The Danger Of Self Help Teachings
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THE DANGER OF SELF HELP
TEACHINGS
According to www.Answers.com, self help is defined as "The act or an instance of
helping or improving oneself without assistance from others." In short,these are
lessons, teachings, tips on how a person can develop themselves to be better by doing
things on his own.
On a superficial level, there is nothing wrong with that though it is probably different
from what school and our parents have taught us. As I remember my childhood , my
parents always say that we can't survive on our own. We need other people to equipe
us, change us and help us grow maturely. Even in school, teachers often said that once
we graduated, we will be facing many different kinds of people who will play a huge part
in our future. I was trained that "We NEED Other People's Existence Badly".
A new age teaching is becoming more popular today, "Self Help". It's useful I must say
but it should be balanced! Self help teachings train a person to be independent, not
relying on other people, putting every efforts on his or her own. Yes, there is no one
who can change us, just us! If we choose to change, then we could probably change.
But you know what, most of the time, no matter how hard we try, still nothing changes.
Sometimes and most of the times, you will need someone who will accompany you to
change. You can't do everything on your own. Let me give you some very important
points you need to think about:
1.) You Need A Buddy
You personally will decide if you want to change and improve yourself. Although you
decide, you still need a buddy or another person to back you up. Lets talk about time
management. Have you ever struggled in attending meetings,family gatherings, friends
outing on time? Many people struggle in managing their time. Some people will always
be late no matter what. This is what I telling you about, you need a buddy! You need
someone who will give you reminders. Someone who will push you to change.
Now before you choose a buddy, think first of those things you want to change and
improve. If you want to be a better father, look for a father who is doing well with his
family. If you want to be a good business person, look for successful business people.
Don't ever look for a buddy who struggles like you. It will not be of good help!
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(C) Richard Butler www.richardbutlerthesuccesscoach.com

The Danger Of Self Help Teachings
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2.) You Need A Mentor With Authority
In some cases I know, the buddy system may not work as planned. This is because
there are people who do not really know how to listen. Some people do find a buddy
who is a friend. However when their friend gives reminders, they don't bother to listen
because they are just on the same level, right? You could now choose a mentor with
authority. Look for a person who you respect most. The person whom you listen to and
ask for advice. It could be your parents, aunties, professors or a success coach. Don't
ever forget that a mentor should be the one you respect most. By that, they would
easily gain authority to remind you.
Richard Butler is a life, business and success coach . To get more
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(C) Richard Butler www.richardbutlerthesuccesscoach.com