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2013 Education Symposium & Expo - Reducing Stress through More Effective Communication
1. Reducing Stress through More
Effective Communication
David Wheeler, MA, MS, CH/FS,
Wellness & Health Recovery Coordinator,
Premier Health & Fitness Center,
Tallahassee, Florida
September 5, 2012
2. True freedom is found in the ability
to pause between stimulus and response
and in that pause to choose.
Rollo May, MD,
Psychiatrist—Philosopher
4. Prefrontal cortex:
“This area of the
brain is thought to
be involved in
planning
complex cognitive
behaviors and in
the expression of
personality and
appropriate social
behavior.”
www.brainexplorer.org/ glossary/
prefrontal_cortex.shtml (italics mine)
5. “appropriate social behavior”
Tell us an example of a stressful interpersonal
communication when there was a breach in
“appropriate social behavior.”
Tell us an example of a stressful interpersonal
communication when “appropriate social behavior”
was maintained.
What was the difference between the two examples?
What can we learn from this?
6. Can we agree on a few assumptions?
You cannot not communicate.
Communication may be emotionally
positive
negative
neutral
emotional content is dependent on both
● the sender: what they meant to convey
● the receiver: what they heard, understood,
interpreted, reacted to
7. more assumptions
Both the sender and receiver are responsible* for
the clarity
the meaning
the interpretation
the implications
of the message
* to some (varying) degree
8. Dialogue
Definition of terms
a conversation between two or more persons
an exchange of ideas and opinions
a discussion between representatives of parties to a conflict
that is aimed at resolution
Diatribe
archaic: a prolonged discourse
a bitter and abusive speech or piece of writing
ironic or satirical criticism
Monologue: a long speech monopolizing conversation
http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary
9. The Dialogic Model
Reflection
after listening carefully to the sender’s message
● listening, not formulating your response
● listening, not focusing on your reaction to message
“let me see if I got that right”
paraphrase what you believe the other person meant
conclude with, “did I get that right?”
keep the process going until you hear, “yes”
10. The Dialogic Model
Invitation to Expand
“Is there more about that?”
listen to what else they have to say
repeat the Reflection process
● “let me see if I got that right”
● paraphrase what you believe the other person meant
● conclude with, “did I get that right?”
● keep the process going until you hear, “yes.”
repeat Invitation to Expand until you hear, “no.”
11. The Dialogic Model
Empathy
is not sympathy, “I feel sorry for you.”
is not identification, “I understand you because
you’re like me.”
it is, “I understand you because you’re like you.”
“That makes sense because I know you to be a
person who believes A, cares about B, wants C, feels
[emotion] about D, etc.”
Check it out, “Does that fit?”
12. The Dialogic Model
Empathy, continued
“Does that fit?”
hear their answer
● yes
● no
● sort-of
“is there more about that”
keep process going until you hear that your
empathy statement fits
13. The Dialogic Model
More about empathy
nothing worse than empathy that’s
● fake
● cheap
● off target
it requires some real personal knowledge of the
person (not likely to work with strangers)
it requires some “emotional intelligence”
don’t be afraid to stop at Reflection & Invitation
14. The Dialogic Model
Empathy is like Chinese food.
When it’s good, it’s great.
When it’s bad, it’s horrible.
When it’s on target
● stress decreases (psychophysiology research)
● the relationship is strengthened
● people may become more open (two-edged sword)
It’s strong medicine. Be careful.
15. Activity Break: Brain Gym
“Lazy 8’s” or ∞ “infinity symbol”
Elbow to Knee
Palm to Sole
Lock-Ups
16. The Dialogic Model Reviewed
Reflection
“let me see if I got that right”
“did I get that right?”
keep the process going until you hear, “yes.”
Invitation to Expand
“Is there more about that?”
Empathy
“That makes sense because I know you to be a person
who believes A, cares about B, wants C, feels [emotion]
about D, etc.”
“Does that fit?”
17. Practice, Practice, Practice
Break up into pairs
take turns sending and receiving
I’ll come around and kibitz
keep it brief
after everyone has had a turn
● come back together
● we’ll process the experience
18. Deep Diaphragmatic Breathing
Our “default mode” of
breathing
Associated with
relaxation response
Chest breathing
associated with stress
response
19. Deep Diaphragmatic Breathing
Precautions: diabetes, asthma,
COPD
Assume this position
Notice as you take a deep
inhalation which expands
chest?
belly?
Relax muscles of neck, shoulders,
chest, abdomen, hips and pelvis
20. Deep Diaphragmatic Breathing
Continue slow, deep breaths
Expand the abdomen as you inhale
Relax the abdomen as you exhale
Count slowly 1, 2, 3, 4 as you inhale
Pause
Count slowly 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8 as
you exhale
Keep practicing until it becomes
automatic
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