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Facebook for Parents

  1. 1. Facebook for Parents <br />Parenting Across Social Media<br />Monday, November 9th<br />Winchester Public Library<br />
  2. 2. Introduction<br />Hi!<br /> I’m Amelia Peloquin <br />and I work as a technology consultant for libraries, nonprofits and small businesses.<br />My areas of focus include budget-friendly web design, training and support, social media marketing and project management.<br />Find me at:<br />TechWithoutWalls.com<br />
  3. 3. Please Note:<br />For your reference, this slide presentation, associated handouts & links are available here:<br />http://facebook.techwithoutwalls.com<br />
  4. 4. Kids are Connected<br />Social media is omnipresent, and the majority of teens have an account on Facebook, MySpace, or Twitter.<br />Teens are also spending lots of time texting and using the Internet with cell phones and other mobile devices (iPod touch, psp, etc.)<br />
  5. 5. Patterns of Use<br />Source: Cox Communications May 2009 Teen Online & Wireless Safety Surveyhttp://www.cox.com/takecharge/safe_teens_2009/media/2009_teen_survey_internet_and_wireless_safety.pdf<br />
  6. 6. Concerns for Parents<br />
  7. 7. Age-Appropriate Internet Use<br />Mainstream social sites like Facebook require users to be 13+ but it’s easy to lie about age.<br />Many parenting experts think teens are too young to use these sites safely—parental guidance is recommended!<br />Seek kid-friendly sites (Club Penguin, Webkins) for younger children.<br />
  8. 8. Objectionable Content + Peers<br />Hate groups<br />Pro-anorexia groups<br />
  9. 9. Cyberbullying:<br />abusive behavior among peers that is perpetrated through electronic means<br /> (cell phones, social network sites, Instant Messenger, etc.)<br />
  10. 10. Sexting & Other inappropriate photos/videos (i.e. drug/alcohol use)<br />Source: Cox Communications May 2009 Teen Online & Wireless Safety Surveyhttp://www.cox.com/takecharge/safe_teens_2009/media/2009_teen_survey_internet_and_wireless_safety.pdf<br />
  11. 11. Predators & Other Creeps<br />Can be overblown in the media, but stranger danger is real.<br />(That being said, kids are more likely to be bullied/harassed online by someone they know in person.)<br />
  12. 12. Phishing, ID Theft, Viruses/Spyware<br />Many kids don’t know the basics about protecting your computer, email & other accounts.<br />It can be easy to get tricked into giving up personal info.<br />Most ads for “free” music downloads, ringtones, personality tests, etc are scams.<br />
  13. 13. Deceptive Ads<br />
  14. 14. Cyberbullying<br />
  15. 15. What is Cyberbullying?<br /><ul><li>Name-calling, threatening language & other verbal harassment
  16. 16. Spreading embarrassing photos or video
  17. 17. Sharing secrets without permission
  18. 18. spreading rumors online
  19. 19. Can involve trickery, exclusion, impersonation</li></li></ul><li>Cyberbullying is commonplace.<br />Source: Cox Communications May 2009 Teen Online & Wireless Safety Surveyhttp://www.cox.com/takecharge/safe_teens_2009/media/2009_teen_survey_internet_and_wireless_safety.pdf<br />
  20. 20. Examples of Cyberbullying<br /><ul><li>Making or joining a Facebook group about someone
  21. 21. Creating a fake account online to impersonate/ridicule a peer
  22. 22. Creating or forwarding a YouTube video about someone
  23. 23. Sending threatening messages over IM, text messages, email or on social sites like Facebook/MySpace/Twitter</li></li></ul><li>Victims & Perpetrators Often Overlap<br />Source: Cox Communications May 2009 Teen Online & Wireless Safety Surveyhttp://www.cox.com/takecharge/safe_teens_2009/media/2009_teen_survey_internet_and_wireless_safety.pdf<br />
  24. 24. Stop it before it starts<br />Talk to your child about ethical and responsible online behavior<br />Set expectations for appropriate use of Internet & mobile devices<br />Help your child recognize harassment and know what to do if victimized by peers online<br />
  25. 25. Know how to address the issue<br />Know how to block cyberbullies on Facebook/MySpace/Twitter (see “Locking it Down” handout)<br />Know how to report abusive content on social networking sites and photo/video sharing sites<br />Consider talking to teachers and school administrators.<br />
  26. 26. Parenting Connected Kids<br />
  27. 27. General Advice for All Ages<br />Understand what kids are doing online<br />Know the risks and decide what’s appropriate<br />Communicate your expectations with your child<br />Be present!<br />
  28. 28. Parents of Young Children<br />Talk about basic online safety<br />Don’t talk to strangers online<br />Don’t share passwords with anyone except parents<br />Don’t share personal info like address, phone number, or name of school<br />
  29. 29. Parents of Young Children<br />Create a “fenced-in” online space<br />Use web browsers designed specifically for kids<br />Limit social networking to age-appropriate sites like Club Penguin or Webkinz<br />
  30. 30. Parents of Young Children<br />Actively supervise your child’s Internet use<br />If you can’t sit and supervise, consider parental control options:<br />OS-based parental controls<br />Filtering home network traffic with Open DNS<br />Filtering/monitoring software options<br />
  31. 31. Parents of Middle Schoolers<br />Review Internet Safety basics<br />Set specific guidelines and rules<br />Don’t fill out forms from ads; “free” offers are usually scams<br />Peer-to-peer software like Limewire generally leads to spyware and viruses<br />
  32. 32. Parents of Middle Schoolers<br />On social sites like Facebook and MySpace<br />No Strangers & don’t share personal info<br />Set strict privacy settings! The default privacy settings on these sites are not private at all.<br />Be a part of their online social network<br />Know how to block harassing users & report abusive/inappropriate material<br />
  33. 33. Discuss public vs. private and consequences of inappropriate use<br />Despite privacy controls, nothing posted online is ever really private<br />Emails/IMs can be cut and pasted<br />Embarrassing/Inappropriate photos and video can be easily forwarded to other people<br />
  34. 34. Talk about Cyberbullying<br />Know how to recognize and respond to incidents of cyberbullying<br />Block users & report abuse<br />Don’t retaliate<br />Promote responsible technology use<br />Talk about ethical and responsible online behavior<br />Set ground rules and expectations<br />
  35. 35. Parents of Older Teens<br />
  36. 36. Parents of Older Teens<br />Ask to see their sites— they’re still under your roof.<br />Reality check: If they’re posting photos & info they don’t want parents to see, they probably shouldn’t be posting it online in the first place.<br />
  37. 37. Parents of Older Teens<br />Discuss Online Reputation<br />Potential long-term consequences of inappropriate material on the internet: college admissions, future employment opportunities, etc…<br />
  38. 38. College and Beyond<br />Although Facebook has gained popularity with older users over the last two years, many young people see the social web as “theirs.”<br />Across our culture, we’re experiencing a lot of awkwardness and boundary issues.<br />
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  40. 40. Parental Control Options<br />
  41. 41. Parental Control Options<br />Parental controls within Windows and Mac OS<br />Home Network controls with Open DNS<br />Special browsers for young children<br />Filtering/Monitoring Software (?)<br />
  42. 42. Parental Control Options<br />Parental controls within Windows and Mac OS<br />Current versions of operating systems allow you to set up accounts with limited access to administrative functions.<br />This is a good way to protect your computer as well as your kid from viruses and other malware<br />See tutorial links at http://facebook.techwithoutwalls.com<br />
  43. 43. Parental Control Options<br />Filtering content at the home network level with Open DNS<br />Better than pc-based filtering software, but can be difficult to set up for parents who aren’t tech-savvy.<br />An incomplete solution: kids go online away from home and on mobile devices, too.<br />Intellectual freedom & censorship issues: as a librarian, I personally don’t like filters. <br />
  44. 44. Parental Control Options<br />PC-Based Filtering & Monitoring Software<br />Good to consider if there’s been inappropriate behavior & repeated violations of trust<br />Can be Problematic<br />Kids use the Internet away from home + on mobiles<br />Can block access to legitimate sites<br />Tech-savvy teens can circumvent it<br />Using spy software can be detrimental to your relationship with your teen<br />
  45. 45. In Conclusion<br />Educate yourself as best as you can.<br />Decide what you consider age-appropriate + set limits/boundaries accordingly.<br />Be present and involved.<br />Find what works for your family.<br />
  46. 46. Questions/Comments? Feedback?<br />I’d love to know what you think of this workshop!<br />Please fill out the (brief!) feedback survey at<br />http://facebook.techwithoutwalls.com<br />or email me at:<br />amelia@techwithoutwalls.com<br />