What Can Happen In Marriage?
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WHAT CAN HAPPEN IN MARRIAGE?
Here's a funny thought,\" many married couples get surprised\" just after their marriage.
As a life coach I often talk to couples about problems they may be having within their
marriage. These are some things that have come up during these sessions:
1.) Most secrets are revealed after marriage
From the time of being in a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, people normally tell
everything that makes them appear more lovable. Of course, they only share on what
makes them appear in the best possible light. Sometimes people don’t talk about their
weaknesses rather they talk about strengths alone.
Let us perhaps take an example that I have come across - anger management. It may
not be until after a person is married that they find their partner may have anger
management issues - pressure of jobs, marriage etc may cause them to show more anger
- this may not have surfaced when they were simply dating.
2.) Bad Past Experiences were told
Since we always create a lovable image, most bad experiences are being hidden so
that our partner will not get disappointed by us. In short, many people may not be as
open prior to marriage.
Once married, couples may discover more about their past lives . This may not always
be the case but it can happen
3.) Love grows cold
Sex makes every couples relationship interesting and exciting. Sex is the ultimate way
of showing ones love for another. It adds color to every relationship, its real!
Here's what you should know, sex makes life colourful but once you get to familiar with
each other,
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What Can Happen In Marriage?
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affection can decrease. Why does this happen? Well they say familiarity breeds
contempt - what this means is that you take each other for granted and don't make an
effort any more. Many times people don't feel the need. Of course the danger here is that
this can lead to affairs, and breakdowns in marriage. How to deal with this will be dealt
with in another article
Remember this, make sure that you marry an individual because of true
love and not because of attraction and beauty. Also remember to always
communicate openly and honestly
Normally love grow cold because couples have wrong motives when they marry each
other. Before deciding to get married you should make sure that you really know the
person, and ensure that you both know what marriage means to each of you.
What I listed above are the 3 things that have come up a lot when I deal
with relationship problems. If you are a married individual, I'm sure you already
experienced some of the above It is a normal thing nowadays, but of course everyone
need to be ready for these surprises. The key to a successful marriage is good
communication.
Richard Butler is a trained life and business coach and works with
individual involved in in relationships.
He runs two successful websites:
www.theweddingcoaches.com
www.richardbutlerthesuccesscoach.com
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(C) Richard Butler www.theweddingcoaches.com