Work/Life Balance and You: Taking the Oxymoron OUT of Social Work!
Work/Life Balance and You:Taking the Oxymoron OUT of Social Work! Aaron M. Swart, BS, MSW
VIDEO• Can any of you identify with Adam Sandler?• How about Adam’s partner in the movie? His kids?• Does YOUR life feel out of control?• Wish you could “CLICK” the remote and make some changes?
Goals For Our Time Together… • Understand that our own work/life balance or lack thereof affects everything we do and impacts everyone we relate to • Utilize what we already know to help ourselves achieve more balance in our lives • Reconnect with what’s important to each of us by initiating our own work/life plan
Work/Life Balance: What IS that?(Wikipedia): Work-life balance is a broad concept including proper prioritizing between career and ambition on one hand, compared with pleasure, leisure, family and spiritual development on the other. Can this be achieved?
Survey Says…According to a national public opinion pollconducted by the American PsychologicalAssociation, two-thirds of both men and womensay work has a significant impact on their stresslevel, and one in four has called in sick or takena “mental health day” as a result of work stress.Also a significant concern for employers, jobstress is estimated to cost U.S. industry $300billion a year in absenteeism, diminishedproductivity, employee turnover and directmedical, legal and insurance fees. Source: http://www.phwa.org/resources/creatingahealthyworkplace/
Work or Life…that is the question! •HOW DO WE CHOOSE WHAT’S MOST IMPORTANT?
Gut Check…• Health/physical-emotional-mental-spiritual fitness- what’s important to you?• Time Management Preferences?• What’s the Big Picture? Adapted from: http://www.evancarmichael.com/Work-Life/1806/How-to-Create-Your-Personal-Work-Life-Balance-Plan.html
How Does Your Day Begin?• What are the messages we tell our clients each day?• What are the messages we tell ourselves each day?
Things We Ask Our Clients…• What do YOU want?• What are your strengths?• What resources do you have currently?• What are your challenges?• How can I help you reach your goal?• How realistic do you think this is…?• What is your reasoning behind (you name it)…?
Things We May Tell Ourselves…My Clients Need ME! No One Else Will Do It Like I Can! My Dreams Can Wait…
Paradigm Shift…• What if we took time to do for ourselves what we may already be doing for our clients?• What would that look like for each of us? Guilt? Natural? ~What we’re used to we re-create…
Be Intentional…Self-Advocate!• A willingness to do something differently• Counting the costs of NOT creating a plan• Accountability• Endurance!
Seen these before?• What is MY Long-Range Outcome? (Ensure that this is an outcome desired by the individual, and not a goal belonging to others.)• Where am I now in relation to MY outcomes?• What is/are my Short Range Goal(s)?• What Supports/Interventions will help me to reach my goals?• What is working best in my life right now?• What is NOT working in my life right now?• My Health/Behavioral Concerns?• My Barriers to Success? Questions adapted from: http://www.dhhs.state.nc.us/MHDDSAS/pcp.htm
The PCP: A Work/Life Tool!1). Use Slides 14, 16, and 17 to guide you as you create your plan (I’ll go over these): a. Answer three questions for yourself on slide #12. YOU pick! b. Peruse items from slide # 13 as you go, and c. Incorporate ideas from slide #14 that fit you the best!) Questions adapted from: http://www.dhhs.state.nc.us/MHDDSAS/pcp.htm
Tips While Creating Your Plan…• Give yourself time to brainstorm; write down your goals• Keep your goals highly visible (at work and home)• Let others know you are serious; recruit positive influences• Make sure that you give yourself and others time to adjust to goals• Allow the process to unfold; keep short accounts of progress
Be Proactive vs. Reactive!• Go for a walk. • Light scented candles• Spend time in nature. • Savor a warm cup of• Call a good friend. coffee or tea.• Sweat out tension • Play with a pet. with a good workout. • Work in your garden.• Write in your journal. • Get a massage.• Take a long bath. • Curl up with a good book.• Listen to music.• Watch a comedy. Adapted from: http://helpguide.org/mental/stress_management_relief_coping.htm
Deliberate Self-Care Strives To…• Seek balance.• Combine detachment with doing our part.• Balance giving with receiving.• Alternate work with play, business with personal activities.• Balance tending to our spiritual needs with tending to our other needs.• Juggle responsibilities to others with responsibilities to ourselves.• Balance caring about others with caring about ourselves.“Whenever possible, lets be good to others, but be good to ourselves, too.” -Melody Beattie• Source: Beattie, M. (1990). The language of letting go. New York: Harper Collins, p. 84.
Work/Life Web Resources• http://www.helpguide.org This site is a comprehensive, non-profit balance site dealing with myriad topics such as mental health, relationships, and anger management at any age.• http://www.mayoclinic.com/ The Mayo Clinic has a section of their website dedicated to Work/Life balance as it relates to physical health and stressors!• http://www.livestrong.com/ Inspired by Lance Armstrong, this site is full of ideas, inspiration, and blogs to help you reach your goals
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Clipping is a handy way to collect important slides you want to go back to later.