Interpersonal relationships• the interconnections and interdependence between two individuals
Types of interpersonal relationships
Family• What does family mean?• A small social group bound by ties of blood, civil contract, and a commitment to care for and be responsible for one another.• http://www.youtube.com/watch? v=JYupszByJyU&feature=relmfu Awwww!• http://www.youtube.com/watch? v=p3wXyyE4_m0&feature=related Ahhhh!
Friendships• What is a friend? What makes a “good friend”?• A close and caring relationship between two people that is perceived as mutually satisfying and beneﬁcial.• What qualities a friend should possess: • availability • caring • honesty • trust • loyalty • empathy
Facebook friends• What does it mean to have friends on Facebook?• How are they different than face-to-face friends?
Romantic relationships• What are your thoughts and feelings when you think about romantic relationships?• What is love? • A deep affection for and attachment to another person involving emotional ties, varying degrees of passion, commitment, and intimacy. • What is intimacy? • Closeness and understanding
Effects of relational harmony• Psychological health • fewer mood swings • less risk of depression • lowered levels of stress hormones• Physical health • lowered risk of diseases like diabetes and heart disease• Healing • stronger immune system and quicker healing
What is your romantic love style?• Eros (beauty and sexuality): Sex is the most important aspect of erotic love. This type of relationship is quite intense, both emotionally and physically. The focus is on beauty and attractiveness.• Ludus (entertainment and excitement): Ludus means “play” in Latin, and the ludic lover views love as a game. Ludic love does not require great commitment.• Storge (peacefulness and slowness): Storge has less passion and excitement. Storgic lovers often share common interests.• Pragma (deed, task, work): In Greek, pragma means “life work.” Pragmatic lovers are extremely logical and practical. They want a longterm relationship with an individual who shares their goals in life.• Mania (elation and depression): This is the love that is often referred to as “romantic love.” It exhibits extreme feelings and is full of excitement and intensity, but it reaches a peak and then quickly fades away.• Agape (compassion and selﬂessness): In this type of love, the individual gives willingly and expects nothing in return. This type of lover can care for others without close ties; a deep relationship is not necessary for agapic love to develop.
Genetic-similarity hypothesis• What do you think? Is this changing?• Do you have interracial relationships?
Social exchange theory• the process of balancing the advantages and disadvantages of a relationship• Rewards: • extrinsic - external • instrumental - resources/favors • intrinsic - personally satisfying• Costs - things that cause you stress or annoy you
Uncertainty reduction theory• when people meet, their main focus is on decreasing uncertainty about each other• Strategies: • passive • active • interactive
Dialectical tensions• we have contradictory feelings in every relationship• autonomy -------- connection• openness -------- closeness• predictability -------- novelty
Social penetration theory• how people move from sharing superﬁcial info to more intimate info