www.loopofconfidence.com Ten Fallacies People Tell About Self- Confidence
Self-Confidence & Self- Esteem Are The SameThey most definitely are not. Self-confidence is what youbelieve in yourself, your abilities, skills, powers, judgmentand potential. Self-esteem is what you think of yourself andit’s quite superficial in nature and requires you to compareyourself to others and to “standards”. Self-confident peoplehave high self-esteem however, they can also “feel” badabout themselves and still feel be full of confidence. Self-esteem is threaten by discovering you might not be what youthought you were or what others told you; you were. Self-confidence is built on becoming more than you thought youwere. Copyright @2010 The Loop of Confidence www.loopofconfidence.com
You Can Fake It Until YouMake ItIf you are fake, what you’ll become is a fake. Youare what you do and think and if what you do isfake…don’t expect it to miraculously become real.Instead of “faking” it, decide you are going toactually do it. You are going to actually face yourfears, step into the unknown, and be moreassertive. Be real about it! Copyright @2010 The Loop of Confidence www.loopofconfidence.com
Self-Confident People Are ArrogantSelf-confident people have nothing to prove so theycan’t be arrogant. They might be perceived that way byarrogant and or very insecure people because theywon’t engage in unnecessary drama and stupidity. Self-confident people will walk away from drama and gossipbecause they have better things to do with their timeand they make positive not negative investment in theirwell being and thought process. Copyright @2010 The Loop of Confidence www.loopofconfidence.com
A Smile And Eye Contact Are Signs Of ConfidencePeople who are out there faking it are smiling andmaking eye contact…need I say more?!? Okay,yes, confident people smile and make eye contact– it’s a byproduct of being secured in who you arebut to find the really confident people…you needfind those who are looking their worst and stillsmiling, still making eye contact and still carryingthemselves with Copyright @2010 The Loop of Confidence www.loopofconfidence.com
A Pretty Outfit/Looking Good Will Give You Self-ConfidenceFeeling good because you look good will give youa boost to your self-esteem and that getsconfused with self-confidence. Because you lookgood you might be more energize and empoweredbut if it’s all based on the fact that you look goodtoday – what happens if you get caught in the rainand your hair, makeup and outfit getruined? You’ll feel like crap, deflated and you’llwant to go hide. That is not the actions orthoughts of a confident person. Copyright @2010 The Loop of Confidence www.loopofconfidence.com
I’m Confident In Only Some Areas Of My LifeI hear this a lot from people, they want to sellme on their confidence at work or some otherarea of their lives but are afraid in my otherarea of their lives. That is NOT true andimpeccable self-confidence. A truly confidentperson doesn’t designate areas in their lives inwhich they are confident – they are confident inall areas of their lives, all the time. Copyright @2010 The Loop of Confidence www.loopofconfidence.com
People With GoodLooks, Money And PowerAre ConfidentThe biggest impostors and folks with self-confidence issuesare people with money, good looks and power. They live infear that someday someone will discover they are not worthyof what they have…that they are fake. They might or might nothave earned where they are and what they have. If you didn’tstart out with self-confidence adding layers of material thingswill only increase your self-doubt, not your self-confidence. Aconfident person who has money, power and good looks willnot be attached to any of those things and will always be freeto just be themselves – they do not live in fear of losing whatthey have or of being discovered as a fraud. Copyright @2010 The Loop of Confidence www.loopofconfidence.com
I Was Confident But Someone Took It Away From MeIf you are truly confident – NOONE or no event can take it awayfrom you. Copyright @2010 The Loop of Confidence www.loopofconfidence.com
Fat And Ugly PeopleShouldn’t Have ConfidenceI often see this statement on twitter and it really ticks me off. Ittakes serious arrogance and ignorance to make such astatement and having a complete misunderstanding of whatself-confidence actually is. Looks have nothing to do with self-confidence. What you believe about yourself does. And whatyou believe about yourself doesn’t have to be what is currentlyreflected back to you – but what you know your potential tobe. Achieving goals and overcoming obstacles has nothing todo with looks. Adversity doesn’t care what you look like.Perseverance doesn’t care what you look like. Hard workdoesn’t care what you look like. Knowledge doesn’t care whatyou like. Self-confidence comes from your inner self. Copyright @2010 The Loop of Confidence www.loopofconfidence.com
Other People Boost My Self-ConfidencePerhaps this can be true…if other people help youwork through challenges, your fears, self-limitationsand comfort zones. However, compliments and emptypraise are superficial boosts and if you can beimpacted by those, than you are open and vulnerableto be impacted by negative comments and criticism.Accept compliments but take them in stride. Knowwho you are and be the person who provides yourselfwith all the compliments and love you need. If yourmood and self-worth yo-yos based on other peoples’opinions – you are not a confident person. Copyright @2010 The Loop of Confidence www.loopofconfidence.com
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