AD U LTE R Y IN TH E H E AR T Matthew 5:27-2827 "You have heard that it was said to thoseof old, You shall not commit adultery. 28But I say to you that whoever looks at awoman to lust for her has alreadycommitted adultery with her in his heart.
N oth ing G ood Ab ou t Ad u lte ry Name one good thing about adultery Marriage better? Happier children? Adultery – wrecks homes, destroys lives, harms children, ruins reputations Today we are looking at the “almost” adultery – adultery in the heart, mind and thought – but not an actual act of fornication.
A p rob le m of th e h e art Without physically touching anyone else, it is possible to commit adultery. Sexting (Texting sexual messages) Phone sex Pornography Posting suggestive photos on Facebook Sending sexual photos from your phone Using video phones (Skype) Ogling people of the opposite sex
A p rob le m of th e h e art Like many other sins – lust begins on the inside It will eventually work its way out This is a “heart” problem A powerful, very real problem
A G od ly m an falls Step #1 – He wasnt where 2 Samuel 11:1 It he was supposed to be. happened in the spring of the year, at the time when kings go out to battle, that David sent Joab and his servants with him, and all Israel; and they destroyed the people of Ammon and besieged Rabbah. But David remained
A G od ly m an falls Step #1 – He wasnt where 2 Samuel 11:2 Then he was supposed to be. it happened one Step #2 – He looked at evening that David something he shouldnt have seen. arose from his bed and walked on the roof of the kings house. And from the roof he saw a woman bathing, and the woman was very beautiful to behold.
A G od ly m an falls Step #1 – He wasnt where 2 Samuel 11:3 So he was supposed to be. David sent and Step #2 – He looked at inquired about the something he shouldnt have seen. woman. And Step #3 – He asked a someone said, "Is this question he had no business not Bathsheba, the asking. daughter of Eliam, the wife of Uriah the Hittite?"
A G od ly m an falls Step #1 – He wasnt where At first this sounds he was supposed to be. innocent Step #2 – He looked at something he shouldnt have The lust is well seen. hidden at this point Step #3 – He asked a question he had no business Outwardly – David asking. has done nothing wrong
A G od ly m an falls Step #1 – He wasnt where 2 Samuel 11:4a he was supposed to be. Step #2 – He looked at Then David sent something he shouldnt have messengers, and seen. took her; Step #3 – He asked a I am alone. She is alone. question he had no business God wants me to be asking. happy. Step #4 – He sought something that wasnt his to No one will ever know. have. It is really her fault.
A G od ly m an falls Step #1 – He wasnt where 2 Samuel 11:4b and she he was supposed to be. came to him, and he lay Step #2 – He looked at with her, for she was something he shouldnt have cleansed from her seen. impurity; and she Step #3 – He asked a returned to her house question he had no business asking. James 1:15 Then, when desire has conceived, it Step #4 – He sought gives birth to sin; and something that wasnt his to have. sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death. Step #5 – He did something he never should have done.
th re e D e cis ions• I must avoid lust producing situations (1)This a personal choice – know your limits (2)There is a line that you must not cross (3)This means – TV shows I dont watch – Psalm 101:3a I will set nothing wicked before my eyes; (5)Radio stations, movies, places, books, parties – There are things I dont participate in.
th re e D e cis ions• I must avoid lust producing situations 1 Peter 4:3-4 3 For we have spent enough of our past lifetime in doing the will of the Gentiles--when we walked in lewdness, lusts, drunkenness, revelries, drinking parties, and abominable idolatries. 4 In regard to these, they think it strange that you do not run with them in the same flood of dissipation, speaking evil of you.
Th re e D e cis ions• I must avoid lust producing situations.(2)I must avoid provoking lust in others – Lasciviousness = Causing lust to be produced in another (Galatians 5:19) (2)Dress, wink, suggestive comments (3)Sometimes we send out mixed messages
Th re e D e cis ions• I must avoid lust producing situations.(2)I must avoid provoking lust in others(3)I must purposely choose purity – Keep the ability to blush – Jeremiah 6:15a Were they ashamed when they had committed abomination? No! They were not at all ashamed; Nor did they know how to blush. – This decision must be made in ADVANCE.
Ad u lte ry Physical adultery is a sin. Spiritual adultery is a sin. Adultery in the heart is also a sin. Proverbs 4:23 Keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life. How is your heart today?