How to Deal with Critics?


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How to Deal with Critics? "Critisim is something we can easily avoid by Saying Nothing, Doing Nothing & Being Nothing. Aristotle". We can’t control what other people will say to us / about us, whether they’ll approve or form opinions and share them. But we can control how we internalize it, respond to it, and learn from it, and when we realize this, we learn, grow & move on.

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How to Deal with Critics?

  1. 1. Welcome to iTHINK- 2412 How to deal with CriticsBy Dorie Clark , Tuesday, January 24, 2012 Presented By; M. Ali Hassni Repharm Services Pakistan Saturday, April 14, 2012
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  3. 3. How to deal with Critics By Dorie Clark , Tuesday, January 24, 2012Dorie Clark is a strategy consultantwho has worked with clientsincluding Google, Yale University, andthe National Park Service.She is the author of the forthcomingWhats Next?: The Art of ReinventingYour Personal Brand (HarvardBusiness Review Press, 2012). Followher on Twitter at @dorieclark.
  4. 4. Criticism - -Act of passing severe judgment, Censure, faultfindingAct of passing judgment as to merits of anything.Act or art of analyzing and evaluating or judgingthe quality of a literary or artistic work, musicalperformance, art exhibit, dramatic production, etc.Any of various methods of studying texts ordocuments for the purpose of dating orreconstructing them, evaluating theirauthenticity, analyzing their content or style, etc.:historical criticism; literary criticism.
  5. 5. Criticismis something you caneasily avoid by Saying Nothing, Doing Nothing & Being Nothing.‖~Aristotle
  6. 6. CriticismAfraid of being judged?Everything, from everyone as condemnation?Does it always come gently?Always from someone legitimately trying to help?Can we control what other people say to us?
  7. 7. Criticism We can’t control what other people will say to us / about us, whether they’ll approve or form opinions and share them. But we can control how we internalize it, respond to it, andlearn from it, and when we realize this, we learn, grow & move on.
  8. 8. C – Benefits (Personal Growth)1. Looking for seeds of truth in criticism encourages humility ( ). It’s noteasy to take an honest look at ourselves & our weaknesses, but we can onlygrow if we willing to try.2. Learning from criticism allows us to improve. Almost every critique givesus a tool to more effectively create the tomorrow, we visualize.3. Criticism opens us up to new perspectives and new ideas we may not haveconsidered. Whenever someone challenges us, they help expand our thinking4. Our critics give us an opportunity to practice active listening. This meanswe resist the urge to analyze in our head, planning our rebuttal ( ), andsimply consider what the other person is saying.5. We have the chance to practice forgiveness when we come up againstharsh critics. Most of us carry around stress and frustration that weunintentionally misdirect from time to time.
  9. 9. Critisim – Benefits (Emotional)6. It’s helpful to learn how to sit with the discomfort of an initial emotionalreaction instead of immediately acting or retaliating. All too often we want to dosomething with our feelings—generally not a great idea!7. Criticism gives us the chance to foster problem solving skills, which isn’talways easy when we’re feeling sensitive, self-critical, or annoyed with critics8. Receiving criticism that hits a sensitive spot helps us explore unresolvedissues. Maybe we’re sensitive about our intelligence.9. Interpreting someone else’s feedback is an opportunity for rational thinking—sometimes, despite a negative tone, criticism is incredibly useful.10. Criticism encourages us to question our instinctive associations andfeelings; praise is good, criticism is bad. If we recondition ourselves to seethings in less black and white terms, there’s no stop to how far we can go!
  10. 10. C – Benefits (Improved Relationships)11. Criticism presents an opportunity to choose peace over conflict. Oftentimes,when criticized our instinct is to fight, creating unnecessary drama. The peoplearound us generally want to help us, not judge us.12. Fielding criticism well helps us mitigate the need to be right. Nothing closesan open mind like ego—bad for our personal growth, and damaging forrelationships.13. Our critics give us an opportunity to challenge any people-pleasingtendencies. Relationships based on a constant need for approval can bedraining for everyone involved. It’s liberating to let people think whatever theywant—they’re going to do it anyway.14. Criticism gives us the chance to teach people how to treat us. If someonedelivers it poorly, we can take this opportunity to tell them, ―I think you makesome valid points, but I would receive them better if you didn’t raise your voice.‖15. Certain pieces of criticism teach us not to sweat the small stuff. In the grandscheme of things, it doesn’t matter that what is the color of our Shoes.‖
  11. 11. Criticism – Benefits (Time Efficiency)16. The more time we spend dwelling about what someone said, the less time wehave to do something with it.17. If we improve how we operate after receiving criticism, this will save timeand energy in the future. When we think about from that perspective—criticismas a time saver—it’s hard not to appreciate it!18. Fostering the ability to let go of our feelings and thoughts about beingcritiqued can help us let go in other areas of our life. Letting go ofworries, regrets, stresses, fears & even positive feelings helps us root ourself inthe present moment. Mindfulness is always the most efficient use of time.19. Criticism reinforces the power of personal space. Taking 10 minutes toprocess our emotions, perhaps by writing in a journal, will ensure us respondwell. Responding well the first time prevents, situation dominating your day.20. In some cases, criticism teaches us how to interact with a person, if they’renegative or hostile, for example. Knowing this can save us a lot of time andstress in the future.
  12. 12. Criticism – Benefits (Self Confidence)21. Learning to receive false criticism—feedback that has no constructivevalue—without losing our confidence is a must if we want to do big things in life.The more attention our work receives, the more criticism we’ll have to field.22. When someone criticizes us, it shines a light on our own insecurities. If wesecretly agree that we’re lazy, we should get to the root of that. Why do webelieve that—and what can we do about it?23. When someone else appraises ( ) us harshly, we have an opportunity tomonitor our internal self-talk. Research indicates up to 80% of our thoughts arenegative. Take this opportunity to monitor & change our thought processes soyou don’t drain and sabotage yourself!24. Receiving feedback well reminds you it’s OK to have flaws—imperfection ispart of being human. If you can admit weakness and work on them withoutgetting down on yourself, you’ll experience far morehappiness, peace, enjoyment, and success.
  13. 13. Criticism We are all perfectly imperfect,and other people may notice that from time to time. We do the same, So ….
  14. 14. Criticism Move forward after criticism, even if you don’t feel incredibly confident, & ensuresno isolated comment prevents you from seizing our dreams. Think of it as separating t he wheat from the chaff; takes what’s useful, leave the rest, and keep going!
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