Men are from MARS,
Women are from VENUS.
A fulfilling and successful married
life is more of preparing for it than
a chance in choosing the partner.
Marriage being a lifelong contract,
its success has the biggest impact
on the success and happiness of
your personal life.
Introduction & Book Summary
Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus by John Gray
“It is essential to learn new and healthy ways of relating and
communicating (Gray, 1992).”
This book focused on the differences in communication styles
between men and women.
Offers suggestions to understanding how members of the opposite
Gray explains that couples can improve the quality of their
relationship if when they can better understand how their partners
Gender insight helps us to be more tolerant and forgiving when
someone doesn’t respond the way we think he or she should
Data from the Book:
Gray (1992) makes wide swiping generalization about “all
men” and “all women” throughout his book.
Based upon his personal experiences and “7 years of
research” (Gray, 1992)
Gray (1992) states that his theories and principals were
“tested and tried” – but does not say how
“At least 90%” (Gray,1992) of the more than 25,000
individuals who attended his lectures recognized
themselves and their partners in his theories
Data is anecdotal – Descriptive stories of men and women
and the different ways in which they communicate within
their heterosexual relationships
If a woman is talking to you a
lot, it is a sign that she likes you
but if she doesn’t talk remember
you are in trouble!
John Gray says…
Gray (1992) concludes that men and
Are naturally different
Communicate in completely different ways
Use language differently
Constantly misunderstand each other
This leads to conflict, break ups and ultimately
(Source: John Gray’s Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, 1992)
The Hard Data…
Gray (1992) does not –
Disclose how he conducted his questioning of
“more than 25,000” individuals
Go in to what makes men and women so
different – but hints to it being linked to biology
For some people love meansFor some people love means
Quality TimeQuality Time
God’s Purpose of family
To have companionship
To have a happy married life
Let love be your goal and so let love be your
decision than a feeling
Have a deep trust in God
Periodical sexual relationships
Be freed from the past painful memories,
attachments in relationships
A woman leaves a man not
because she is unhappy with what
he can provide, but because she is
Quality of Data…
The researchers received an “Distinguished
Publication Award” for their work
Relatively small sample size
Discussion & Conclusion
John Gray has a large number of followers
He claims to have saved countless marriages
Some “good” points…
The book is patronizing towards both men and
Perpetuates the “myth” of “natural” gender
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