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  • 1. MEN’S RIGHTS CONFERENCE Indian Law Institute New Delhi August 4, 2013 Save Family Foundation 1Save Family Foundation
  • 2. Contents • Frequently Asked Questions • Success Stories • Men’s Rights Movement • Lobbying with MPs • Challenges 2Save Family Foundation
  • 3. Frequently Asked Questions !!! (FAQs) 3Save Family Foundation
  • 4. DISCLAIMER • We are NOT legal experts • The views expressed are entirely based on experiences • Any decision that you take for your cases will be entirely your responsibility • None of the solutions is “Guaranteed” 4Save Family Foundation
  • 5. • Before Joining SIF • Common Myths • Frequently Asked Questions 5 FAQs - Agenda Save Family Foundation
  • 6. Before Joining SIF • Scared • Depressed • Helpless • Socially Cutoff/No One to share • Victimized 6Save Family Foundation
  • 7. Common Myths • I have not taken any dowry, nothing can happen to me • I’ll be arrested as soon as cases are filed • My case is false, but other’s cases might be true • Dowry cases can’t be filed after 7 yrs of marriage • I have hired a “good” lawyer, so I am in safe hands 7Save Family Foundation
  • 8. Frequently Asked Questions Q: I am a new to SIF, how can SIF help me? • We don’t give you fish to eat, We teach you how to fish!! • You have to help yourself !! • SIF gives you a platform to learn, at the worst possible crisis of your life Q: What does SIF Expect in return? • We expect people to contribute to the movement • Be an activist, Help others Q: I do not have a SIF chapter in my town, What should I do? • Start a chapter 8Save Family Foundation
  • 9. Frequently Asked Questions Q: Why are Men’s right Organizations like SIF not so effective/well known ? • Priorities: Can travel 2000km for case, but don’t travel 20 Km for cause • Men don’t support men • Lack of Vision: Focus on Cases (not Law) • Men Don't Spend time/bandwidth in fighting the “Laws” • Men are too Shy • Common man think that there are ZERO % chances of divorce in his lifetime 9Save Family Foundation
  • 10. Frequently Asked Questions Q: What precautions should be taken at the time of marriage of son/daughter ? • Do Not marry in a 498A family • Do Not marry in the family where people are involved in illegal/fraudulant activities • Make sure that the list of Gifts (“stridhan”) is signed by the couple along with 2 witnesses from each side. This should be video graphed • Marriage certificate should say that NO dowry was given or taken during the marriage 10Save Family Foundation
  • 11. Frequently Asked Questions Q: My wife is staying with me and threatening me for false cases, What should I do? • Start recording (Video/Audio) all her nonsense • Try if you can stay alone with your wife; away from your parents/family • Keep a track of all the expenses that you are doing on her • Keep all important documents/valuables away from her • Keep a proof of her educational Qualifications, Job , Salary etc • Keep relatives/neighbour informed • Focus on Knowledge/don’t be a victim At the time she leaves: • Inform the police as soon as she leaves the house • Take a receipt of the things that she is carrying with her; get it signed by witnesses • Try to keep the kids (if possible) 11Save Family Foundation
  • 12. Frequently Asked Questions Q: My Case is in CAW cell, What to do? • Do not settle cases in CAW • Return her items ASAP • Never Loose temper with IO • Apply for AB • Don’t get extorted for AB, Fight till SC • Watch the SFF Commando training Video (@youtube) • In case she wants to return, ask her to: – Give on a affidavit that the complaint is false – No Dowry was given/demanded or during/after marriage – Publish the same in Newspaper – Ask her to say sorry to your parents, in CAW (Video record) 12Save Family Foundation
  • 13. Frequently Asked Questions Q: My wife is NOT staying with me but threatening me for false cases, What should I do? • Start recording all phone calls with her (family) • Keep a record of your presence (especially on weekends/holidays) • Do not close channels of communications • Keep a tab on FIR • No Anticipatory Bail in UP, Uttrakhand 13Save Family Foundation
  • 14. Frequently Asked Questions Q:Can my parents/married sister be implicated in the case, even if they are staying separately? • It is a very common practice to implicate Sisters, Parents and other family members • This is done to create the pressure on husbands and create a panic situation • Suggestion: Apply separate bail for family members 14Save Family Foundation
  • 15. Frequently Asked Questions Q: What all Cases can be filed on me? • IPC 498A (Dowry Harassment) • IPC 406 (Criminal Breach Of Trust) • IPC 323 (voluntarily causing hurt) • IPC 504 (Intentional insult with intent to provoke) • IPC 506 (Punishment for criminal intimidation) • IPC 511 (attempting to commit offences punishable with imprisonment for life) • *IPC 307 (Attempt to Murder) • CrPC 125 (Maintenance) • PWDV 2005 (Prevention of Women against DV, 2005) * Common in UP, Bihar, Rajasthan 15Save Family Foundation
  • 16. Frequently Asked Questions Q: Shall I file a divorce/RCR on my own? • Filing Divorce/RCR is a waste of Time/Energy/Money • We do not advise to file a divorce /RCR • There is nothing called “contested divorce” for Indian husbands • If u have sufficient evidences/witness look for opportunities to file Criminal cases • Have patience, and wait for the opposite party to come to your terms for Mutual divorce 16Save Family Foundation
  • 17. Frequently Asked Questions Q: My Wife has filed a transfer petition in HC/SC on my RCR/Divorce case? What should I do ? • Hire a lawyer in HC/SC and file a reply • Ask for a time bound disposal of case • Defend it, but don’t expect anything • Focus on the places where Opposite party has hidden facts from court and have come with “Unclean Hands” 17Save Family Foundation
  • 18. Frequently Asked Questions Q: Multiple maintenance cases have been filed on me, What should I do ? • She will get maintenance under one only, but you will have to fight all of them • Keep proofs of her Educational Qualifications, Job etc. • Focus on your liabilities and responsibilities • File written arguments, Use Citations • Get rid of your assets in a planned manner • Do NOT leave the Job • Increase your Income, not your salary 18Save Family Foundation
  • 19. Frequently Asked Questions Q: I have a house on my name, can wife claim right on that house ? Can she claim residence in my parental house? • Yes, She can claim the right to stay in your house • She can claim the RTR or alternate arrangements in Matrimonial home • If IrBM is passed, she can claim 50% property (Under Process) 19Save Family Foundation
  • 20. Frequently Asked Questions Q: My wife is demanding XX lacs to settle the cases, shall I go ahead ? • We don’t recommend to settle cases by paying money • It has its own repercussions 20Save Family Foundation
  • 21. Frequently Asked Questions Q:My wife has filed cases/complaints on me (in past) and now she wants to come back? • We do NOT recommend to such wife back, in fact we recommend to Boycott such families/girls 21Save Family Foundation
  • 22. Frequently Asked Questions Q: Will getting disowned from my parents help me or them? • NO, it does’t means that your parents haven’t tortured • Generally, allegations are for time before disownment 22Save Family Foundation
  • 23. Frequently Asked Questions Q: Every thing is against men, what can I do ? • RTI (Right to Information) • TEP (Tax Evasion Petition) • Write to Sr. citizen commission/NCW • Meet/Write to MP/MLA/PMO/LM • Meet Sr. Police Officers and create pressure for fair Investigation • Boycott 498A families/girls • Attend Weekly Meetings • Be a commando • Have Patience, Look for opportunities to file counter cases * Use Hindi especially in UP, MP, Rajasthan, Bihar etc. 23Save Family Foundation
  • 24. Success Stories Welcome to the wonderful world of Success stories 24Save Family Foundation
  • 25. Anticipatory Bail and TEP • Name: Sanjay Sachdeva • Achievement: Anticipatory bail without any condition • No upfront money or maintenance • Heavy penalty imposed on FIL through income tax petition 25Save Family Foundation
  • 26. Counter case • Name: Pankaj Kumar • Achievement: Registration of FIR against wife under section IPC 420/524 for the fake bills submitted by complainant in support of her Istridhan list • RTI and follow-up with sales tax • FIR through CrPc 156(3) Save Family Foundation 26
  • 27. Dismiss of DV case • Name: Swarup Sarkar • Achievement: Dismissal of Domestic Violence case • Prima Face No Evidence of Domestic Violence • Key factor: Small two line hand written paper by Wife that she left her Home own will. • Hide fact in court & Unclean Hand to Mislead court Save Family Foundation 27
  • 28. Maintenance from Wife • Name: Yogesh Verma • Achievement: Maintenance fixed from Wife to Husband • FIR registered against wife u/s 420,506 and charge sheet submitted • Charges framed and case is in trail 28Save Family Foundation
  • 29. No Maintenance to wife • Name: Wasif Ali • Achievement: No maintenance in CrPc 125 • Complainant filled the case from Pune to harass while she was residing at Delhi • Fought on ground of jurisdiction and won • Key Success Factor: Employment proof through RTI from Private School Save Family Foundation 29
  • 30. • Name: Amit Lakhani • Achievement: Granted regular bail without Judicial custody • Husband arrested from Delhi and taken to Indore • Whole networking of SIF PAN India level was used and he got bail as he reached Indore Save Family Foundation 30 Most Important
  • 31. RTI • Name: Sandeep Marwah • Achievement: Heavy penalty imposed on FIL from Sales tax and service tax through RTI • FIR registered against FIL U/S 420/468/471 Save Family Foundation 31
  • 32. Discharge in IPC 406 • Name: Pankaj Kataria-Faridabad • Achievement: Discharge in 406 through Party in person Save Family Foundation 32
  • 33. Child Visitation • Name: Vijay Naru • Achievement: Regular continuous visitation of two children • Celebrating his B'day and children b’day together from last few years • 3-5 days visitation per week in summer and winter vacations • Visitation during festivals like-Diwali, Dusshera etc • winter vacation • Diwali 33Save Family Foundation
  • 34. Dowry prohibition act • Name: Manish Mittal • Achievement: Registration of case under dowry prohibition act against in-laws 34Save Family Foundation
  • 35. Acquittal in 304B • Name: Sunichay Sarkaar • Achievement: Acquittal in 304B 35Save Family Foundation
  • 36. Tools  Right to Information Act, 2005  Tax Evasion Petition  Guidance through yahoo group  Networking with like minded people  Weekly meetings  Help documents available on SIF yahoo group  498A – Survival Guide  How to Handle CAW cell  All about Tax Evasion Petition  Judgments repository  Warning for Indian bachelor  Circulars and RTI templates  Internet blogs of seniors Save Family Foundation 36
  • 37. General Information • All references are from the victims residing in NCR and shown just as an example. There are many other similar cases as success stories from across the country. 37Save Family Foundation
  • 38. Men’s Rights Movement Save Family Foundation 38
  • 39. Indian Laws - Current Situation 39Save Family Foundation
  • 40. No One to Listen !! 40Save Family Foundation
  • 41. Legal Terrorism !! 41Save Family Foundation
  • 42. Men Suicide – A Serious Concern 42Save Family Foundation
  • 43. 19907 62433 2566 554 2379 10756 32852 2354 729 1325 0 10000 20000 30000 40000 50000 60000 70000 Never Married Married Widowed/Widower Divorcee Separated MEN WOMEN • Suicides of married men has skyrocketed in the past 13 years • Almost twice the number of married men commit suicide Source: NCRB Men Are Dying Faster Than Women…. 43Save Family Foundation
  • 44. 35245 32867 37168 41143 45000 46000 47000 48409 49545 51623 52483 55452 57593 57639 58192 61453 62433 24691 23848 26076 28562 30000 28000 28000 26936 27603 28045 28188 29869 30064 30224 31300 31754 32582 0 10000 20000 30000 40000 50000 60000 70000 1995 1996 1997 1998 1999 2000 2001 2002 2003 2004 2005 2006 2007 2008 2009 2010 2011 Years Suicide when married (past 15 years)Husband Suicides Wife Suicides Married Men Are Dying Even Faster…. 44Save Family Foundation
  • 45. Hard Reality of 21st century Women • She wants all your property in her name. Her father and brothers won’t give it to her, so she will take it from you. • Wants all your salary and income in her account. Her father and brothers never used to give her enough money for her expenses. • Wants you to throw your parents out of your home immediately after marriage. You better do it or she has a law to support her in throwing you and your parents out. • Anything you say to her is a torture to her. She can slap you and there is no law for your to safeguard yourself from this domestic violence. Kill Legal Terrorists Using Legal System 45Save Family Foundation
  • 46. United Nations Report on Elder Abuse In India Kill Legal Terrorists Using Legal System 46Save Family Foundation
  • 47. First Things' First: Be happy !! • STRESS = UNCERTINITY * IMPORTANCE • MAKE ONE OF THEM ZERO, YOUR STRESS WILL BE ZERO. IF NOT, use following 3A formula: – ACTION PLAN – ACT – AVOID Kill Legal Terrorists Using Legal System 47Save Family Foundation
  • 48. ATTITUDE/MIND SET OF COMMANDO • MUST READ/VIEW THE CHYNAKAYA NITI • ALWAYS LOOK FOR A CHANDRA GUPTA MAURYA • INDENTIFY THE STRENGHT AND WEEKNESS OF ENEMY • CREATE FEAR IN THE MIND OF ENEMY CAMP • SHARPEN YOUR WEAPEN • SET THE ACTION BY EXAMPLES THAN ADVICE/INSTRUCT OTHERS • USE CARPET BOMBING • ALWAYS THINK ABOUT WELLFARE OF MEN • EMOTION AND LEGAL ISSUE SHOULD NOT BE COMBINED. • LEARN TO DIE AS DEBIT MAN THAN CREDIT MAN. • FORMATION OF TEAM : LIKE POLITICAL CAMPAIN, MEDIA CAMPAIN, LEGAL CAMPAIN, WEEKLY MEETINGS, DATA BASE, EMAIL CAMPAIN..ETC. ALLOW THE DIFFERENCE OF OPINION, ACTION PLAN TO EXECUTE IN DIGNIFIED WAY AND SUPPORT THE CAUSE, NOT ANY INDIVIDUAL, TO STOP LEGAL TERRORISM. Kill Legal Terrorists Using Legal System 48Save Family Foundation
  • 49. TOOLS OF COMMANDO • Blog/Website: Men suicide / Murder / Crime Against Men data • Mail id of Journalist / media Houses • Address of all MPs / MLAs • Address and mail id of all related Ministries • All men NGO head contact numbers / mail ids • Attend weekly meetings • Study all men suffering / news • Protest for any anti male article / news • Victim story • Press conference • Meetings / Dharna • Pamphlet / Poster / mass email activity • Social net working • Non-Apologetic to any women having issues • Create alternative to men than marriage system • Create more and more study reports • Establish more and more media through programs / videos on YouTube • Learn to use multidimensional strategy • Use the Technology AWARENESS IS KEY TO STOP LEGAL TERRORISM. Kill Legal Terrorists Using Legal System 49Save Family Foundation
  • 50. WHAT IS OUR DEMAND • ALL LAW / POLICYS SHOULD BE GENDER NETURAL. THE MAN / WOMAN TERM TO BE REPLACED BY “PERSON” AND HUSBAND / WIFE TO BE REPLACED BY “SPOUSE”. • GIRLS / BOYS SHOULD GET EQUAL SHARE AND RESPONSIBILITY IN PARENTAL PROPERTY / ASSESTS. • ANY MARRIAGE DISPUTE TO BE RESOLVED THORUGH CIVIL LAW, NO CRIMINAL LAW SHOULD BE ALLOWED. • ESTABLISH A MEN’s WELFARE MINISTRY. • MISUSE CLAUSE TO BE INSERTED IN ALL SPECIAL LAWS WHICH HAVE JAIL AND FINE TERMS. • IF WOMEN DO NOT DO CRIME WHY ARE THEY AFRAID TO ACCEPT THE GENDER NETURAL LAW? INJUSTICE SOME WHERE IS DIRECT THREAT OF JUSTICE EVERY WHERE. Kill Legal Terrorists Using Legal System 50Save Family Foundation
  • 51. Three vital action areas Save Family Foundation 51 SIF and allied NGOs Men’s rights awareness in Society Change Existing laws like 498a / DV STOP New laws from forming Long term 10-20 yrs
  • 52. LOBBYING with MPs 52Save Family Foundation
  • 53. What is it ? Activity of attempting to influence decisions made by officials in the government, most often MP’s and Ministers of states. Lobbying involves more than persuading legislators. Lobbyists research and analyze legislation or regulatory proposals, attend hearings, and educate government officials on important issues. Lobbyists also work to change public opinion through campaigns or by influencing 'opinion leaders'. 53Save Family Foundation
  • 54. it ? A lobbyist may be anyone, A lobbyist is an activist who seeks to persuade members of the government to enact legislation that would benefit their group. It can be : • Organized Groups • Individuals • Nonprofit organizations • Others 54Save Family Foundation
  • 55. it ? The need of lobbying was felt when political parties /people with inordinate socioeconomic power started corrupting the law (twisting it away from fairness) in order to serve their own conflict of interest. Lobby groups may concentrate their efforts on the legislatures, where laws are created, but may also use the judicial branch to advance their causes. The idea is to influence the thought process of the MP’s/ Political parties so that the concerns are addressed while debating in the parliament 55Save Family Foundation
  • 56. Lobbying • Awareness regarding the organization/ strength of group • Voice of the organization/people is conveyed to the law makers • Demands of the lobbying group can be negotiated better. • Chance to represent the group on a political platform 56Save Family Foundation
  • 57. Nominations? • Name • Contact number • Availability days Note: We do lobbying in evening. Tentative time: 17:00 to timings 21:00 57Save Family Foundation
  • 58. Challenges Save Family Foundation 58
  • 59. Challenges • Activities (Ground level/Internet) • Political Party • Lobbying with MP/MLA • Research Activity • Fund Generation- Outsource 59Save Family Foundation
  • 60. Challenges - Activities Dharna and Protest • Headcount – to take to a level of at least 1000 • Jail Bharo – People ready to get arrested • Help from Khap/Student Unions/Small Political Parties Pamphlets & Posters • Ready Pamphlets & Posters in Meetings Database • Organized way of handling it Legal Interventions • PILs 60Save Family Foundation
  • 61. Challenges – Political Party • Political Party formation • 150 addresses, voting card, affidavit • Office address • Full time representative to manage it – min. 25 61Save Family Foundation
  • 62. Challenges – Lobbying with MPs • Lobbying Team • Identifying and meeting MPs – MPs in favour/against/neutral • Build relationship with them – viz send greeting cards in IMD etc 62Save Family Foundation
  • 63. Challenges –Research Activities • We have to come up with plenty of Research Reports and Analysis • We lack a good research team • Niladri is our Delhi Research Head – he needs a good research team 63Save Family Foundation
  • 64. Challenges -Fund Generation- Outsource • SFF/SIF is a non-funded organisation, we don’t charge anything for counseling • We work on sponsorship and voluntary contribution for activities • Funds can be generated through – Corporate – Voluntary Donors 64Save Family Foundation
  • 65. Thank You !!! Save Family Foundation 65

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