In spring 2006 I was happily working as a university lecturer and working for the government implementing education strategy – June and I was redundant. I spent the next 6 months “trying” to be a consultant but as I did not invoice anyone I was really unemployed and realised that I was not good at selling myself – I could sell anyone else anything else – but asking you to pay for me and my time …….
In early 2007 after a random email I found myself studying NLP, coaching, education studying mindset with Chris Howard, Johnnie Cass and Joanna Martin (similar to Tony Robbins only more effective in my opinion).
I changed the way I looked at the world – I realised that everything was my responsibility, my choice, my decisions. The life I had was as a result of what I had done or not done and so the life I wanted would come as a result of what I did or did not do. That’s why I say that “what you do today will change what you can do forever”.
I could do the hard luck story, single parent bullied child, divorced, bankrupt etc but that is not how I see myself – I acknowledge they were lessons and challenges I faced - that they have shaped who I am but they do not define who I will or could become.
In the remake of Total Recall Houser (the Arne character played by Colin Farrell) says he wants to go into the mind machine the have his memories returned, and when asked why he replies “I want to remember”
“Why?” asks Bill Nighy as the rebel leader. Mattius.
“So I can be myself be who I was”
Mattius replies “It is each man’s quest to find out who he truly is but the answer to that lies in the present not in the past as it is for all of us.”
Houser “But the past tells us who we’ve become”
Mattius “The past is a construct of the mind, it blinds us, it fools us into believing it, but the heart wants to live in the present, look there, you’ll find your answer.”