West Ridge Church Marriage Ministry “ Can You Hear Me Now?” Communication Keys for Couples

“ Can You Hear Me Now?”

Communication Keys for Couples

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal Level What We Say We Reveal Elevator Talk Pleasantries Almost Nothing Reporter Talk Facts Know Intellectual Talk Thoughts Opinions Emotional Talk Emotions Feel Intimate Talk Secrets Desires/Fears/etc

Level What We Say We Reveal

Elevator Talk Pleasantries Almost Nothing

Reporter Talk Facts Know

Intellectual Talk Thoughts Opinions

Emotional Talk Emotions Feel

Intimate Talk Secrets Desires/Fears/etc

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal The ultimate goal of our communication is to increase our level of intimacy.

The ultimate goal of

our communication is to

increase our level of intimacy.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 1. We need to acknowledge natural tendency. Proverbs 12:15 The way of a fool seems right to him, but a wise man listens to advice. Proverbs 14:12 There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death. Proverbs 16:2 All a man's ways seem innocent to him, but motives are weighed by the LORD. Proverbs 16:25 There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death.

1. We need to acknowledge natural tendency.

Proverbs 12:15 The way of a fool seems right to him, but a

wise man listens to advice.

Proverbs 14:12 There is a way that seems right to a man,

but in the end it leads to death.

Proverbs 16:2 All a man's ways seem innocent to him, but

motives are weighed by the LORD.

Proverbs 16:25 There is a way that seems right to a man,

but in the end it leads to death.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 1. We need to acknowledge natural tendency. Luke 6:41-43 "Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, 'Brother, let me take the speck out of your eye,' when you yourself fail to see the plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.

1. We need to acknowledge natural tendency.

Luke 6:41-43

"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's

eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How

can you say to your brother, 'Brother, let me take the speck

out of your eye,' when you yourself fail to see the plank in

your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your

eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from

your brother's eye.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 1. We need to acknowledge natural tendency. My natural tendency is to think that I am right and you are wrong .

1. We need to acknowledge natural tendency.

My natural tendency is to think that I am right

and you are wrong .

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 1. We need to acknowledge natural tendency. My natural tendency is to think that I am right and you are wrong . That’s why we are quick to see other’s faults but very slow to see our own.

1. We need to acknowledge natural tendency.

My natural tendency is to think that I am right

and you are wrong .

That’s why we are quick to see other’s faults but

very slow to see our own.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 1. We need to acknowledge natural tendency. My natural tendency is to think that I am right and you are wrong . That’s why we are quick to see other’s faults but very slow to see our own. “ Our tendency is to judge others by their actions and ourselves by our intentions .”

1. We need to acknowledge natural tendency.

My natural tendency is to think that I am right

and you are wrong .

That’s why we are quick to see other’s faults but

very slow to see our own.

“ Our tendency is to judge others by their actions

and ourselves by our intentions .”

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 2. We must get to the heart of our problems:

2. We must get to the heart of our problems:

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 2. We must get to the heart of our problems: Our Heart

2. We must get to the heart of our problems:

Our Heart

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 2. We must get to the heart of our problems. Psalms 139:23-24 Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. Matthew 12:34 You brood of vipers, how can you who are evil say anything good? For out of the overflow of the Heart the mouth speaks . Matthew 15:18 But the things that come out of the mouth come from the heart ….

2. We must get to the heart of our problems.

Psalms 139:23-24 Search me, O God, and know my heart;

test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any

offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.

Matthew 12:34 You brood of vipers, how can you who

are evil say anything good? For out of the overflow of the

Heart the mouth speaks .

Matthew 15:18 But the things that come out of the mouth

come from the heart ….

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 2. We must get to the heart of our problems. The word “heart” is used in Scripture to mean our inner self…the real me.

2. We must get to the heart of our problems.

The word “heart” is used in Scripture to mean

our inner self…the real me.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 2. We must get to the heart of our problems. The word “heart” is used in Scripture to mean our inner self…the real me. Our words and actions revea l what’s really in our heart.

2. We must get to the heart of our problems.

The word “heart” is used in Scripture to mean

our inner self…the real me.

Our words and actions revea l what’s really

in our heart.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 3. Confess past failures to God and our spouse Psalm 32:5 Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, "I will confess my transgressions to the LORD "— and you forgave the guilt of my sin. Proverbs 28:13 He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy.

3. Confess past failures to God and our spouse

Psalm 32:5 Then I acknowledged my sin to

you and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, "I

will confess my transgressions to the LORD "—

and you forgave the guilt of my sin.

Proverbs 28:13 He who conceals his sins does

not prosper, but whoever confesses and

renounces them finds mercy.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 3. Confess past failures to God and our spouse 1 John 1:8-9 If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

3. Confess past failures to God and our spouse

1 John 1:8-9

If we claim to be without sin, we deceive

ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we

confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will

forgive us our sins and purify us from all

unrighteousness.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 3. Confess past failures to God and our spouse When we confess, we simply agree with God that we are wrong and He is right.

3. Confess past failures to God and our spouse

When we confess, we simply agree with God

that we are wrong and He is right.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 3. Confess past failures to God and our spouse James 5:16 Therefore confess your sins to each other…

3. Confess past failures to God and our spouse

James 5:16

Therefore confess your sins to each other…

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 3. Confess past failures to God and our spouse James 5:16 Therefore confess your sins to each other… In addition, we need to confess to our spouse when we have wronged them.

3. Confess past failures to God and our spouse

James 5:16

Therefore confess your sins to each other…

In addition, we need to confess to our spouse

when we have wronged them.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 3. Confess past failures to God and our spouse James 5:16 Therefore confess your sins to each other… In addition, we need to confess to our spouse when we have wronged them. Our spouse is our God-given accountability partner.

3. Confess past failures to God and our spouse

James 5:16

Therefore confess your sins to each other…

In addition, we need to confess to our spouse

when we have wronged them.

Our spouse is our God-given accountability

partner.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 4. We deal with our heart effectively only by having our mind renewed by God’s Word.

4. We deal with our heart effectively only

by having our mind renewed by God’s Word.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 4. We deal with our heart effectively only by having our mind renewed by God’s Word. Romans 12:2 Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind .

4. We deal with our heart effectively only

by having our mind renewed by God’s Word.

Romans 12:2

Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this

world, but be transformed by the renewing of

your mind .

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 4. We deal with our heart effectively only by having our mind renewed by God’s Word. It is the ultimate mark of immaturity to say, “ That’s just the way I am.”

4. We deal with our heart effectively only

by having our mind renewed by God’s Word.

It is the ultimate mark of immaturity to say,

“ That’s just the way I am.”

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 4. We deal with our heart effectively only by having our mind renewed by God’s Word. It is the ultimate mark of immaturity to say, “ That’s just the way I am.” No matter what our circumstances, we absolutely can change our bad patterns into positive, mature, and honorable ones.

4. We deal with our heart effectively only

by having our mind renewed by God’s Word.

It is the ultimate mark of immaturity to say,

“ That’s just the way I am.”

No matter what our circumstances, we

absolutely can change our bad patterns into

positive, mature, and honorable ones.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 5. Our mind is renewed by learning truth and applying it to our life. John 8:31-32 If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.

5. Our mind is renewed by learning truth and

applying it to our life.

John 8:31-32

If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples.

Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you

free.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 5. Our mind is renewed by learning truth and applying it to our life. James 1:22-25 Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves . Do what it says. Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like a man who looks at his face in a mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. But the man who looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues to do this, not forgetting what he has heard, but doing it—he will be blessed in what he does.

5. Our mind is renewed by learning truth and

applying it to our life.

James 1:22-25

Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves .

Do what it says. Anyone who listens to the word but does

not do what it says is like a man who looks at his face in a

mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and

immediately forgets what he looks like. But the man who

looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and

continues to do this, not forgetting what he has heard, but

doing it—he will be blessed in what he does.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 5. Our mind is renewed by learning truth and applying it to our life. We are set free from our past bad patterns as we consciously embrace God’s Word and apply it to our lives .

5. Our mind is renewed by learning truth and

applying it to our life.

We are set free from our past bad patterns as we

consciously embrace God’s Word and apply it to

our lives .

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (1) Begin to see and relate properly to God.

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(1) Begin to see and relate properly to God.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (1) Begin to see and relate properly to God. Psalm 51:17 The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise. Ecclesiastes 5:2 Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God. God is in heaven and you are on earth, so let your words be few.

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(1) Begin to see and relate properly to God.

Psalm 51:17 The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a

broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise.

Ecclesiastes 5:2 Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be

hasty in your heart to utter anything before God. God is in

heaven and you are on earth, so let your words be few.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (1) Begin to see and relate properly to God. Isaiah 66:2 "This is the one I esteem : he who is humble and contrite in spirit , and trembles at my word .” James 4:6-10 God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble . Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Come near to God and he will come near to you.…. Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(1) Begin to see and relate properly to God.

Isaiah 66:2 "This is the one I esteem : he who is

humble and contrite in spirit , and trembles at my word .”

James 4:6-10 God opposes the proud but gives grace

to the humble . Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist

the devil, and he will flee from you. Come near to God

and he will come near to you.…. Humble yourselves

before the Lord, and he will lift you up.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (1) Begin to see and relate properly to God. Humility is simply seeing God for Who He is….and ourselves for who we are.

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(1) Begin to see and relate properly to God.

Humility is simply seeing God for Who He

is….and ourselves for who we are.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (1) Begin to see and relate properly to God. Humility is simply seeing God for Who He is….and ourselves for who we are. We should regularly acknowledge our absolute need of Him in our life .

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(1) Begin to see and relate properly to God.

Humility is simply seeing God for Who He

is….and ourselves for who we are.

We should regularly acknowledge our absolute

need of Him in our life .

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (1) Begin to see and relate properly to God. We need to consciously invite God to be an active Guide in our marriage.

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(1) Begin to see and relate properly to God.

We need to consciously invite God to be an

active Guide in our marriage.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (1) Begin to see and relate properly to God. We need to consciously invite God to be an active Guide in our marriage. God moves into action on our behalf when we humble ourselves.

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(1) Begin to see and relate properly to God.

We need to consciously invite God to be an

active Guide in our marriage.

God moves into action on our behalf when we

humble ourselves.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (1) Begin to see and relate properly to God. (2) Begin to see our spouse as God sees them.

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(1) Begin to see and relate properly to God.

(2) Begin to see our spouse as God sees them.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (2) Begin to see our spouse as God sees them. Genesis 1:27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. Romans 8:32 He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things?

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(2) Begin to see our spouse as God sees them.

Genesis 1:27

So God created man in his own image, in the image of

God he created him; male and female he created them.

Romans 8:32

He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for

us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously

give us all things?

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (2) Begin to see our spouse as God sees them. Romans 12:9-10 Love must be sincere….. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves . Philippians 2:3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves…

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(2) Begin to see our spouse as God sees them.

Romans 12:9-10

Love must be sincere….. Be devoted to one another in

brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves .

Philippians 2:3

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in

humility consider others better than yourselves…

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (2) Begin to see our spouse as God sees them. We need to see them as the incredibly important person that they are!

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(2) Begin to see our spouse as God sees them.

We need to see them as the incredibly important

person that they are!

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (2) Begin to see our spouse as God sees them. We need to see them as the incredibly important person that they are! Because we treat people the way we VIEW them.

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(2) Begin to see our spouse as God sees them.

We need to see them as the incredibly important

person that they are!

Because we treat people the way we VIEW them.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (1) Begin to see and relate properly to God. (2) Begin to see our spouse as God sees them. (3) Look for ways to verbally encourage them.

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(1) Begin to see and relate properly to God.

(2) Begin to see our spouse as God sees them.

(3) Look for ways to verbally encourage them.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (3) Look for ways to verbally encourage them. Proverbs 15:23 A man finds joy in giving an apt reply — and how good is a timely word! Proverbs 16:24 Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. Proverbs 25:11 A word aptly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of sliver .

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(3) Look for ways to verbally encourage them.

Proverbs 15:23 A man finds joy in giving an apt reply

— and how good is a timely word!

Proverbs 16:24 Pleasant words are a honeycomb,

sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.

Proverbs 25:11 A word aptly spoken is like apples of

gold in settings of sliver .

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (3) Look for ways to verbally encourage them. Ephesians 4:15 Instead, speaking the truth in love , we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head…. Ephesians 4:29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs , that it may benefit those who listen.

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(3) Look for ways to verbally encourage them.

Ephesians 4:15 Instead, speaking the truth in love , we

will in all things grow up into him who is the Head….

Ephesians 4:29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come

out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building

others up according to their needs , that it may benefit

those who listen.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (3) Look for ways to verbally encourage them. Colossians 4:6 Let your conversation be always full of grace , seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone 1 Thessalonians 5:11 Therefore encourage one another and build each other up , just as…you are doing. Hebrews 10:24 And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds.

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(3) Look for ways to verbally encourage them.

Colossians 4:6

Let your conversation be always full of grace , seasoned

with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone

1 Thessalonians 5:11 Therefore encourage one

another and build each other up , just as…you are doing.

Hebrews 10:24 And let us consider how we may spur

one another on toward love and good deeds.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (3) Look for ways to verbally encourage them. It is absolutely true that we all have an “ emotional bank account!”

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(3) Look for ways to verbally encourage them.

It is absolutely true that we all have an

“ emotional bank account!”

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (3) Look for ways to verbally encourage them. It is absolutely true that we all have an “ emotional bank account!” We should be making massive deposits each day to our spouse’s account.

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(3) Look for ways to verbally encourage them.

It is absolutely true that we all have an

“ emotional bank account!”

We should be making massive deposits

each day to our spouse’s account.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (1) Begin to see and relate properly to God. (2) Begin to see our spouse as God sees them. (3) Look for ways to verbally encourage them. (4) Develop an attitude of a servant to spouse.

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(1) Begin to see and relate properly to God.

(2) Begin to see our spouse as God sees them.

(3) Look for ways to verbally encourage them.

(4) Develop an attitude of a servant to spouse.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (4) Develop an attitude of a servant to spouse. Matthew 20:25-27 "You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant , and whoever wants to be first must be your slave… Mark 10:45 For even the Son of Man did not come to be served but to serve and to give his life as a ransom for many.

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(4) Develop an attitude of a servant to spouse.

Matthew 20:25-27 "You know that the rulers of the

Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise

authority over them. Not so with you. Instead, whoever

wants to become great among you must be your servant ,

and whoever wants to be first must be your slave…

Mark 10:45 For even the Son of Man did not come to be

served but to serve and to give his life as a ransom for many.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (4) Develop an attitude of a servant to spouse. Philippians 2:4 – 7 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility conside r others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus : Who…. Made himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant , being made in human likeness….. he humbled himself and became obedient to death — even death on a cross!

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(4) Develop an attitude of a servant to spouse.

Philippians 2:4 – 7 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or

vain conceit, but in humility conside r others better than

yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own

interests, but also to the interests of others. Your attitude

should be the same as that of Christ Jesus : Who…. Made

himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant , being

made in human likeness….. he humbled himself and became

obedient to death — even death on a cross!

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (4) Develop an attitude of a servant to spouse. Galatians 5:13 You, my brothers, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the sinful nature; rather, serve one another in love . Ephesians 2:10 For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works , which God prepared in advance for us to do.

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(4) Develop an attitude of a servant to spouse.

Galatians 5:13 You, my brothers, were called to be free.

But do not use your freedom to indulge the sinful nature;

rather, serve one another in love .

Ephesians 2:10 For we are God's workmanship, created in

Christ Jesus to do good works , which God prepared in

advance for us to do.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (4) Develop an attitude of a servant to spouse. 1 Peter 4:10 Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God's grace in its various forms.

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(4) Develop an attitude of a servant to spouse.

1 Peter 4:10 Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God's grace in its various forms.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (4) Develop an attitude of a servant to spouse. We are behaving in a Godly manner when we serve our spouse.

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(4) Develop an attitude of a servant to spouse.

We are behaving in a Godly manner when we

serve our spouse.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (4) Develop an attitude of a servant to spouse. We are behaving in a Godly manner when we serve our spouse. We KICK open the door to great communication as we serve our spouse!

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(4) Develop an attitude of a servant to spouse.

We are behaving in a Godly manner when we

serve our spouse.

We KICK open the door to great communication

as we serve our spouse!

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (4) Develop an attitude of a servant to spouse. We are behaving in a Godly manner when we serve our spouse. We KICK open the door to great communication as we serve our spouse! Challenge: Attempt to out-serve your spouse!

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(4) Develop an attitude of a servant to spouse.

We are behaving in a Godly manner when we

serve our spouse.

We KICK open the door to great communication

as we serve our spouse!

Challenge: Attempt to out-serve your spouse!

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (1) Begin to see and relate properly to God. (2) Begin to see our spouse as God sees them. (3) Look for ways to verbally encourage them. (4) Develop an attitude of a servant to spouse. (5) We learn to talk….if we feel like it or not.

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(1) Begin to see and relate properly to God.

(2) Begin to see our spouse as God sees them.

(3) Look for ways to verbally encourage them.

(4) Develop an attitude of a servant to spouse.

(5) We learn to talk….if we feel like it or not.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (5) We learn to talk….if we feel like it or not. Proverbs 16:21 The wise in heart are called discerning, and pleasant words promote instruction. 1 Peter 3:7 Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives…

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(5) We learn to talk….if we feel like it or not.

Proverbs 16:21 The wise in heart are called discerning, and pleasant words promote instruction.

1 Peter 3:7

Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives…

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (5) We learn to talk….if we feel like it or not. A husband’s silence increases the anxiety of his wife.

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(5) We learn to talk….if we feel like it or not.

A husband’s silence increases the anxiety of

his wife.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (5) We learn to talk….if we feel like it or not. A husband’s silence increases the anxiety of his wife. Work at expressing how you feel .

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(5) We learn to talk….if we feel like it or not.

A husband’s silence increases the anxiety of

his wife.

Work at expressing how you feel .

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (1) Begin to see and relate properly to God. (2) Begin to see our spouse as God sees them. (3) Look for ways to verbally encourage them. (4) Develop an attitude of a servant to spouse. (5) We learn to talk….if we feel like it or not. (6) We learn to give appropriate feedback .

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(1) Begin to see and relate properly to God.

(2) Begin to see our spouse as God sees them.

(3) Look for ways to verbally encourage them.

(4) Develop an attitude of a servant to spouse.

(5) We learn to talk….if we feel like it or not.

(6) We learn to give appropriate feedback .

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (6) We learn to give appropriate feedback . Proverbs 12:18 Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. Proverbs 15:2 The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, but the mouth of the fool gushes folly.

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(6) We learn to give appropriate feedback .

Proverbs 12:18 Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.

Proverbs 15:2 The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, but the mouth of the fool gushes folly.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (6) We learn to give appropriate feedback . A wise spouse will affirm the positive efforts of their spouse.

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(6) We learn to give appropriate feedback .

A wise spouse will affirm the positive efforts of

their spouse.

V. Beyond Basics to the Ultimate Goal 6. In our marriage, applying truth means we : (6) We learn to give appropriate feedback . A wise spouse will affirm the positive efforts of their spouse. A wise spouse will not over-react when things don’t go perfectly.

6. In our marriage, applying truth means we :

(6) We learn to give appropriate feedback .

A wise spouse will affirm the positive efforts of

their spouse.

A wise spouse will not over-react when things

don’t go perfectly.

Five Major Keys of Effective Communication 1. Maturing Character 2. Mutual Understanding 3. Unconditional Acceptance 4. Common Sense 5. Selfless Service

Five Major Keys of Effective Communication

1. Maturing Character

2. Mutual Understanding

3. Unconditional Acceptance

4. Common Sense

5. Selfless Service