By Silvia SowaBullyingB ullying is abusing.It consists on the repeatedacts against one person orgroup. It is a commonsituation, more than peoplemight think.It involves attempting to create or enforce oneperson’s power over another person. It can bePhysical. Pushing, kicking, hitting, pinching and other formsof violence or threats.Verbal. Name-calling, sarcasm, spreading rumors, persistentteasing.Emotional. Excluding (sending to Coventry), tormenting,ridicule, humiliation.
It can be the mix of all of them.It usually happens at schools.It includes not only the offender, buteven the witnesses and non activeparticipants.Who? Why?Kidscape.com describes that childrenwho bully may seem to focus on onepresumed characteristic of a child.However, do remember that a child’salleged “difference” is not really thepoint of the bullying—bullies areplaying with power any way theycan. Children who are bright areoften bullied, as are children withlearning differences; tall children are bullied, as are small ones.Anything goes, but in our experience, bullying is often: Racist. Racial taunts, graffiti, gestures. Sexual. Unwanted physical contact or abusive comments. Homophobic. Any hostile or offensive action against lesbians, gay males or bisexuals or those perceived to be lesbian, gay or bisexual. Abuse of the vulnerable. For example, children with physical disabilities, on the autism spectrum, or with special educational needs. We also see bullying in children who are careers, children who have suffered a death in the family.
Signs… Low self esteem Depression Isolation Poor academic achievement Change of mood Be frightened all the time Become anxious, distressed Stop eating Cry, have nightmares, sleep more than normal Come regularly with clothes destroyed Be unwilling to go to school Begin truanting Have possessions missing Fill ill in the morning
What to do?Listen to your child, teenager, friend….take itseriouslyAsk him/her directlyBe aware of signsKeep a diary of incidentsTalk with teachers, directorsGet together with other parents to organizeways to stop bullyingHelp your child make friendsAsk for help to organizations, take courses, get informed The important thing here is to stop bullying!!!