What makes us Happy at Work? the Formula for Bliss Michael Klaybor, Ed.D, LPC, LCDC, LMFT, CEAP

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! Understand how to be happy at work.
! Optimism & pessimism as they relate happiness.
! How thoughts and words effect our happiness.
! Rules for creating passion at work.
! Positive Psychology formula for happiness.
! Fun, thought provoking, interactive & an
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Health & Optimism
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Age 85: 90% of most cheerful quartile alive; 34% of least cheerful quartile alive.
Age 94: 54% of most cheerful quartile alive; 11% of least cheerful quartile alive

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Study on Learned Helplessness
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escape from the frustrating goal box.
Inescapably shocked animals failed to
learn to hurdle jump, whereas
escapable or non-shocked animals
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Learned Helpless Experiment

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The Three P’s of Pessimism
by Martin Seligman
! Personalization
! Permanence
! Pervasiveness

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Pessimism
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! Feels bad
! Is self-fulfilling
! Don’t face challenges
! Reduces activity
! Don’t persist in adversity

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Positive Psychology—
Martin Seligman, Ph.D.
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Learned Optimism
By Martin Seligman, Ph.D.
! Elements:
! Increased engagement
! Increased meaning
! Increased positive emotion
! Rules:
! Challenge negative thoughts
! Play to your strengths
! Count your blessings
! Seek meaning

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Learned Optimism
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What we discovered!
Optimistic people: More successful, more social,
live longer (only lawyers do better when pessimistic)
Resilient people: Self-enhancement, repressive
coping style, hardiness, positive emotion and
laughter
Positive people: Perform better (doctors’ study)
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Happy People Tend to Be Optimists
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positive events. For example:
" They know they can get themselves
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Where Does Happiness
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• Natural selection
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• Certain attitudes

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3 Components of Happiness
! About 50% of individual happiness comes
form a genetic set point.
! About 10% of our happiness is due to our
“circumstances”
! The remaining 40% of happiness is derived
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Forgiveness
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Sometimes we climb the ladder
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discover that we have placed it
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Joseph Campbell

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Links/Resources
! www.reflectivehappiness.com (Interventions)
! www.psych.upenn.edu/seligman (Literature)
! www.authentichappiness.org (Questionnaires)
! seligman@psych.upenn.edu (Q&A)
! http://www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu/
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! http://www.grossnationalhappiness.com/wp-content/
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