peacemaker.