1. Selfish. “I did not think about consequences” is a commonresponse of unfaithful leaders.
2. Fantasies. While not every fantasyresults in infidelity, you would be hard pressed to find infidelity that was not preceded by fantasy.
3. Bored/lack of clear purpose.Many leaders deal with the following reality: Periods of high stress and busyness, followed by periods ofdoing NOTHING. It’s no surprise toknow that the day that people watch more porn is on Sunday.
4. Risk taking. A CEO, an owner of a company, a teacher, a clergy person, are usually good at what they do. That elicitsadmiration from followers, employees, members, that admire the “persona,” but not the person.
5. Social media.Infidelity used to be a male problem, more than awoman’s. That is changing.
6. Pride and low self-esteem. The combination is explosive. Many leaders have unresolvedissues from the past that affect the way they see themselves, almost craving affection and attention.
“Sex education may be a good idea in the schools, but I dont believe the kids should be given homework” Bill Cosby
Thr eeDanger ousSt r at egies
a. We want to continue doing what we are doing.b. We think by hiding it from people we are hiding it from God.
c. Keeping it a secret leads to dualism, and that sometimes ispreferred to dealing with the truth. d. We worry about what peoplewill say about us if they found out.
a. We have been deceived intothinking that there are "secular" and "spiritual" areas.b. We believe that what we do in one area does not affect other areas of our lives. c. We fail to consider the consequences.
a. I deserve this.b. Im not getting at home what I should. c. Im always taking care ofothers. Now it’s time to take care of me. d. I married the wrong person.
Five Act ion St eps
1. Recognize personal frailty and family history.
2. List consequencesas visible reminders.
3. Tell somebody. On a consistent basis.
Accountability partner a. Same sex b. Discreet c. Mature spiritually d. Available
4. Be aware of trapsright after mountain top experiences.