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  • BY: DON GABOR
  •  It helps to learn  How adjust into a new social and work environment.  Break through the shyness barriers, be a better speaker .  Meet new people and make friends
  •  Body language + tone of voice + words = total communication  Body language speaks before we speak  Communicates feelings, ideas, attitudes before we speak.  Projects level of receptivity  First impression should be friendly and open View slide
  •  Each letter represents a nonverbal gesture  Will encourage others to talk with you  S= SMILE  Pleasant and friendly smile  Indicates open and friendly attitude  Couple it with a friendly “HELLO”  Don’t frown or wrinkle your brow  signal of nonreceptivity. View slide
  •  O=OPEN ARMS  Indicates you are friendly  “I am available for contact and willing to listen.”  Standing or sitting with crossed arms indicates you are close minded.  F=FORWARD LEAN  Lean forward slightly in a casual and friendly manner  Body language indicates: I HEAR WHAT YOU ARE SAYING AND I AM INTERESTED-KEEP TALKING.  Leaning backward indicates disinterest
  •  T= TOUCH  Start and end your conversation with a friendly handshake.  Couple it with a friendly “HI” and a nice smile and your name.  E=EYE CONTACT  Direct eye contact :that you are listening to the other person.  N=Nod  Indicates that you are listening and understand to what is being said  Blank face indicates  Your thoughts are elsewhere
  •  Establish eye contact and smile and then follow the simple procedure  RISK VERSUS REJECTION  Don’t fear the risk of being rejected  Be the first one to say hello  Indicates :you are confidence and friendly  ASK EASY-TO-ANSWER RITUAL QUESTION  Give a compliment to someone followed by an easy –to-answer ritual question.
  •  Focus on the situation you are in  Look outward-not inward  Balance the two-way information exchange  Discuss the topics/events that are important to you.  Change the topics using free information  Refer to free information- “I heard you mention earlier……”
  •  Best time to end the conversation  Look for a pause in a conversation  Use the person’s name and add a compliment  “it’s been great talking with you.”  And then say goodbye with a handshake
  •  All you need is 5 seconds to make a great first impression.  1st second  Focus on the moment of introduction  2nd second  Listen for the name ,every letters in the name.  3rd second  Repeat the name aloud  4th second  Think of someone you know with the same name.  5th second  Use the name during and at the end of the conversation
  •  They tend to prevent others to open up with you.  “I’m right- you’re wrong.”  If you don’t agree with someone say -“it seems to me..” , “I believe..”  Never say “you are dead wrong” , “from where have you got this idea.”  “It doesn’t matter to Me”  Indicates that you are not taking any responsibility in decision process.  Express your preference  “Tell me something I don’t know”  “I’m Boring” Focus on the positive events in your life and talk about them
  •  Someone you can trust , share common interests  Good friendship can begin at any stage of life.  Components of good friendship:  Respect, love, fun, learning, understanding
  • o Not always easy o It take time ,commitment, lot of trust. o Take the initiative and reach out to others o Show genuine interest in people o Develop trust o Reveal some of your personal information and feelings o Share your common interests
  •  Plan a activity around your mutual interest.  Invitation could be: “I remember when we talked last time you said you like(activity) so I was wondering, are you interested in joining me for ….”  Do what you can for your friends.  If you are a good friend , you will have good friends.  In best friendships learning ,laughing and developing never stops.
  •  C-H-A-T  C=candid  Straight forward approach  They talk about  Sports, crime, business politics  Do  Show interest in their business and personal goals  Ask for their opinion and advice  Don’t  Get into debates with them
  •  H= hang back  Reserved , soft spoken, excellent listener  Takes little time to open up, but when they open they feel more comfortable  People think they are shy, unwilling to communicate  They talk about  Food cooking books restaurants relationships, dance  Do ask for their views, feelings that concern people  Don’t get aggressive with them
  •  A= Accurate  Technical approach  See everything as a problem and want to have all the answers  They talk about  Science& math's ,stock markets, how things work  Don’t change the topic frequently  Do praise their technical knowledge  T= Talkative  Energetic who can talk about anything except technical things  Fun and friendly person who is open to contact  Sometimes they fail to listen  Do laugh at their jokes
  •  Turn on “VIBRATE” while attending social and business function  Choose the right time to call  Find a private or a semiprivate place to talk  Speak at a normal volume
  •  Chat room : is a website where ongoing conversations about particular topics takes place.  Do lurk before you leap  Observe how people in a chat room communicates before participating in discussion  Don’t flame other members of the group if you disagree with what they say.