1. Front cover file is separate:REINT_FLIPBK_FAM_FRCVR_REV.psd U.S. ARMY RESET HANDBOOK FOR SOLDIERS, DA CIVILIANS, AND FAMILY MEMBERS 1 Draft, 09 June Reconnecting Communicating Healing Grieving Staying Healthy
2. We recognize—The commitment and increasingsacrifices that our Families are makingevery day.The strength of our Soldiers comes fromthe strength of their Families… 2 Army Family Covenant, 2007 Draft, 09 June George W. Casey, Jr., General U.S. Army Chief Staff Mr. Pete Geren, Secretary of the Army Kenneth O. Preston, Sergeant Major of the Army
3. The Army Force Generation (ARFORGEN) cycle is usedto manage the operational commitments of the Armyforces to prepare, reset, and train Soldiers, DA deployableCivilians, and Families who are faced with deploymentin more rapid succession. The RESET phase, or preparingfor the next deployment, sets the readiness conditionsfor both Soldiers and Civilians, and their Families. Thisreadiness state is ultimately vital in order for Families tothrive, as well as face any challenges that lie ahead. Insupport of the ARFORGEN cycle, programs and servicescontinually optimize support to the total Army Family —Active Army, National Guard, Army Reserve, DA Civilians,and Family members.Overarching goals relating to the RESET phases — 3redeployment and post deployment — are to improve Draft, 09 Junethe capacity of Soldiers, Civilians, and Families. Insupport of this part of the ARFORGEN cycle, the ArmyComprehensive Soldier Fitness (CSF) initiative stepsup the opportunity for Soldiers, Civilians, and Familiesto improve performance and readiness. This is acomprehensive holistic fitness program that focuseson five dimensions: physical, emotional, social, spiritual,and Family. The underlying idea is that when Soldiers/Civilians have the opportunity to maximize availabletraining time, and are equipped with the skills tobecome more “self-aware, fit, balanced, confident, andcompetent,” then this “total fitness” contributes tothriving in an era of high operational tempo.
4. Resiliency and independence are strengths thathelp Soldiers, Civilians, and their Families thrive duringthe deployment cycle. Programs that provide trainingfor managing readjustment issues, common healthissues, warning signs, and how to get help createconditions that support “total fitness.”Soldiers and Civilians must learn to adapt their combatmindset. The Battlemind Training System addressesways to successfully adapt combat skills in order touse them at home in responsible ways. A companiontraining provides Family members opportunities to workon the same subset of skills. Some key areas coveredinclude bonds and social support, emotional balance,individual responsibility, loyalty and commitment,independence, and navigating the spectrum of services. 4 Draft, 09 JuneIn addition to fixing and replacing and upgrading ourequipment and training for future missions, we also haveto revitalize our Soldiers and Families by providing themthe time and opportunity to recover from the cumulativeeffects of sustained operations. —General George W. Casey, October 2007Web Site Sources:Comprehensive Soldier Fitness – www.army.mil/csfBattlemind Training System – www.battlemind.army.mil
6. RECONNECTINGReconnecting with your spouse and Familymembers and restoring routines and roles afterlong separations is hard on relationships. With multipledeployments, and little time home, you barely have achance to get to know each other again before anotherseparation begins. Understanding the challenges thatmay lie ahead, maintaining a commitment to each other,and knowing when to get help will allow your Familyto grow and thrive. It is important to remember thatall Soldiers or DA Civilians and Family members haveto adjust to the changes. Everyone may be unsure ofwhen the returning person is ready to take back his or 6her usual roles. Soldiers/Civilians need time to get used Draft, 09 Juneto being home. Sometimes they want to “jump right in”and assume their former roles but Family members arenot ready to hand over the controls. Some, at first, arenot able to adjust to the newfound independence ofFamily members.What To Do. Everyone needs to have realisticexpectations about the changes that have occurred andset aside time to decide how to handle the inevitabletension. *Make a list of what needs to be worked out.It is important to allow time to negotiate what canchange, and take action on what each Family membercan do. *Realize that everyone has important roles.
7. Sharing Experiences. Talking about the new skillseveryone learned during deployment and appreciatingthe contributions and sacrifices everyone made helps“reboot” relationships. It is important to learn whythings were done the way they were, even if mistakesoccurred. Sharing these life experiences helps eachFamily member realize that they had support duringthese difficult times. It also helps defuse the doubts thatcan occur when Family members don’t understand howdecisions were made.Decompressing. There will be times when everyone,including children, will feel emotionally, mentally, andphysically exhausted. You may be too tired, irritable,or preoccupied with work or Family life — or have too 7many emotional battle scars to be close to each other Draft, 09 Juneright away. If Family members realize that rebuildinga close relationship will take time, then more energywill be available to take care of yourself and to workon Family relationships. Family members need to talkabout how much they can handle, especially duringstressful days.It’s really hard sometimes coming back to routine in bothwork and at home. Sometimes it seemed easier to be inIraq. It’s all the Family stuff, questions, knowing about allyou missed, and have to catch up on.
8. RECONNECTINGFirst Questions. Soldiers, DA Civilians, and Familymembers have common questions and concerns.Addressing these concerns before the return homeeases the transition. Children’s questions will need to beanswered with care and reassurance, according to theirindividual level of maturity.For the Family — How are things going now thatmy Soldier is home? What things are starting to feel“normal”? What, if any, are some of the stressors orconcerns we are experiencing? Will he/she want tospend more time with battle buddies? Do I worry that 8our concerns will seem insignificant to our Soldier? Draft, 09 JuneDo I even want to hear about what my Soldierexperienced or had to do while in combat? Am Iconcerned about future deployments? When willthings feel normal again?For the Soldier / Civilian — Has my role at homechanged after being gone for so long? How is myFamily different from when I left? What will myrelationship be like with my Spouse/partner now? Willmy Family still love me? Will my Family still need me?Will my Family understand what I have been throughduring deployment and (possibly) combat? Should Italk about my experiences to Family members and/orfriends? How and where do I fit in?
9. For Children — Will there be new or different rules?When will Dad/Mom have to leave again? Will Dad/Mom be different? Will Dad/Mom like the things I havedone or accomplished since they have been gone? WillDad/Mom be mad at me for something I did while theywere away? ULTIMATE TIPS Family Member Tip — Acknowledge that it may be extremely difficult for the deployed Family member to get used to the day-to-day events and emotions of Family life. Careful management of your personal 9 physical and emotional health will help you tolerate Draft, 09 June frustration, which in turn will ease Family tension during this transition. Soldier / Civilian Tip — Recognize that Family members have learned new skills, become involved in new activities or new hobbies, possibly made new friends, and taken on different roles. Be prepared to spend time getting to know everyone again. Monitor your instinctive desires to change Family roles, routines, and priorities. Prepare in advance to address key areas such as finances, children, return home preferences, and community changes!
10. COMMUNICATINGIt’s Still About Talking To Each Other. To improvecommunications know that, “how” things are said is asimportant as “what” is said. This is best done in person,where you can see each other face-to-face and listenattentively — texting and emails, can be misunderstood!Not all spouses and Family members realize that theirSoldiers’/Civilians’ experiences were life-changing.This will be especially challenging during the first fewmonths at home, and still “running on adrenaline” —or if Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is present.Stress and unresolved issues do affect communication,and arguments can reach levels that may confuse Family 10members and frighten children. It is a good plan to Draft, 09 Junework hard to keep everyone’s level of frustration as lowas possible — avoid sarcasm and minimize name callingor reacting in ways that allow arguments to escalateinto physical confrontations. Seeking help signalscourage, strength, and responsibility!Important Home Front Experiences. Recent Armysurveys found that Soldiers and Family members, afterlong and multiple deployments, described problemswith communication: “It can be very, very frustratingat times.” The most difficult adjustments came fromchanges in Soldiers’ moods, restoring parenting roles, andre-learning how to communicate again.—Survey of Army Families V, 2006
11. Think First — Talk Next — Act Later. To Remind eachother that you really do want to hear about each other’slives / Set aside time to talk without distractions / Getyour message across using “I feel statements” / Listenwith compassion / Acknowledge the other person’sfeelings / Follow-up regularly to prevent problems“down the road”When you’re not sure what to say or when things seemto get “off track,” be gentle with each other (and withyourself), laugh often — and end your conversations on apositive note! ULTIMATE TIPS Family Member Tip — Talk to each other openly, 11 Draft, 09 June honestly, and at a comfortable pace. Sharing fears, concerns, and experiences can be difficult and cannot be rushed. Follow-up often with your Soldier/Civilian about ways to help him/her “fit back in.” Understand and accept your Soldier’s feelings about discussing his/her combat experiences. Everyone’s timeline is different. Soldier / Civilian Tip — Make time for conversation, listen with an open mind, and let the other person know you understand what they are saying. Sit down and talk often with Family members because they want to be part of your life. If you decide to talk with them about your combat experiences, be careful not to overload them.
12. HEALINGCommitment To Any Relationship Needs To BeMutual. It’s All in the Teamwork. Many marriagessurvive reintegration just fine. Some couples struggletrying to restore their relationships, especially if therehave been multiple deployments, the Family is newlyestablished, or if there have been serious issues duringthe separation. Some spouses may feel like strangers fora long time, while others may eagerly try to “make up forlost time.” There may be anxiety in displaying affection,romance, sexual interest, or just being close. 12Forgiveness Is Important. It Nourishes Draft, 09 JuneRelationships. Anger and mistrust will tear anyrelationship apart. Family members may ultimately“tune one another out” if they feel that they’ve beentold lies. If suspicion or anger continues, it can lead toincreased tension. Families need to develop positiveways of dealing with problems, especially when they arefaced with tough issues. * Talk to each other about howyou feel and forgive each other’s mistakes. *Understandthat if routine things were not always handled well onthe home front, it was not a reflection on his/herlove for you.Seek professional help to deal with sensitive — orvolatile issues.
13. Take a Chance To Talk About Difficult Issues. Usingyour skills and strengths to learn how to manage thedestructive effects of the hurt, anger, betrayal, shame,or guilt in difficult relationships can help rekindlesome emotional connectedness. Working out issuesof mistrust or jealousy, or even infidelity is challenging,but it can be done. Infidelity can not be condoned butunderstanding, forgiving, and making a recommitmentto the marriage with trust and hope in the future canheal past wounds. With infidelity, consider seekingprofessional help, as the involved partner needs tomake a sincere apology and a real commitment tochange — and the uninvolved partner needs to stopseeking revenge and learn to forgive. A Chaplain orother professional can help you work through these 13challenges and create a sincere reconciliation. Draft, 09 JuneWounded Warriors and Family Members Share aSense of Purpose. DoD and Army Wounded Warriorresources emphasize staying connected to professionalsthroughout the recovery process. To promote optimalhealing, all parties must recognize and discuss theirphysical and emotional changes. Family members mustfocus on their commitment to take care of their personalhealth, fitness, and relationships. Resources such as theSoldier and Family Assistance Center (SFAC) and theWounded Warrior Resource Center provide comfortingsupport and guidance on available assistance. [Seeresources on p. 24 and www.woundedwarriorresourcecenter.com(Select Family Support Handbook)].
14. HEALINGStay “tuned in” to the warning signs of prolongedstress or mental health problems. Seeking help beforeproblems become overwhelming is a sign of strength,not weakness. The Families of returning Soldiers ordeployed Civilians are likely to notice signs of stressduring reintegration. Their Soldier/Civilian may havetrouble sleeping, be irritable or “jumpy,” or displayunusual behaviors for a while. Family members may findit hard to adjust to changes in their Soldier’s/Civilian’spersonality and moods. Family members may alsodevelop mental health problems. 14Pay Attention To Signs of Depression. This takes Draft, 09 Junecourage, sensitivity, and energy. Undiagnoseddepression can lead to serious behavioral health issuessuch as risk-taking behaviors (reckless driving, substanceabuse, fighting), anxiety or other mood disorders. Anytalk of suicide must be taken very seriously.Warning Signs of Depression: Feeling down mostdays / Repeated crying episodes / Feelings ofhopelessness / Sleeping too little or too much /Significant appetite changes / Fatigue / Difficultyconcentrating or making decisions / Thoughts ofdeath or suicide.Ask for help to get the right care!
15. PTSD Is Treatable. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder(PTSD) is an anxiety disorder that can result fromliving through or witnessing a traumatic event suchas combat, handling dead bodies, surviving a naturaldisaster, or a life-threatening accident, or sexual assault(men or women). Without help, PTSD can last a lifetime.It is important to recognize the symptoms of PTSDin order to understand the Soldier’s important needfor quality sleep, and their need for “space” to unwind.Families who live with someone with PTSD may needto adjust some of their own routines, at least untilhealing begins.Common Symptoms of PTSD: Reliving the eventthrough flashbacks, dreams or thoughts / Avoiding 15things that remind them of the trauma / Emotional Draft, 09 Junenumbness: Losing interest in activities previouslyenjoyed, avoiding relationships, or not being able tobe close to Family members or friends / Anxiety orincreased arousal including difficulty sleeping orhaving an over-active startle response or alert state.They may over-react to a child’s cries, and sometimes“come up swinging” in reaction to an unexpectedmovement near them.Expert professional help is warranted if thesymptoms last over a month.
16. HEALINGTraumatic Brain Injury (TBI) is usually caused by aviolent head injury. Mild TBI results in a short-term lossof consciousness, or the person exhibiting a confusedmental state. Multiple concussions or more serious TBIcan cause significant behavioral or personality changes.The Soldier or Civilian with TBI can be misdiagnosed ashaving PTSD or other mental health problems. If yoususpect that TBI may be responsible for your Soldier’s/Civilian’s behavioral changes or health issues, seekappropriate care from qualified medical professionals.There has been an increase in the number of head 16injuries sustained by Soldiers, due in part to the combat Draft, 09 Junemethods used (IEDs, for example).Seek professional medical support!
17. Watch Out for Alcohol and Substance Abuse. Somereturning Soldiers/Civilians want to make up for lostparty time. Although the “return home” parties anddrinking usually calm down after the Soldier/Civiliansettles into the routines of life at home, sometimes moreserious problems develop. Remember that the negativeeffects of drinking are increased by over-the-counterdrugs, prescription medications, caffeine, diet pills,energy drinks, lack of sleep, or poor nutrition.Warning Signs of Alcohol or Substance Abuse: Drinking or using drugs to deal with painful feelings orto block memories of combat experience / Drinkingto get to sleep / Becoming violent when drunk /Binge drinking / Drinking and driving / Missing 17school or work because of substance use. Draft, 09 JuneHelp yourself make responsible choices, and getproper care!
18. HEALINGFamily Violence. Protection and Safety Are Critical.Seek immediate help if anyone in your Family has beenhurt by a Family member, if you are afraid of personallyhurting a Family member, or if you are afraid to live in(or leave) your home. Child or domestic abuse is neveracceptable. The Army Family Advocacy Program (FAP)provides a range of tools that focus on supportinghealthy Family life. Services include: Victim Advocacy,Transitional Compensation, referrals to counseling andtherapy, parenting or couple classes and workshops(Strong Bonds retreats or Guard and Reserve MarriageEnrichment Seminars), and the New Parent Support 18Program — offering home visitation for expectant Draft, 09 Juneparents and parents of children from birth to 3 whoneed extra support or are at risk for abuse or neglect.Value That Everyone Has a Right To Feel SafeActs of violence that can destroy Families:Behaviors: pushing, slapping, kicking, hittingRemarks: threatening, belittling, menacingRisk issues: unresolved infidelity, separation-divorce,stalking, Family trauma, isolation, mental healthproblems.If you or someone you know is in danger, pleasecontact law enforcement immediately or theFamily Advocacy Program! Help is available 24/7.
19. Suicide. Watching Out for Signs of Distress Is VitalTo Preventing Suicide. Although anyone is at risk forsuicide under certain circumstances, Soldiers/Civilianswho have experienced combat, particularly if they aresuffering from depression, PTSD, or alcohol or drugabuse, may be at higher risk of committing suicide. Formost Soldiers such thoughts are fleeting, but others willtake action to end their lives.A Call to Action — Alert to Signs of Suicide: Remarkssuch as “Nothing matters any more,” “It’s just notworth it,” or “I can’t go on, I’m thinking of ending itall” / Becoming depressed or withdrawn / Behavingrecklessly / Getting affairs in order and giving awayvalued possessions / Relationship issues (infidelity, 19divorce) / Abusing alcohol or drugs / Suffering a major Draft, 09 Juneloss or life challenge / Anticipating a significant failureor humiliation such as losing a job or facing a court datethat could mean jail time.Reach out for help and reach out to help others!
20. HEALINGThe ACE Model is useful for suicide concerns.A sk your Soldier/Civilian or Family member: [Ask directly and calmly] “Are you thinking of killingyourself?”C are for your Soldier/Civilian or Family member: Remove any means that could be used for self-injury. Calmly control the situation and actively listen;do not use force.E scort your Soldier/Civilian or Family member: Never 20 leave them alone. Escort to the chain of command, a Draft, 09 JuneChaplain, a behavioral health professional, or a primarycare provider.Getting help is imperative! A Soldier/Civilian or Family inthe civilian sector can call a hospital or 911. Local Suicidehelp lines and Military OneSource (MOS) provide 24/7 help.Source: Army Center for Health Promotion and PreventativeMedicine (CHPPM, Suicide Awareness for Soldiers 2008).
21. ULTIMATE TIPSFamily Member Tip — Avoid harboring unresolvedanger or resentment that can generate more distress.Work out even subtle mistrust, jealousy or bitterness.Understand that if things were not always attendedto on the home front, that it was not a reflectionon his/her love for you. You know yourself and yourSoldier/Civilian. If problems are not improving ontheir own, get help.Soldier / Civilian Tip — Avoid harboring unresolvedanger or resentment that can generate more distress. 21Work out even subtle mistrust, jealousy or bitterness. Draft, 09 JuneUnderstand that if things were not always attendedto on the home front, that it was not a reflection onhis/her love for you. Don’t be afraid to take a mentalhealth profile, ask for help, or simply take a break. Itis okay to pace yourself, and take time to “fit in.”
22. GRIEVINGGrief Reactions Are Common During Reintegration.Soldiers/Civilians sometimes experience the death ofa friend or buddy, and intense grief reactions are to beexpected. When Soldiers/Civilians are present duringthe death-event, they may feel additional horror, evenimagining that he/she perhaps could have preventedthe death. It is important to remember that everyone’sphysical, emotional, and spiritual fitness can helpmaintain Family relationships during the grievingperiod.Experiencing Grief Happens To Everyone. Everyone 22will experience grief at some point in their lives. And Draft, 09 Juneeveryone experiences a variety of emotions andthoughts when grieving, depending upon their culture,Family expectations, age, spiritual resources, or personalcircumstances. Some people express their feelings,and others mask their pain and disappointments, cry,or retreat from Family and friends. Others try to self-medicate with alcohol or drugs. It is important foreveryone to talk about their losses, and it helps relieveintense emotions. *Children and youth will react totheir caretaker’s reactions, and may not understandwhat is going on. Age appropriate explanations areimportant. If services are needed for children, they mustbe developmentally sensitive.
23. Accepting Loss Requires a Positive Attitude — andTime. Longstanding grief, especially when unresolvedguilt is present, can interfere in Family and intimaterelationships. It can result in fear of getting close toanyone / Fear of rejection if “the truth” is discovered /Intense feelings of unworthiness leading to possible risktaking (financial, emotional, sexual) / Distancing selffrom others by avoiding social activity (e.g., returningphone calls, not keeping dates).Acceptance is the term used when the person nolonger feels deep anguish about the loss but is able toaccept the reality and move on with his/her life — it willtake time! 23 Draft, 09 June ULTIMATE TIPS Family Member Tip — Accept the changes in yourself and in each Family member. This is the first step in moving forward and healing after a loss. Soldier / Civilian Tip — Keep a positive, hopeful outlook towards the future, as time and circumstances help in dealing with the loss.
24. STAYING HEALTHYStaying healthy and fit physically, emotionally andspiritually, minimizes the stress associated with theday-to-day challenges of reintegration. Family membersoften lack sufficient energy or time to do things forthemselves, or just spend needed time together.Ways To Stay Fit. Everyone’s health status has animpact on the Family’s sense of well-being. It helps todiscover new skills and dare to try new things.Invest in good nutrition / Laugh at unexpectedsituations / Relax — deep breathing, yoga, readinginspirational books, listening to quiet music / Have 24healthy conversations with buddies, Family members Draft, 09 Juneand other helpful people / Be open to new solutions.Exercise regularly — it can even be a Family activity.Get Enough Good Sleep. Soldiers in the field reportdifficulty sleeping — it is difficult “to turn off” theiractive alert state. This can carry over as they transitionto home. Optimal sleep for the “average person” isabout 7-8 hours per 24 hours. Lack of adequate sleepcan result in every day performance problems —reduced alertness, memory deficits, reduced mentalflexibility, slower information processing, impairedjudgment, limited initiative and increased anger,depression, and anxiety.
25. Managing Sleep Problems. Maintain a regular sleepschedule / Pay attention to noise level, lighting, andtemperature / Relax before bedtime / Know a 10-15minute nap is optimal / Avoid napping after 3 pm /Exercise regularly / Recognize the effects of alcohol,medications, and caffeine found in sodas, teas, chocolate,and energy drinks / Do something relaxing until youfeel ready to sleep and avoid “watching the clock” if sleepis interrupted / Be aware of the stimulating effects ofelectronic gaming and television.Spirituality Provides Courage and Hope. It can helpthe Soldier/Civilian or Family member regain a senseof purpose in life, especially if a traumatic event hasoccurred. It is a time-honored source of strength, andArmy Chaplains are witnesses to the good that it can do. 25 Draft, 09 June ULTIMATE TIPS Family Member Tip — Take some time to focus on your emotional, physical, and spiritual fitness by getting into a good routine of exercise, sleep, healthy nutrition, and pampering. Know that Soldiers/ Civilians may have very irregular sleep, especially during the first few weeks upon returning home. Soldier / Civilian Tip — Get into a PT routine that pushes you physically to gratifying exhaustion. This stimulates the mind and body, promotes good sleep and allows mental, physical, and spiritual healing.
26. RESOURCES: ARMY SPECTRUM OF HEALING AND SUPPORTLife Skills Education — Information and activitiesthat facilitate self potential to maintain a healthy life;make informed decisions; communicate effectively; anddevelop coping skills.Supportive Counseling — Interpersonal educationthat provides emotional guidance throughout a short-term life event to help sustain well-being: Communityoutreach, individual or Family counseling, or supportgroups. SERVICES that manage short term situational lifeevents: Army OneSource (AOS): Army Community Services| National Guard and Army Reserve Family Programs | 26Military OneSource (MOS) | New Parent Support Program– Draft, 09 JuneHome Visitors | Victim Advocates | Chaplains | MilitaryFamily Life Consultants (MFLC) | Soldier Family AssistanceCenter (SFAC)Treatment / Therapy Programs — Clinical ormedical intervention that is typically long-term aimed atremediation of symptoms, to support health and well-being treatment goals. Clinical and therapeutic sessions,or in-patient care. SERVICES that manage longer termchallenges: Medical Treatment Facility (MTF) | MTF forFamily Advocacy | Clinical Army Substance Abuse Program(ASAP) | Marriage and Family Therapists | BehavioralHealth Services such as Psychiatry, Social Work Service(SWS), Psychology, Psychiatric Nursing | Department ofVeteran Affairs
27. Military OneSource www.militaryonesource.comThis DoD portal offers a toll-free telephone number(1-800-342-9647 stateside and CONUS) and web sitelink to email or call a master’s level consultant forconfidential counseling, at no cost 24/7. Offers articlesand coping tips for dealing with different situations.Army OneSource (AOS)www.myarmyonesource.comOfficial Army “one-stop knowledge portal” that offers allArmy members a central point for getting informationabout Family programs and access to services availableat Army Centers, on-line, and through 24/7 telephonesupport. 27Army Community Service (ACS) Draft, 09 Junewww.myarmyonesource.com (Select tab Family Programs)ACS provides a range of quality of life programs insupport of Department of Defense activities, thatpertain to deployment and Family well-being. OperationREADY (Select tab Deployment Readiness) trainingand other key services are provided: relationshipsupport (Family Advocacy), outreach, and emergencyassistance. Military Family Life Consultants (MFLC) offeranonymous, confidential support and counseling vialicensed clinicians.
28. RESOURCESNational Guard Family Programwww.guardfamily.orgThis web site provides information, services and supportto National Guard Soldiers and their Families. Phonenumbers (including state FAC and FAC Specialists); linksto support.Army Reserve Family Programswww.arfp.orgThe ARFP web site is a one-stop portal to get connectedwith Army Reserve Family support information andresources. Phone numbers, links to support agencies and 28interactive support are available 24/7. Draft, 09 JuneArmy Behavioral Healthwww.behavioralhealth.army.milAnswers frequently asked questions about deployment-related mental health issues, addresses warrior care, andidentifies resources for Soldiers and Family members.Soldier and Family Assistance Centerwww.myarmyonesource.com (Select tab Family Programs)This Center provides multiple Family services andconnections for wounded Soldiers, Families, and DACivilians. The virtual SFAC (vSFAC) is a web-based systemthat offers information and support; especially helpful forFamily members who are not near military facility.
29. My Hooah 4 Healthwww.hooah4health.comU.S. Army health promotion and wellness web site thatcovers topics of personal-physical, material, mental, andspiritual-state of Soldiers, Civilians, and their Families aswell as covers topics concerning the deployment.American Red Crosswww.redcross.orgThis web site provides information and interactivesupport; lists telephone and related links, and offersonline support 24/7.Strategic Outreach to Families of All Reservists(SOFAR) — www.sofarusa.org/about_sofar.htmlSOFAR is a nonprofit program that connects military 29Families with clinicians who provide free mental health Draft, 09 Juneservices with the primary focus on the extendedFamilies of Army Reserve and National Guard Soldiers.[Veterans Affairs and DoD] after deploymentwww.afterdeployment.orgThis web site was designed by the Department ofDefense and the Department of Veterans Affairs asan alternative to face-to-face counseling to decreasestigma and provide access to care to those who do notlive near a Military Treatment Facility. The focus is on “selfchecks” and online workshops which help assist withconcerns related to post deployment, in areas such assleep, seeking spiritual fitness, dealing with depression,handling stress, overcoming anger, etc.
30. ULTIMATE TIPS: Family MembersReconnecting — Acknowledge that it may beextremely difficult for the deployed member toget used to the day-to-day events and emotions ofFamily life. Careful management of your personalphysical and emotional health will help you toleratefrustration, which in turn will ease Family tensionduring this transition.Communicating — Commit to talking time to talkwith one another openly, as sharing fears, concerns,and experiences can be difficult and cannot be 30rushed. Follow-up often with your Soldier/Civilian Draft, 09 Juneabout ways they think will help him/her “fit backin.” Respect your Soldier’s/Civilian’s feelings aboutdiscussing his/her combat experiences.Healing — Avoid harboring unresolved anger orresentment that can generate more distress. Workout even subtle mistrust, jealousy or bitterness.Be proactive, know the warning signs. You knowyourself and your Soldier/Civilian. If problems arenot improving on their own, get help.
31. Grieving — Accept the changes in yourself — andin each Family member. This is the first step inmoving forward and healing from any loss.Staying Healthy — Take some time to focus onyour emotional, physical, and spiritual fitness bygetting into a good routine of exercise, sleep,healthy nutrition, and pampering. Know thatSoldiers/Civilians may have very irregular sleep,especially during the first few weeks upon returninghome.Personalized Army OneSource Support 31—Walk-in: garrison Army Community Service (ACS) Draft, 09 June or National Guard/Reserve facility—Telephone garrison ACS, National Guard or Army Reserve specialist, or Military OneSource—On-line information and resources.[See Helpful Resources (www.myarmyonesource.com)and page 24].
32. ULTIMATE TIPS: Soldiers / CiviliansReconnecting — Recognize that Family membershave learned new skills, become involved in newactivities or new hobbies, possibly made newfriends, and have taken on different roles. Children,especially, mature and change quickly. Be preparedto spend time getting to know everyone again.Monitor your instinctive desires to change Familyroles, routines, and priorities.Communicating — Make time for conversation,listen with an open mind, and let the other person 32know you understand. Follow-up often with Family Draft, 09 Junemembers/friends because they want to be partof your life. Talk with them about your combatexperiences on their own timeline, being carefulnot to overload.Healing — Avoid harboring unresolved anger orresentment that can generate more distress. Workout even subtle mistrust, jealousy or bitterness.Understand that if things were not always attendedto on the home front, that it was not a reflection onhis/her love for you. Don’t be afraid to take a mentalhealth profile, ask for help, or simply take a break. Itis okay to pace yourself, and take time to “fit in.”
33. Grieving — Accept any loss and keep a positive,hopeful outlook towards the future. Time andcircumstances change everything.Staying Healthy — Get into a PT routine thatpushes you physically to points of gratifyingexhaustion. This stimulates the mind and body,promotes good sleep and allows you to healmentally, physically, and spiritually.Personalized Army OneSource Support—Walk-in: garrison Army Community Service (ACS) or National Guard/Reserve facility 33—Telephone garrison ACS, National Guard or Army Draft, 09 June Reserve specialist, or Military OneSource—On-line information and resources.[See Helpful Resources (www.myarmyonesource.com)and page 24].
34. ACKNOWLEDGEMENTSU.S. Army RESET Handbook for Soldiers, DA Civilians,and Family MembersFirst Edition, 2010This guidebook was prepared for the U.S. Army Familyand Morale, Welfare and Recreation Command (FMWRC)by Cornell University, Department of Human Ecology,Family Life Development Center under cooperativeagreement 2008-48654-04795 with the Departmentof Agriculture, Cooperative State Research, Education,Extension Service (CSREES), and reviewed and edited 34by FMWRC staff. This handbook is based on the Draft, 09 Juneinformation presented in Operation READY materialsand trainings, Army regulation and guidance, andcivilian and military research on separation and combatdeployments.Graphic design, Wells Communication, Ithaca, N.Y.MATERIALS MAY BE REPRODUCED FORDEPARTMENT OF ARMY USE.
35. Back cover file is separate:REINT_FLIPBK_FAM_BKCVR.psd 36 Draft, 09 June Getting Prepared, Staying Prepared