Greed and desire? Love on one’s own body Attachment to the length of one’s life and denail of old age, sickness and fading of one’s looks Attachement First things Important things that make up U! Without it, it won’t be you!
Or we spend more time on work, entertaining your friends? Let do a quick counting…
Things always happens for a reason. God don’t play dice.
One must always maintain purity In his words, thoughts and deeds.
Hmm.. Does it sound familiar to us? When things happens, we tends to point fingers to others.. But never to oneself..
Are there times that we knows that there is a danger, yet we still go ahead? And we blames on others.. I don’t want it but circumstances don’t allow..
You know that there is a danger.. But you still fall to it?
How many of us are the man in the poem? We have to fall and fall to learn out lesson? How many times does this man needs to take to learn his lesson? How can we shorten the time? Are we able to relate it to ourselves?
Caring for one parents means not only material provision but also sincere, respect and obedience. Parents bore and nutured us. Filial piety is a basic moral principle. It is not superficial respect and obedience. It is born out of a sincere heart.
Marriage Do we take time to nurture seeds of shared vision, selflessness, caring, consideration? Are we surprize to see harvest of weeds? Are we married single? Children Are we bigger, smarter and have authority? So we take short cut? Shift the responsibility to schools, prayer hall? Will these shortcuts develop them into responsible, caring and wise adults?
ruler to ruled; (2) father to son; (3) husband to wife; (4) elder brother to younger brother; and (5) friend to friend. Filial piety, brotherhood, loyalty, trust, propriety, righteousness, integrity, modesty
The Journey…About• The journey…Objective• To identify one’s priorities in life.
PreparationSetting• You are going on a personal journey to somewhere you have always longed to go…• 10 Yourself AND 9 other important persons, objects• You have 2 minutes to write down on each piece of ticket.
What do you want to bring?Family members HeavenlyTao Money Friends iPad Passport
Rule 30 secs 30 secs START Station 2 Station 3TASK: 30 secs2. Select the “Least Valued” person/objects.3. Tear & Discard upon CHIME sound.4. And the process repeats… Station 4• NOTE: You may choose to END the journey anytime!! 30 secs END Station 5 30 secs 30 secs
Station 10 The Journey Has Ended??... The Journey Has Only Just Begun… “BON VOYAGE!!”
Self Reflection• How many item(s) do I left with?• What is/are the item(s)?
What do you have now?Family members HeavenlyTao Money Friends iPad Passport
Self Reflection• Why is/are they left?• Why did I give up the other items?
On the deathbedHow many people wish they’d spend more time at the office to earn more money?
Immortal Longevity’s Teaching“Material wealth can disappear anytime – from natural or human disasters, isn’t that so? A hurricane or a fire can destroy worldly wealth very quickly.”
Immortal Longevity’s Teaching (May 2006) “... What is the inner wealth?”If we were to pause and think seriously about the ‘first things’ in your life , what would they be?
Heavenly Tao First Things Family People Friends
First ThingsAre these things receiving the care, emphasis, and time you really want to give? Heavenly Tao Family Friends
Heavenly Tao“ When the people with high wisdom hear about the Tao, they set direction for their entire life, like receiving the most precious treausre , which they value forever;
Heavenly TaoWhen the people with average wisdom hear about the Tao, they are not certain; and they abandon their mission and responsibilities whenever, they encounter obstacles;
Heavenly TaoWhen the people with low wisdom hear about the Dao, being shortsighted they only see the surface and their True Self is obscured.Many people do not realize this priceless treasure, just laugh and look down on Tao.” - Holy Teacher, August 2007
Heavenly Tao We are not an accident.Receiving Tao is not an accident. We are here for a reason. We have waited for 60 thousand years for this.
Do you know your mission? “ I am here on earth for just a little while.” - Psalm 119:19 Earth is not our final home; we were created for something much better. Heavenly Tao This life is preparation for the next.
How to cultivate?Shun evil. Do good. Purify one’s mind.
1) Shun evilDo not commit even a minor evil. When one does more of minor evils, one harbors evil intentions, and will gradually be led astray.
2) Do goodDo not refrain from doing a minor good. To constantly act with kindness shall lead one’s heart towards the correct path. The five precepts Avoid killing Avoid stealing Avoid sexual misconduct Avoid lies Avoid intoxication
Changes in the Elephant Compassion us aroused when one hears good; Cruelty is accelerated when one sees killing. Take precepts as our teacher.
3) Purify one’s minda) Self-examinationZeng Zi said,“ Daily , I examine myself in three areas. Have I done my best when doing things for others? Have I been trustworthy in my dealings with my friends? Have I revised the lessons I have been taught? “ ( On Learning 1.4)
a) Self -examinationConfucius said,“ When one meets a man of virtue and great talent, one should look to him as an example to learn from.When one meets a man without virtue or talent, one should reflect on whether one also has similar flaws.” ( On Virtue 4.17)
b) Self AwakeningConfucius said,“ To make a mistake and not correct it is a mistake indeed.” ( On Duke Ling of Wei 15.30)
b) Self Awakening I walk down the street.There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost… I am helpless. It isn’t my fault. It takes forever to find a way out.
b) Self Awakening I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don’t see it. I fall in again.I can’t believe I am in the same place. But, it isn’t my fault. It still takes a long time to get out.
b) Self Awakening I walk down the same street.There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I still fall in. It’s a habit. My eyes are open. I know where I am.It is my fault. I get out immediately.
b) Self Awakening I walk down the same street.There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.
b) Self Awakening I walk down another street.From There’s a Hole in My Sidewalk by Portia Nelson
PeopleWe live in a modern society that loves shortcut techniques. Yet quality of life cannot be achieved by taking right shortcut.In building relationship, there is no shortcut.
Family“ In numerous worthy conduct, Filial Piety runs supreme. In all virtues, Filial Piety is the source.” What do we mean by ‘filial piety’?
FamilyFilial pietyConfucius said, “ These days, meeting the physical needsof parent is considered filial piety. But even dogs and horses are likewisecared for. What difference is there if one does notshow his parents respect?” (on Governing 2.7)
People• Building a fruitful relationship is similar to farming.• It is not an overnight issue.When there’s no gardener, there’sno garden. Nature is balanced.
The Relationship Bank Account Self Evaluation (Part I) How Are Your Lousy Excellent Relationships With…. Your Friends 1 2 3 4 5 Your Siblings 1 2 3 4 5 Your Parents 1 2 3 4 5 Your Spouse 1 2 3 4 5 Your Teachers / Supervisors 1 2 3 4 5 6
Relationship Bank Account RBA = Quality of Relationship with Others Deposits Withdrawals A deposit is not a deposit unless the recipient thinks it is.
Relationship Bank Account rk o s sW Cla Instead of Making Withdrawals By You Make Deposits By Speaking disrespectfully or acting in Showing respect and being rude & discourteous ways courteous Never sincerely saying “I’m sorry” Being sincere when saying “I’m sorry” Criticizing Giving constructive feedback Complaining Seeking to understand Talking about others behind their backs Not gossiping Never making or following through Keeping your promises with your commitments to anyone Being quick to offend Being sensitive to others Holding grudges Being ready to forgive Throwing people’s past mistakes at them Helping others make improvements 7
Confucius said,“ Yes! It is perhaps ‘Consideration’. Do not do unto others what you do not want others to do unto you. “ (on Duke Ling of Wei 15.24)
Harmony within self enables us to cultivate easily. People
Heavenly Tao“ Regardless of where you are, all of your spirits are from Heavenly Mother, so you have this mission to help others – to them to return home, and not to get lost ... Our Heavenly Mother is waiting for us to return, and is concerned if we get lost.” -Holy Teacher, Jan 2003
Poem from Immortal Longevity“ A cultivator nourishes one’s roots and purifies oneself.Work on a solid foundation, and cultivate one’s shortcomings.Be not discouraged when helping the world and carrying our great responsibilties!This is the great timing, which only happens once in thousands of years!
Sincerely dedicate oneself and offer the Three- Givings!Have Filial Piety, and care for one’s brothers and sisters; this helps establish one’s character.One needs to work on the Five Relationships and Eight Morals to nourish one’s original Nature.
Fulfill one’s vows in order to transcend the life- death cycle.The cultivators encourage and help each other, especially in difficult times.Be respectful and a good model for others.Propagate Tao with courage. Share the Tao message with sincerity and persistence; this is the way of Saints.
One needs to have self –disclipe in cultivating Tao; but tolerance and forgiveness toward others.” - Immortal Longevity , May 2006
Self Reflection• How can I cherish the left item(s)? Family Friends Heavenly Tao
Lastly...• We’re constantly making choices about the way we spend our time, from the major seasons to the individual moments in our lives.• We also living with the consequences of those choices. Focusing on ourselves will never reveal our life’s purpose.
In order to have a happy, beautiful and peaceful life, you need to start right now, okay?” - Immortal Longevity (May 2006) Cherish the Present