Law of Attraction Human Energy is MagneticS “Energy of a certain quality or vibrationE tends to attract energy of a similar quality and vibration”CR You are a living magnetET Like always attracts like
Dysfunctional Ways of Thinking 1 2 3 4Cognitive Repeated Intrusive Unrealistic OthersDistortions Thoughts AssumptionsArbitrary Assumptions Low self-regardSelective Abstraction Excessive Self-depreciationOver-generalization Excessive Self-blame “I must be perfect”Magnification Scapegoating “Everybody must like me”Minimization Ideas of deprivation “I cannot be happy unless Irrational Injunction I have a lot of money”
Type of Fear Action1- Embarrassment because Improve it. Go to barbershop orof personal appearance beauty salon. Shine shoes. Get clothes cleaned and pressed.2- Fear of things totally Switch your attention to somethingbeyond your control totally different.3- Fear of being physically Pray / turn your attention to helpinghurt by something you can‟t to relieve the fear of others.control4- Fear of what other people Make sure what you plan to do ismay think and say right. Then do it. No one ever does anything worthwhile for which he is not criticized.5- Fear of people Put them in proper perspective. Remember, the other person is just another human being pretty much like yourself.
How am I thinking? Check list1- When I worry Would an important person worry about this? Would the most successful person I know be disturbed about this?2- An idea What would an important person do if he had this idea?3- My appearance Do I like someone who has maximum self- respect?4- My language A m I using the language of successful people?5- What I read Would an important person read this?6- Conversation Is this something successful people would discuss?7- When I loose my temper Would an important person get mad at what I‟m mad at?8- My jokes Is this the kind of joke an important person would tell?9- My job How does an important person describe his job to others?
Situation: The petty thinker‟s The big thinker‟s Approach: Approach:Conversation Talks about positive Talks about positive qualities of … qualities of …Progress Believes in Believes in expansion. retrenchment or at best the status quoFuture Views the future at Sees the future as limited very promising.Work Looks for ways to avoid Looks for more ways work and things to do, especially helping others.Competition Competes with the Competes with the average best.Mistakes Magnifies minor errors. Ignores errors of little consequences.
Phrases which Create Small, Phrases Which Create Big,Negative Mind Images: Positive Mind Images:It‟s no use, we‟re whipped. We‟re not whipped yet. Let‟s keep trying. Here‟s a new angle.I‟ve tried but the product wont So far I‟ve not been able to sell thissell. People don‟t want it. product. But I know it is good and I am going to find the formula that will put it over.Five years is too long a time to Five years is not really a long time.spend before I‟ll get into the top Just think, that leaves me 30 yearsranks in your company. Count to serve at a high level.me out. In its present form, it may not beNobody will ever want that saleable, but let‟s consider someproduct. modification.I‟m too young/old for the job Being young/old is a distinct advantage.
Positive Management PracticesBe cheerfulBe a positive speakerAccentuate the positiveUse positive words to outline plans to othersPractice positivityDevelop “I can” attitudeOpen the lines of communicationAlways play fairMatch the skill to the task at handEncourage workers to figure it out on their own
Good/Bad Thoughts Good/Bad Life Thinking Beliefs Values Principles Behavior CharacterThe choice is yours … Life
Law of Control Do you act or react?If you don‟t control it, someone else will …
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How you respond toadverse circumstances?Positively or Negatively Peaceful Life Stressful Life