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The big question, of course, is what is left of our male-ness when our jobs and traditional roles disappear? What can we do about it?

The big question, of course, is what is left of our male-ness when our jobs and traditional roles disappear? What can we do about it?

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  • 1. Want2get on? is a unique career coaching service that offers 1:1 support for those whowant to draw upon their Christian faith and apply it in a practical way to their job situation.www.want2geton.co.uk Tel: 07503 177126 charles@want2geton.co.ukWorking dad, how does that work?! I was near the Armenian border travelling on a ramshackle bus. Suddenly, out of the window I s saw something that would stay with me forever. An old man was reclined on a donkey, smoking a long pipe – and very much at peace with the world, whilst behind him trudged his wif literally doubled wife, over, under the weight of a haystack carried across her shoulders. In our society, traditional male roles have changed radically over the last few decades, and films like Billy Elliot and The Full Monty eloquently show the pain men go through when their roles in life change. One client recently told me that after losing his job he saw the video of Freddie Mercury dressed up in drag, vacuuming the house and singing ‘I want to break free’. He instantly saw himself reflected in that image, dress, curlers and , all!The foundations of our male male-nessThe big question, of course, is what is left of our male ness when our jobs and traditional male-nessroles disappear? What can we do about it?In the bible (Colossians 2: 6-9), Paul lets us into a secret about Jesus’ strength. Despite 9),his position of being God, he didn’t hang onto this title, but instead did something thatmany of us struggle with, he humbled himself. I have a feeling that if I had adopted thismindset, I wouldn’t have felt so much pain after losing my job!What was the result? Jesus’ father exalted him, in other words promoted him in rank. If we sult?too are able to humble ourselves, i.e. not get angry and stress about our situation, thenGod will also lift us up out of our situation. I believe that in this place, God will show us ourtrue male-ness, and provide for our needs. ness,© Copyright Want2geton? Christian Career Coaching UK 2013
  • 2. One of two groupsMany of us who are dads often struggle with changes to our male roles, and will fall intotwo basic groups:1. Cannot find time to spend with our families, or2. Having difficulty adapting to a new non-bread-winner roleIf you see yourself fitting into one of these groups, then here’s your chance to try yourprayer ‘muscles’ out. God wants you to be in work, but equally He also wants you to be adad to your children and a husband to your wife. He will provide a way if you pray. Withouttrying to anticipate God’s answers to your prayers, here are some practical ways that couldprovide an answer to your working-dad life balance!Establishing a working-dad balance • Simply ask your employer if you can work more flexibly. Its also worth considering what industry would suit you best – research suggests that digital, online businesses and public sectors tend to be more flexible. Approach your boss with a game plan of how the arrangement would work and how it can benefit the organisation. • In your home have one master calendar so you don’t accidently miss important events like the school Christmas concert. Also, save annual leave for these important dates. • Say No: Determine what additional work activities you can turn down and which are necessary so you can free up more of your time outside the office. • Establish a "No Work" Zone: Put down the smartphone and avoid checking emails from the time you arrive home until after your children have gone to sleep. • Make sure you know your paternity rights! Visit www.dad.infoIf you’re out of work and feel like you’re ‘drowning’ under the weight of childcare duties,then as a man this can be a tough place to be. However, God’s promise to you today isthat you can enjoy the time you do have with your children and at the same time trust inHim for a change in season.Want2get on? is a unique career coaching service that offers 1:1 support for those whowant to draw upon their Christian faith and apply it in a practical way to their job situation.www.want2geton.co.uk Tel: 07503 177126 charles@want2geton.co.ukImage by Ambro© Copyright Want2geton? Christian Career Coaching UK 2013