An Overview from the Alberti Center for Bullying Abuse Prevention University at Buffalo, SUNY Amanda B. Nickerson, PhD With special thanks to Heather Cosgrove for her assistance
Perceived or actual sexual orientation Physical appearance Disability or social skills Socioeconomic status Race/ethnicity Almost anything that can put someone in a position of relative weakness
Emotional distress Loneliness, peer rejection Desire to avoid school Increased anxiety, depression, suicidal ideation; low self-esteem In some cases, extreme violence
More likely to experience legal or criminal troubles as adults Poor ability to develop and maintain positive relationships
Roots andConsequencesof BullyingAbuse- Jean Alberti
Bully Target Bystander Family School (staff and peers) Larger culture/community
Most do nothing or join in
Parents School staff Coaches Community members Students and peers!
Model, teach, and expect respectful behavior
DO DON’T Have explicit Use derogatory rules terms about Treat others with others courtesy & dignity Face-to-face Electronically
DO DON’T Provide explicit Use vague examples and phrases like counter- “Don’t you have examples of any respect?” respect Role play!
DO DON’T Catch ‘em being Bully the child good! to send your Use teachable message moments Use logical, Lash out in meaningful anger consequences
Define what it is and why it is not OK Create a climate where it is not tolerated
Listen Empathize “I am sorry that happened” “That sounds so upsetting” Work together Follow-up
Emphasize why behavior was not acceptable Apply logical, meaningful consequences Plan for how to prevent in future
Teach to: Recognize bullying Select appropriate, safe interventions Tell bully to stop Band together with others who say it is not OK Report to adult Befriend target