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  • Intro self, PickUp Podcast, AoC, SiriusXM showPPC story: quit wall st, co-founded AoCYou’ve been here all day: -Slap exercise (everyone stand)We’re giving you the book for free guys, so when you hear me refer to it, it’s not a tease for you guys to buy something. -you guys get enough marketing in this industry -that’s why PickUp Podcast is also free
  • Txt almost 2x more than phone
  • If you can't do it, someone else (who’s obviously not as cool as you) will make it happen instead.ALL MY COOL PUNS USED ALREADY TODAY
  • Learn and benefit from our mistakes instead of spending years making your own
  • START DOING THE THINGS WE ARE TELLING YOU TODAY RIGHT AWAY.Today you'll see a ton of examples to illustrate exactly what we’re doing here
  • Not in real-time. Can craft perfect response.“What happened when Neo saw everything in slow motion?” -Can actually see the elements of attraction forming & guide interactionCan train your brain to form patterns of banter & attraction slowly for quick recall when in real-time conversation later on -will develop your quick wit -160 characters forces you to be concise (no babbling)Direct Access: She doesn't have to decide to answer or not. -no need for quiet place -more likely to get a responseIncreased Boldness: this is for both you AND her. Much more likely to say what’s on someone’s mind when they're not right in front of you. -Social consequences aren't real -”big balls” jerks/trolls on the internet (wussies in real life) -great for developing sexual state w/herTime mgmt: can flirt with 10 girls at once, all one-on-one
  • AUD: "How many of you guys are able to get numbers pretty regularly? (show of hands)"AUD: "how many, WHEN FIRST STARTED got flakes every now and then?" -this system will nearly eliminate thatTexting adds up SO fast, so before you even think of doing this, get UNLIMITED txt planSection in the book dedicated to getting her #, but we’ll skip it here
  • This is the stuff you'll need to get down before you’ll start really seeing results -like the BL & vocal tonality of textingYou won't form a real relationship via text aloneTRAP: guys will text a girl as long as she’s responding (stems from validation)Face-to-face is where the magic occurs -can’t kiss/touch/have sex thru textAttraction & sexual tension built thru text designed to show her that MEETING YOU is the BEST OPTION -if she’s attractive, she has optionsIf it doesn't make meetup more likely, don't send it. -better to move forward and fail than be a text-orbiter (waiting for her to text you back when she’s bored) -DOESN’T mean that you ask her to hang out every time you txt. KEEP purpose in mind -don’t text just for the sake of texting -point is to keep her interested over time when you can't hang out with her (keeps momentum going) *story about keeping Tamara interested for 11 weeks via text
  • Once you send it, go on with your life. Don't check your phone for response. -puts you in your head -causes you to 2nd guess yourself & screw things upEngaging words elicit a response -no social pressure to respond via text -Imagine she’s bored at work/school and your job is to make her smile -you’re her escape even for a momentNo big deal: outcome dependency is a killer. Relax and have fun.
  • Risk: pushing the envelope (out of comfort zone is the only way to fly) -become a social scientist -that’s how we invented this system in the first placePersist: if she doesn't respond, re-engage after a few days and try again -we’ll teach you this a bit laterBounce: “Know when to hold ‘em and when to fold ‘em” -save your time and energy
  • Guys constantly text the same stuff to girls -”what’s up?” -”how are you?”I know this, because I used to do the same thing, and now, as a guy in-demand, I get those all the time from girls I'm already bored with.Send txts that are UNIQUE & FUN. Give her CHOCOLATE when all she gets is VANILLA and she’ll wonder about you.
  • Persistent texting = needy (scarcity mentality)AUD: “What happens when you call a girl, she doesn't answer, and then you call her back 2 or 3 more times?” -kills attraction FAST
  • She has no URGENCY or NEED to respond if you continually make contactWe’ve all heard these: ‘Okay’, ‘Sure’, ‘Yep’If you're the one texting her all the time you're probably NOT on her mind, or she knows you'll hit her up regardless.
  • If she’s asking YOU questions and keeping the conversation going, especially if SHE initiated it, you're on the right track.Is she curious about you? REMEMBER: attraction = curiosity!This stuff is a GREAT indicator of her interest level as well*NOTE: same criteria w/respect to phone calls
  • Taking some time to respond signals that you have other things going on. -Don’t make her the most important thing in your lifeDon't over-compensate by taking hours to respond to everything -MIX IT UP!NOTE: if it’s something important you're discussing, wait until subject changes or indicate that you have to run. -don’t leave her emotionally exposed.
  • Most important mindset yet hardest to cultivateAsk yourself what you'd do if you had 10 other women in your life. -wouldn’t care if someone flakedThis is why 10% of the guys get 90% of the womenBe willing to walk awayThere are SO many ops to meet women every day -you CAN afford to mess up! -ABUNDANCE mentality!
  • AUD: “How many of you guys have ended up in a fight over instant messenger or something because someone misunderstood something you typed?”No need to be serious when you first meet someone -don’t even know enough about her to be seriousKeep deep rapport topics for in-person conversation (more powerful)MISINTERPRET: Serious topics can go horribly wrong via text so keep it light -no BL -no EC -no vocal tonality -can’t see your face or smile
  • Said before most comms is nonverbal: -BL -EC -VOC TONE*we don't have this in text comms *emoticons fill this gap in commsCan use smilies, ‘lol’, etc instead of a smile & playful deliveryEX: One of these could be misinterp as serious. The other won't.
  • Previous example could go poorly if misinterpreted.Using similar emoticons and shorthand is similar to mirroring her during a face-to-face interaction. -she’ll know you're playing around and being fun if you communicate that to her in HER OWN language.
  • Here’s another form of mis-interp that actually HELPS you.Obv we know not to put her on a pedestal (ESP when just met) -frame it as her chasing YOUHow do we do this if we’re texting HER?(EX) Frames her as chasing me -if she’s feisty/witty she’ll play along -this becomes role-playing (recreates feelings that she IS chasing you)
  • 1) Put smile on her faceSet you apart -shows you're fun2) Nicknames usu for people know know each other well -creates effect that you go way back & have shared experiences3) Creator of nicknames directs interaction. -when you're comfortable, she will be too4) Inside jokes create comfort/trust
  • Not typical for her to get these via text. -sets playful frame(AVOID these when trying to develop sexual state)Easy to create: ours aren't very sophisticated at all!
  • You need a higher comfort level to use a teasing or sexual nickname versus a fun or cute nickname.
  • You can tell when she’s getting more invested because she’ll start nicknaming you backWomen like to feel physically smaller than you both because of self-image and because of your role as “protector” -add word ‘little’ or ‘baby’ to the nickname -EX: baby squirrel, ‘my little <whatever>’
  • AUD: “ever txted something long and involved and then you get one of those one-word replies?” -too much too soon kills attractionThe person writing the most is the most invested. -the person investing the most is the one chasingIn this example, Britney is WAY more invested than Ryan. (I actually cut this because it went on forever with Ryan’s one-word responses and her paragraphs)
  • Build these into habitPractice them with every girl you interact withEvery woman is unique (treat her as such)Not rules, simply guidelines
  • Ok, got the basics, now let’s get our thumbs dirty!
  • You need to separate yourself from the herd of others chasing her.Many guys can get a girls phone # -then they forget how to act when they interact with herShe needs reassurance that you're the guy for her, not the next chump in lineSubtext:Is meeting women typical for you?Are you high value?How strong is your identity?Are you needy?Are you exciting/fun?We’ll get into how to subcommunicate ALL of this
  • First let’s look at why what most guys do DOESN'T work.EX: “Hey What’s up?” puts you in lame/boring category -doesn’t evoke emotion -kills attractionNeed to engage her playfully and compel her to respond. -once she does, it’s on
  • Let’s look at each element here:As we said before:Light-hearted & playful keeps it light -you’re her escape
  • Cant just ask her anything, otherwise “whats up” would be an effective text.Cliffhanger: “I just figured out what you would be if you were an animal” -she has to text back to find out the answer -ppl always curious about what others think of them
  • Suppose we met a girl and she talks about how she used to go to the zoo to see the penguins. -Had a stuffed penguin named Chilly Willy
  • AUD: “Can you guys point out the different elements here that we talked about just a short while ago?” -diminuitive -nickname -ref’s Penguins -reworded question -smiley face
  • If you guys are following any kind of 3-day rule or crap like that then knock it off -her memory of you will fade or you'll be replaced by someone elseText within hours of meeting her -never later than the next day
  • Could be many reasons for this -lost/broken phone -unsaved # -been too long (deleted)Response is key: -DO NOT remind her how you met! -trying to convince someone how they know you makes you the chaser -you remember them but they don't remember you. Ouch.Make her want to know: -spike her curiosity -by the time she figures it out, she’s already having fun(EX)
  • Notice this cheesy little exchange. -Amber went from a logical state to a playful, attracted state quickly -role playing has been kicked off and it’s easy to segue from here
  • Keeping things light lowers her defenses -she’ll mirror you (remember?)Shows her you're not chasing -guys who chase are typically afraid to upset herCauses her to qualify herself to you -this reaffirms your value in her mindShould go without saying, but never insult a girl. -HUGE difference between playful teasing and insulting -this has nothing to do with ‘negs’ or any garbage like thatWomen get insulted by lame guys when she hurts their feelings -you are NOT one of those guys
  • Can playfully tease her ALMOST any time -NOT when she’s emotionally vulnerable or sharing something intimate -ANY other time should be good(discuss examples)Emoticons are ESPECIALLY important when teasing over text. -otherwise could be misinterpreted (remember SHE filters them through her current state)
  • After her response, NO MATTER HOW she reacts, stay positive/playful -if you strike a nerve, don't be overly apologetic -just apologize then move on to something else that's still playful
  • Using the stuff we’ve been telling you here, you'll begin developing attraction quickly. -women aren't used to this -you’ll get tested to see if you're the real deal -TESTING MEANS SHE’S INTERESTED!If you pass, attraction will spike a LOTKey is to remain emotionally unreactive -she’s trying to get a rise out of you. If she can't, attraction goes thru the roofThis is where it becomes a GAME. -shes basically telling you she likes you and is giving you an opportunity to make her more attracted to youHere’s how you handle these (slide)Ignore: outframe and keep doing what you were doing/sayingCute: shows you're unaffectedPlay: go over the top so it’s clearly a joke
  • Sometimes tests stem from HER own insecurities. -find out the real issue and handle THAT instead. -no sense getting caught up in a fake argument -examples here in a secAs always, be willing to walk away. -know what you want, what you're willing to put up with, and what you're not.There’re a million fish in the sea, and you guys are quite the catch
  • Here he’s willing to walk away, doesn’t need to convince her of anything. -truthful -didn’t explain himself -keeps you from digging a bigger hole
  • ince Ryan was willing to walk on this one, Tara ended up being even MORE interested in him. -didn’t explain/defend himself or his industrySHE asks HIM to meet up*Obviously, I deal with this issue ALL the time, since I'm super visible in radio and internet media.
  • Poking fun at yourself you're solid in your identity -makes you relateableDon't hide your silly side -shows you're not trying to be someone you're notA girl’s dorky side comes out around her closest friends ONLY. -will feel like she can be her true self around you -she’ll feel like she’s “known you forever”
  • Remember playing house or king of the castle (aka the slide) -you’ll wonder why you haven't been doing this all alongHuman brain doesn't distinguish from imaginary and real memories/experiences -all relationships in your life formed from shared memoriesThese usu lead to long-lasting callback between both of you -display exciting/romantic side of yourself -creates TONS of comfort!
  • Role-playing also helps her let go of other insecurities. -playing role of someone else -no personal responsibility/judgment -this is why people also do this during sexOf course this = outlet for how she REALLY feels
  • Guessing an answer on the outrageous side demonstrates creativity & humor -more compelling for response than the usual because it invites her to play along.NOTE: This is also a good example of a re-engaging text.
  • Reason why you can't move forward with her -MUST be silly/outlandish -gets her to re-earn your approval (even jokingly)Good time = when she voices her opinion about something
  • Here whatever I'm DQ’ing is arbitrary and labels her in a silly way. -implies she’s a bad influenceThis is a role-play invitation and jokingly sets a hoop for her to jump through.
  • Filters: this process in women is largely subconscious but VERY powerfulMake sure to maintain balance.More fun when it’s a 2-way street anyway
  • End on a high note: Don't wait for things to fizzle outGive her the gift of missing you -if you have a lot going on, you wouldn't be available constantlyHow? -YOU'RE the leader -If there’s no need to respond, then don't. -keeps her wantingEX: if she says: “okay, talk to you later” or “okay, have fun!” -DON’T come back with “you too” or whatever -KEEP the tension
  • Lots of reasons for her to not respond. -don’t over-think itSend something playful/non-needy that involves her DIRECTLY
  • Just like sending the first text all over again. -compels response -makes her smileDON'T reference her absence/flakiness
  • Involve her ego to compel a responseKeep it silly/outrageousWe as humans are ALWAYS curious about what other people think of us (and why)
  • Use as a last resort -encourages a response or pushes her awayWhen she responds, playfully tease her and move the conversation forward
  • There’s no point in texting if you don't plan to meet up with her and make things happen for real. -JUST a tool to keep her interestedOf course, there’s MUCH more to this, and getting her to meet up with you is an entire talk in itself -(only had an hour here)L
  • Thu-Anh and AJ are in the back there with a sign up sheet and copies of the draft of the book for all of you guys.The draft copies are free, and you'll get a free version of the final copy if you respond to us in the next 30 days with any edits/corrections/suggestions for the book itself.THANKS EVERYONE -pleasure -best of luck!
  • Textbook’ the art of Charm

    1. 1. ‘Textbook’<br />Text Game<br />
    2. 2. Are You ‘Textually Active’?<br />People Text More Than They Make Phone Calls.<br />It Is A Preferred Method Of Communication AmongWomen!!<br />We Must Master It! <br />
    3. 3. Are You ‘Textually Active’?<br />Flirt/Banter(Attraction)<br />Logistics (Setting Up Dates)<br />
    4. 4. Tried&Tested<br />We Are Sending Average Of 7,000Texts/Month For 3Years.<br />Over90%Of The Recipients Have BeenWomen.<br />’Scientifically’ Tested System<br />
    5. 5. Apply It Now!<br />Two Steps ToLearning Anything.:<br />Get a Coach.<br />Practice!<br />
    6. 6. Why Text?<br /><ul><li>NoNeed To Respond Immediately.
    7. 7. Train Your Brain
    8. 8. Increased Boldness
    9. 9. DirectAccess
    10. 10. Time Management</li></li></ul><li>Here’sTheCatch!<br />In Order To Text, You Need Phone Numbers<br />Get An UNLIMITEDText Plan ASAP <br />(Don’t Say We Didn't Warn You…)<br />
    11. 11. FundamentalsOfTexting.<br />The Main Purpose Is To Meet Up With Her!<br />NODeep Rapport (No Emotional Sharing)<br />If It Doesn't Bring You Closer To The Meet-up, DO NOT Send The Text!<br />
    12. 12. Texting Mindsets.<br />Send it and Forget it.<br />Wording Is Key:<br /> “Hey What’s Up”<br />Vs.<br />“Hey Princess Sparkles, What’s Shaken?”<br /><ul><li>It’sNotA Big Deal!</li></li></ul><li>TextingMindsets. <br />TakeRisks<br />Don'tgive up too easily<br /><ul><li>Cut yourlosses</li></li></ul><li>DemolishTheCompetition!<br />Attractive Women Get Texts From Guys All Day Long, And They All Say The Same Thing.<br />Break Through The ‘Autopilot’ Responses.<br />Attraction=Curiosity<br />
    13. 13. TextingToo Much.<br />MYTH: “You Can Never Have Too Much Text”<br />
    14. 14. You May Be Texting Too Much If:<br />HerResponseIs Slow.<br />She Doesn'tEngage Or ‘Hook’.<br /><ul><li>You Get One-wordReplies.
    15. 15. She Doesn't Initiate</li></li></ul><li>You're Texting Just Enough, If:<br />She Initiates Conversation.<br />She Responds Quickly<br /><ul><li> She Engages/Hooks.
    16. 16. She Moves Things Forward</li></li></ul><li>Don't Always Be Available.`<br />She Hasn't EarnedYour Undivided Attention<br />As Always, Don’t Over-compensate<br /><ul><li>NOTE: If You're In The Middle Of Something Important, Stay Involved.</li></li></ul><li>Don'tBeNeedy!<br />”What Would I Do If I Had 10Other WomenIn My Life?”<br />10% Of The Guys Get 90% Of The Women.<br />
    17. 17. Keep It Light<br />Display The PlayfulSide Of Your Personality.<br />Easy To Misinterpret Intentions Via Text.<br />
    18. 18. UsingEmoticons.<br />Text Conversations Are Missing Over 93% Of The Input As A Face-to-face Interaction.<br />Example:<br />“I Could Never Hang With You. You're Trouble.”<br />-Versus-<br />“I Could Never Hang With You, Ha-ha. You're Trouble! ;)”<br />
    19. 19. Emotional Filtering.<br />Women FilterYour Text Through Their Current Mood.<br />MirrorFemale Communication Patterns.<br />
    20. 20. CreativeMisinterpretation.<br />FlipTheScript..<br />Example: <br />Torri: Guess What?<br />Ryan: You Want To Come Have Drinks With Me And Get Me Drunk So You Can Take Advantage Of Me?! Girl You Are Naughty!<br />Torri: Oh Man! You Totally Read My Mind... Haha. <br />I'm Back In New York.<br />
    21. 21. Nicknames.<br />MakeHerSmile.<br />AccelerateIntimacy.<br /><ul><li>DemonstrateComfort.
    22. 22. CreateConspiracy.</li></li></ul><li>UsingNicknames.<br />BeginningOrEndOf A Text<br />Example:<br />“Hey Cracker Pants!What Kind Of Mischief Are You Getting Into Today?!?”<br />
    23. 23. Choosing a Nickname. <br />Based On Comfort Level& Convo Type.<br />FUN: Otter Pop, Strawberry Shortcake, Girl Scout, Rainbow Brite, Baby Toe, Smurfette<br />CUTE: Princess Sparkles, Snuggles Mcgee, Lady Bug, Bumble Bee, Little Miss Pretty Face<br />
    24. 24. Choosing a Nickname.<br />TEASING: Nerd Ball, Sassy Pants, Butterbean, Cracker Pants, Midget Ninja, Girly Face <br />SEXUAL: Sex Kitten, Cock Weasel, Cum Smuggler, Penis Puppet, Wiener Warmer<br />NOTE: Be More Careful With These!<br />
    25. 25. TIPS:<br />Try Rhyming The End Of Your Texts Using A Nickname.<br />Example:<br />“Peace Out Girl Scout”<br />Diminutive Nicknames Work Best<br />
    26. 26. Mirroring:s<br />Example:<br />Britney: So... Can You Think Of Any Care Package Item That You Might Need? I've Got Like Two. Ha.<br />Ryan: Not That I Can Think Of..Maybe A Towel Or Two? Lol<br />Britney: Haha Okay. What Colors? Also- You're A Medium Right?<br />Ryan: Most Of The Time Yes Lol<br />Britney: Okay. And What Are Your Favorite Colors- Blues And Greens Right?<br />Ryan: No Real <br />Britney: Lame. You Make Things So Difficult! Lol I'm Determined To Find Some Amazing Stuff For Your Package... Care Package That Is Ha. Your Package Is Amazing On Its Own. :)<br />
    27. 27. WhatWe KnowSo Far.<br />Generate Comfort<br />Make Her SMILE<br />”If It Makes YOU Smile, It’ll Make HER Smile”<br />
    28. 28. Part II: <br />Practicing Safe Text<br />
    29. 29. What Your First Texts Tell Her.<br />You're Not The Only Guy In Her Life<br />She Must Select YOU!<br />
    30. 30. Why Most Guys Fail:<br />First Text No-no’s<br />Engage Playfully<br />Compel A Response<br />
    31. 31. We’re All4thGraders<br />She’ll Associate Positive Emotion With You.<br />Wording Is Key: <br />‘Dancing’ Vs. ‘Bust-a-move’.<br />
    32. 32. CompellingHer ToRespond<br />Rewording Basic Questions<br />Example:<br />“Hey, What’s Up?”<br />Vs.<br />“What Kind Of Mischief Are You Causing Today?”<br />Cliffhangers<br />
    33. 33. AnEffectiveFirst Text…<br />Evokes Emotion From The Interaction.<br />Sparks Attraction All Over Again<br />Includes Nicknames, Role-playing, Teasing, Etc.<br />
    34. 34. …LooksSomethingLike This:<br />“Hey Little Penguin Princess, What Kind Of Mischief Are You Causing Today?!? :)”<br />-Or-<br />“Hey My Little Penguin Princess, I Just Realized Which Celebrity You Remind Me Of… Crazy! ;)”<br />
    35. 35. Get To The Choppa!<br />StrikeWhileTheIron Is Hot!!<br />
    36. 36. Troubleshooting: “Who Is This?”<br />How You Respond Is Crucial.<br />Make Her Want To Know.<br />
    37. 37. Examples:<br />“Oh My Dear <Nickname>, I Thought My Name Was Inscribed Upon Your Heart!”<br />“Your Future Ex-husband, Obviously! ;)”<br />
    38. 38. InAction!<br />Amber: Who Is This?<br />Ryan: Prince Charming...Duh!<br />Amber: Then Why R U Not With Me?<br />Ryan: Because Ur Evil Step Mother Had Me Locked Up In The Castle! But I Broke Free And Now We Can Live Happily Ever After...How Excited Are You!? :)<br />
    39. 39. Playfully Tease Her.<br />Keeps The PressureOff.<br />Never Directly INSULT Her (Obviously!)<br />
    40. 40. Examples.<br />“You’re A ClosetDork Aren't You…except Without The Closet ;)”<br />“Come On Now. You Have Work Today? Are You Sure It Isn't Mandatory Community Service? A Cute Yet Sassy Gal Who’s A Felon… Who Would Known?!? Haha ;)”<br />
    41. 41. Examples.<br />If She Has Problems With Her Phone:<br />“That’s Cool If You Can't Afford To Pay Your Bill This Month –I’m Not Judging You…that Much. Haha :)”<br />If She Suggests A Time To Meet Up (E.G. 6pm)<br />“No Way! That’s Too Early. I Don't Want To Be Stuck With You For That Long! Let’s Do6:04Haha :-)”<br />
    42. 42. Teasing In Action:<br />Katelyn: Ohhhhh That's Right You're That Cool. Forgot For A Moment Who I Was Talking To. Ha-ha. <br />Kelly: Hahaha U Seem Pretty Cool :). Still Got My Eye On You Though. So No Funny Business :) <br />Katelyn: I'm The Coolest -May Even Top You Sir. Yeah You Should Keep An Eye On Me Most Guys Tend To. Good Thinking. <br />Kelly: You're Funny. Did U Have Like A Big Stain On Your Shirt Or Something?! Hahaha U Are Kinda Adorable.. :)<br />
    43. 43. PassHer Tests!<br />Ignore It<br />”You’reCute”<br />Play Along<br />Example: <br /> Her: “You’re A Player!”<br /> Me: “What Is It About Players That You Find So Attractive?”<br />
    44. 44. IfThat Doesn't Work…<br />Find Out The REALIssue.<br />Be Willing To WalkAway.<br />
    45. 45. InAction:<br />Heidi: What Ever Happened To Picking My Brain About All The Places I Have Been? I Feel Like You Charmed Me Into Bed And That Makes A Good Story To Add To Whatever You’re Working On. <br />Ryan: What U Decide To Believe Of Course Is Always Your Decision My Dear :) I Have No Interest In Convincing U One Way Or Another Only In Enjoying My Time With High Quality People.<br />Heidi: Good Way To Put It. Guess Im In My Head. Thanks For Considering Me High Quality Same To You<br />
    46. 46. Ryan: Not Into What?<br />Tara: Being One Of The Girls From Your Website. I Was Interested In Getting To Know You Because I Thought You Sounded Really Fun, So I Guess You're Really Good At What You Do.<br />Ryan: Really? So Now You Don't Want To Get To Know Me Because I Help Guys Develop Their Personality So They Can Meet Awesome People?<br />Tara: It Just Sounds Like I'm One Of Several Girls You're Setting Up A Date With This Week.<br />InAction:<br />
    47. 47. InAction:(cont’d):<br />Ryan: Haha Now I Get It...I Just Want To Help People Have Choices In Their Dating Lives So They Don't Settle But Are Happy..Does That Make Sense?<br />Tara: And You Do That By Sleeping Around?<br />Ryan: Seriously That Make Me Laugh....I Wrote The About Us Page :) Read That! But Hey If That Is Reason Enough Not To Hang Out And Have Fun Goofing Around I Totally Understand. Have A Good Night :)<br />Tara: Well I'm Interested In Meeting U. So Why Don't We Just Meet Up And Get To Know Each Other. You're Not Free Till Tomorrow Pm?<br />
    48. 48. MakingFunOfYourself.<br />Don’t Be “Too Cool For School”<br />Women ‘Secretly’ Think They're Nerds/Dorks At Heart.<br />
    49. 49. Made-up Memories: Role Playing<br />The Key Is In The Details.<br />Frame As Her Chasing YOU.<br /> Examples:<br /> Husband & Wife<br /> Teacher & Student<br /> Rock Star & Groupie<br />
    50. 50. InAction:<br />Ryan: Hey Wanna Come Over Here And Grab Some Lunch Wifey?<br />Alicia: I Would Love To But I'm Working The Bon Jovi Concert Tonight Through An Agency And I Have To Leave At 4! :0( Thank You So Much Tho! <br />Ryan: Well Us Not Seeing Each Other Very Often Is Putting A Definite Strain On Our Marriage:-(<br />Alicia: I Know! I Cry Myself To Sleep At Night.... 6 More Days Till We Go On Our Double Honeymoon!<br />
    51. 51. “Guess What?”<br />When Asking A Question, Guess Her Answer.<br /> EXAMPLE:<br />“What are you up to this weekend?”<br /> -versus-<br />“What are you up to this weekend? Let me guess, taking a speed-knitting class so you can make me a scarf? You are shoo sweet!”<br />
    52. 52. False Disqualifiers.<br />MUST Be Silly/Outlandish.<br />Is NOT Insulting<br /><ul><li>Keeps Her Chasing You.</li></li></ul><li>InAction: <br />“Whoah Whoah! You Like <Anything>? I Didn't Know You Were THAT ‘Type’ Of Girl. I Might Need My Mom’s Permission To Hang With You… Lol ;)”<br />
    53. 53. Do NOT Over-text!<br />Women AreFilters.<br />Maintain A BalanceBetween You.<br />
    54. 54. Ending the Conversation<br />End On A High Note!<br />Give Her The Gift Of Missing You!<br />
    55. 55. Troubleshooting: The Re-engaging Text!<br />Happens To The Best Of Us.<br />Solution: Build More Attraction.<br />
    56. 56. InAction: <br />Ryan: “What Has A Bottom At The Top? <br />(No Response)<br />...8 Days Later…<br />Ryan: “So It’s Super Cold Out Today...Could You Come Knit Me A Sweater And Make Me Some Hot Chocolate? Thanks :)”<br />Kayla: “Yes. Be Right Over. The First Text You Sent Me Was A Riddle, But I Couldn't Figure It Out. Do You Remember?”<br />Ryan: “Yep...The Answer Is Your Legs :)”<br />Kayla: “You're A Dork...Love It”<br />
    57. 57. The Ego-stroker.<br />You Saw/Met Someone/Something That Reminded You Of Her.<br />Example:<br />Ryan: “I Just Saw The Cutest Little Squirrel In The Park Gathering Nuts And It Made Me Think Of You :)” <br />Janiece: “Lol! Ur The Best! I’m Totally Saving That Message! Too Cute!” <br />
    58. 58. Creating Urgency!<br />People Are Compelled To Act To Avoid Losing Something They Have.<br />Can Jump-startThe Conversation And Re-engage Where All Else Has Failed.<br />Example: “Haven’t Heard From You In A While, Is This Still Your Number? I'm Deleting Numbers To Clean Up My Phone.”<br />
    59. 59. Wrap Up.<br />Remember: The Purpose Of ALL OF THIS Is To Meet UpWith Her!<br />Be Playful<br />Make Her Smile<br />Generate Comfort<br />Pass Her Tests<br />
    60. 60. What’s In TheBook:<br />

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