Divorce advice for guys – how to help your own custody case

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With more fathers seeking custody of their children than ever before, it is important to realize what things courts consider in determining children’s best interests. Courts often look at who performs basic but important services for the kids.

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Divorce advice for guys – how to help your own custody case

  1. 1. secretdivorce.com http://www.secretdivorce.com/successful-divorce-planning-for-men/guys-how-to-help-your-own- custody-case/Guys – How to Help Your Own Custody Case
  2. 2. With more fathers seeking custody of their children than ever before, it is important to realize what thingscourts consider in determining children’s best interests. Courts often look at who performs basic butimportant services for the kids.If you are not doing all or most of these things, you should start immediately: 1. Serving meals to children 2. Putting children to bed 3. Reading children stories 4. Dressing the children 5. Disciplining the children (appropriately and in a consistent manner) 6. Taking care of children in the middle of the night 7. Assisting with toilet training 8. Giving children baths 9. Buying children’s clothes 10. Taking children shopping 11. Taking children to doctor 12. Taking children to play with other children 13. Taking children to lessons and classes 14. Cleaning clothes for children 15. Playing and drawing with children 16. Watching television with children 17. Changing children’s diapers 18. Taking off work to take care of sick children 19. Taking children to church 20. Planning and participating in children’s birthday partiesChild custody in most states is a fairly common sense concept. It is based on the child’s best interest. Thestatute requires the judges to take the following factors into account: 1. The wishes of the child’s parent or parents as to his custody. 2. The wishes of the child as to his custodian. (The court may consider the preferences of the child in awarding custody but is not bound by that preference. Such preferences, though, are entitled to consideration, especially when supported by valid reasons). 3. The interaction and interrelationship of the child with his parent or parents, his siblings and any other person who may significantly affect the child’s best interests. 4. The child’s adjustment to his home, school and community. 5. The mental and physical health of all individuals involved. 6. The physical violence or the threat of physical violence by the child’s potential custodian, whether directed against the child or directed against another person. 7. The occurrence of ongoing abuse.
  3. 3. 7. The occurrence of ongoing abuse. 8. The willingness and ability to facilitate and encourage a close and continuing relationship between the other parent and the child.Learn more in our members are – click here to get started in a matter of minutes.These are only the required factors. The court can take into account any relevant factor in its discretion. Thecourt’s discretion is vast. Other factors could involve: 1. Integration into family unit 2. Religious or racial considerations 3. Work patterns of parents and time availability to child 4. Mobility of homes 5. Interference with other spouse’s parental relationship with child, including false charges of physical, mental or sexual abuse 6. Cohabitation with member of the opposite sex 7. Age and sex of child and parents 8. Misconduct of parent, including substance abuse 9. Wealth of parents 10. Refusal of parent to work or pay child support 11. A parent’s physical limitationHowever, the court is prohibited from considering conduct of a party that does not affect his relationship tothe child.Also, keep a diary concerning daily goings on with the children and/or your spouse. It may come in handysomeday.Once the case gets going, you may be interviewed by a mediator, court appointed mental healthprofessional or attorney for the children. The following short list illustrates the kinds of things you may beasked:You may be asked what you desire as a specific custody result and why. Try to articulate this. The custodyof a child is not awarded to gratify the feelings of either parent or as a form of reward or punishment to aparent, but is merely in accordance with the child’s best interest.Your future plans for the children, including, school, medical care, friends, etc. are reasonable areas ofinquiry.You will be asked about your knowledge as to many aspects of the children’s life such as current friends,what they like to do, favorite books and toys, that sort of thing. You will be asked at some point what are allthe problems with your spouse (or former spouse) as a parent. You must set them out if you want anyone torely on them. The trick is to set them out in a factual manner with a minimum of ad hominem, hyperbole orover dramatization. You also should have a good idea as to what visitation you would want your spouse tohave. Have a plan and demonstrate confidence with it.Talk about the children’s good qualities. Talk about their faults in a constructive way that indicates that youare trying to work on them with your kids. Try to convey a positive mental attitude.Learn more in our members are – click here to get started in a matter of minutes.
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