Money is not the most valuable currency; relationships arePoverty: loyalty is to people firstMiddle class: accountability to the task comes firstPoverty: time is kept emotionally (by how long it feels)
Personal to objective:Vocabulary to express abstract thoughtsEmotional reservesAvoiding triangulation
Transcript of "Why we do what we do"
WHY WE DO WHAT WE DOThe Hidden Rules of Class at WorkCandace Moody, Jacksonville
Why Does Money Matter?• It affects an person’s ability to focus at work and school• It affects her connectedness (she won’t have voicemail; won’t answer the phone)• It affects access to knowledge, education, and healthcare
Ruby Payne’s definition of poverty• Lack of Resources: • Emotional • Mental • Support systems • Role models • Knowledge of hidden rules
How class affects our thinking• About money• About loyalty and relationships• About work• About time• About what’s important
How we think about relationships• Two important skills that help employees deal with conflict: • The ability to listen • The ability to translate from the personal to the objective• Listening: • What is the real issue? What is most important here? • What register of language is appropriate? (formal vs. casual) • How do we structure stories? • What happened, in order • Cause and effect
Being able to identify cause & effect(courtesy: Reuven Feuerstein, an Israeli educator)• Individuals who cannot plan, cannot predict.• If they cannot predict, they cannot identify cause and effect.• If they cannot identify cause and effect, they cannot identify consequence.• If they cannot identify consequence, they cannot control impulsivity.
EQ1. The ability to understand what you’re feeling2. The ability to control what you’re feeling3. The ability to understand what others are feeling4. The ability to change what others are feeling
Behavior in the Workplace• Laughs when disciplined. (A way to save face.)• Argues loudly with the authority. (Sees the system as inherently dishonest and unfair.)• Angry response; may even instigate physical fights. (May not have the ability to see issues as abstract.)• Inappropriate or vulgar comments. (May not know formal register.)
The Hidden Rules of Class at Work• Unspoken• Are used to judge whether you belong• Absolute: “You just don’t do that”• They affect who succeeds and who doesn’t
The Rules• What’s expected of you / how you are judged • Entry level: what you do • Mid level: what you know • Upper level: who you know• Who you must connect with • Entry level: your team • Mid level: managers up and down the organization • Upper Level: External connections vital to the company’s success• Planning: • Entry level: daily, if at all • Mid level: weekly to annual; project-based • Upper level: strategic, long-term
The Rules• Time commitment: • Entry level: by the hour; only hours paid • Mid level: 50 – 60; until the job is done • Upper level: work, plus travel and social events with spouse• Spouse or significant other: • Entry level: doesn’t matter • Mid level: helpful, but not crucial to success • Upper level: critical factor; seen as a reflection of judgment and taste