The Magic Of Making UP

==== ====The Magic Of Making UPhttp://tinyurl.com/85yue4q==== ====Tom is working all the time and Jane feels he isnt around much. Jane takes the time to take careof the kids and this makes Tom feel she isnt responding to his needs. Is this a relationship thatcan be saved? Should they work to save it? Here are steps to saving a relationship.The first step to take is to decide whether you should save the relationship. While mostrelationships can be saved if they work hard, you both have to decide that you want therelationship to work. If one partner doesnt want to save the relationship, there isnt much you cando to make it work.There are many people that keep the relationship for comfort or for the kids that they have. This isnot going to be enough for you. To save a relationship you both have to commit to the relationshipand decide that it is worthy to be saved.The next thing to do is figure out the problems that are existing. Unfortunately many people tend tothink that the symptoms are the problem, when there is still an underlying problem that needs tobe taken care of.One example is that some people see an affair as a problem that leads to breaking up. Actuallythis is just a sign that there is another problem. No real intimacy in a relationship can lead tocheating. Most people think that the affair is the big problem, but the lack of intimacy in therelationship is actually the underlying problem that caused the affair to happen. If you dont dealwith this problem, then while guilt may keep another affair from occurring, other problems may endup occurring in the future because the real problem hasnt been dealt with.Once you get to the issue rather than just the symptom, there is a better chance of saving therelationship.After you know the underlying problems, you can start to share what you are thinking. This meanslistening to your partner and what they have to say, as well as telling your own feelings. As youtalk, hold each others hand, showing that you want to reconnect together in spite of all theemotions. If things come up that are hurtful to you, remember that they are not trying to just hurtyou. They really are trying to work on things so that your relationship can be improved.When you have come up with the problems you are dealing with, then you need a good plan tosolve the problems. Make sure you have steps that you can take in this plan. If you havent beenspending as much time together, have a date night. Come up with ways that you can spend timetogether on these dates. If communicating is a problem, then decide that youll spend 20 minutesat night just talking with each other - then do it.

You also need to realize that saving your relationship is a process that takes time. You may goforward and then have some set backs as well. There will be joy and there will be some toughtimes too. Dont just blame the other person and make sure you apologize.So, should you save this relationship? If you think so, then these are the right steps to saving yourown relationship.Peyton Hines has been married for over 40 years and has experienced a wide range of marriageups and downs. He has done extensive research to find information and products that would bebeneficial to a majority of couples who are interested in saving a relationship[http://beginmakingup.com/]. To get more information or look at helpful resources visit[http://beginmakingup.com/]Article Source:http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Peyton_Hines==== ====The Magic Of Making UPhttp://tinyurl.com/85yue4q==== ====

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