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Mission Statement The overall aim of the Academy of Relationship coaching Course is to provide the skills to coach single individuals in making good couple relationship choices and also to increase stability, happiness and fulfillment for couples for long lasting loving relationships. AcademyofRelationshipCoaching.com
Who Are Your Clients? Single men Single women Couples Married couples Church goers (very large untouched market) Divorced AcademyofRelationshipCoaching.com
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Edams Module E Establish What is the situation? D Decide Responsibilty? (Wheel) A Action When and What? (Books) M Measure Achievements? S State Hope/Expect/Emotions AcademyofRelationshipCoaching.com
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How Much Can You Earn? Average = £75 / hour Let’s assume you can pull in just 5 working client hours per day... AcademyofRelationshipCoaching.com
Set Up Your Own Company Website Leads Products – Cds, DVDs, Seminars, Workshops
Interviews, radio, TV, Travel UK & Abroad.
Work on your own
Marketing training day
What You Will Learn On The Course How men and women cope with stress differently Resolve issues between couples/marriages in a positive way Saving failed marriages/families Helping singles find and attract the right partner Helping singles keep the right partner Guide couples to marriage Provide positive steps to improve communication between couples Understanding how men and women’s brain are different Why men and women react differently Why women want men to listen and not give advice
Why men dislike women who want to change them
How men really fall in love
How women really fall in love
How to set up your own dating events/speed dating singles parties etc
How to set up your own dating/relationship workshops and seminars
How to create and sell your own products globally
How to get in magazines, radio stations, TV etc
How to market yourself
How to receive so many clients you cant take anymore
Earn £90,000 Per year and possibly more
Why do you think you cant find a good man?
How much effort have you honestly given yourself?
Are you old fashioned?
Would you approach a man?
Do you believe that they are out there?
What changes can you do?
Top 10 Reasons Why You May Be Single Unconsciously you don’t want to be in relationship You are looking for a man in all the wrong places Men are not stepping up the plate You have too many insecurities and too much drama Your aura is just wrong- give it away too freely Independence is making you hard to deal with You think that being domestic is subservient You have created an ideal man that only a fairytale prince can live up to You don’t have your stuff together You have too much baggage AcademyofRelationshipCoaching.com
What “Issues” Do You Have?
What problems have these caused you in the past and do you see this causing you more problems in the future?
What needs to change?
YOU and YOURSELF
Do you LOVE yourself?
How much time do you give yourself?
Do You Know What YOU Want?
What is the number one quality you look for?
Where has this come from?
The Top Six Ways To Prepare and Package Yourself For “The One” Ask lots of questions Don’t ignore warning signs of potential problems Be aware of premature compromises Don’t give into lust blindness Be aware of giving in to material seduction Put compatibility before commitment AcademyofRelationshipCoaching.com
1. Ask Lots Of Questions
Why don’t we ask more before we fall in love?
An intelligent way to get to know someone.
Don’t want to hear anything bad.
Lonely, tired, gap is filled
You don’t want to disclose your “stuff” too early
Exercise: Which questions are important to you in the early stages of the relationship? AcademyofRelationshipCoaching.com
2. Don’t Ignore Warning Signs Of Potential Problems
Reflect on your last relationship. Signs at the start?
Did you pay a lot of attention to these signs?
Chose to ignore these signs?
Minimize its importance, excuses?
3. Be Aware Of Premature Compromises
Values, beliefs, hobbies, friends, etc.
Lose sense of self early in the relationship?
Create a false sense of harmony?
Conflict – stand by your beliefs, risk tension.
Conflict – compromise to “keep the peace”.
Exercise: Which premature compromises have you experienced?
4. Give In To Lust Blindness
What is “lust blindness”?
In love with the passion and not the person?
Feel your partner with your heart and not your eyes.
Sex - make your partner wait . . .
Would you want to have this person’s children?
Really get to know them first
Exercise: Have you ever given in to lust blindness? AcademyofRelationshipCoaching.com
5. Material Seduction
Judging by what materialistic things are available.
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Secret 1: Looking For Men In The Wrong Places
Identify what type of man you require in your life.
Where is this type of man likely to hang out?
Business man – clubs
Fit / healthy man - gym
Party man – networking / business
List the last 5 places you went and consider if there are other places you can go.
Secret 2: Listening To Negative Female Friends And Allowing Them To Influence You
Find friends who tell you the truth, regardless. Don’t cultivate friends who always tell you what you want to hear.
Take advice from those who are living the life you want to live.
Secret 3: You’re Surrounded By Girlfriends Who Are Single Or Not In Serious Relationships
If any of your girlfriends have issues or are angry about relationships, are they the best person to have around?
Why do you confide in her?
What wouldn’t YOU do that SHE has done in the past?
Secret 4: Men Do Not Approach You Because Of The Vibe You Send Out
What vibe DO you send out? Share with someone your first impressions
Ask friends and family to be frank and communicate what vibe/energy you send out when you enter the room
Law of Attraction
Secret 5: Be Aware That There Is More Competition Out There And Realise That Its Not All About You
Who are your competitors?
Are they dating the men you want?
How are they attracting these men?
Secret 6: You Need To Be Confident That The “Right” Man For You Does Exist
Do you truly believe he is out there?
When you think about finding him, what goes through your mind?
You must think positively, especially when doubt creeps in or you find someone that interests you.
Secret 7: Unrealistic Expectations
List your top 3 things that you must have from your next relationship and these things are so important to you
Where have these preferences come from? Are they perhaps associated with your ex partners, family or your past.
Can these preferences be amended to increase your chances?
Secret 8: Personal Development
What personal development have you undertaken over the last 12 months?
Have you attended a workshop, seminar or class that spurred you to immediate action.
What development products do you have?
Have you joined any communication groups, eg on-line newsletters etc?
Do you surround yourself with like-minded, positive people?
Secret 9: Do You Love Yourself?
How much YOU time do you devote to YOU?
Do you understand YOU?
How would you describe YOU
When you look in the mirror, what do you see?
What do you think about yourself?
Secret 10: Issues
We all have “stuff”, “issues” and “baggage” to work on and need to “let go”. What issues do YOU have?
Has there been a pattern to your past relationships?
What complaints did your exes have about you?
Choose the top one and make a decision to work on this.
Secret 11: Getting Noticed
Avoid going out with large groups of girlfriends – men feel intimidated by a large group of women and fear public rejection
Make sure you are clearly visible. No one will see you hidden away. You are more likely to be approached if you position yourself at or near the bar, the cloakrooms etc where men will be passing by frequently.
Secret 12: Discreetly Interview / Screen Him List the…
Top 5 things you want to know about him
Why the answers are important to you
What history has prompted these questions
What YOU have to do to attract this type of man.
Secret 13: Positive Thoughts/Affirmations
If you have any negative thoughts, teach yourself to automatically switch to positive ones
Practice this until it becomes second nature.
Devote just five minutes of your time to this mental exercise before you go to bed and again when you wake up.
Secret 14: Why Do We Choose The Wrong Partner?
Unaware of your levels of compatibility
Unaware of each other’s core values
Emotional state when you met
Unaware or missing the early “signs” that indicate relationship success or failure
Secret 15: Adaptability
Are you set in your ways and not willing or able to be flexible and to compromise?
Would YOU date you?
What things are so important to you that you are not prepared to be flexible and change?
Do you know where this inflexibility has come from and is this attitude holding you back?
If you could compromise, what opportunities would it create for you?
Secret 16: Men !
Expand you circle of male friends. Just men – not potential partners.
Meet up with them and their male friends on a regular basis
Listen to their conversations and watch them look at other women.
What advantages do you think this would give you?
Secret 17: Right Place
List the top five places men have a reason to go and to hang out (eg. men’s shops, sport events, etc)
Plan beforehand – why are you there?
Educate yourself about sport – men love this!
Secret 18: ME Time
Be grateful every day and give yourself “Me” time at least once week.
Allocate an hour that is just for YOU and make appropriate arrangements so that you can always achieve this.
Turn off all forms of communication - this is YOUR time.
Perhaps a candlelit bath, your favourite sensual music?
Secret 18: More ME Time
Chill and relax and focus on how you want your life to be.
Read books that are important and empowering to you.
What is the first thing you are going to do to achieve your goal? Write it down.
Be grateful for all the good things around you before you go to bed.
Secret 19: Stress
Assess how he copes when he is stressed with his job, his life in general, in his interactions with family, friends, children, officialdom etc.
How do YOU cope with stress?
What is it like when you are BOTH stressed?
Do you understand how differently men and women cope with stress?
Secret 20: Getting To Know You
Ask at least five truthful men what positive and negative traits you have.
Be prepared to be shocked or upset.
Even though their replies are about you, don’t take it “personally”
Learn from their comments and be honest with yourself
Secret 21: Questions Ask the right questions in the early stages:
What are his goals for the coming year, the next three years’ the next five years?
How does he feel about having a family, marriage, 100% commitment?
What are the warning signs?
If you know from the start, you can take the appropriate path through your relationship.
Secret 22: What Do You Want? Decide on exactly what you want
Write down all you want from your next relationship.
Have you devoted 100% of your effort on finding him? If not, why not?
Could you do more?
Secret 23: The Past
Reflect on your past relationships. Do you know how your exes are feeling about breaking up with you?
How do you feel about the breakups?
Is it all about you?
What have you learned about you and men so far?
What are going to do differently from now on?
Secret 24: Warning Signs
Signs are always there but we CHOOSE not to see them.
You minimise their importance
You don’t want to damage what’s good
You don’t want to be alone AGAIN, especially when you are tired of searching
Secret 25: Are You Happy?
Write down the first thing that came to your mind when you read this question
Do you know why this was the first thing?
Write down another 30 things that make you happy?
Write down one thing you are going to do to work towards your happiness
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