Positive self-talk “Thoughts, thoughts, thoughts,” states Hamlet in Shakespeare’s most famousplay pertaining to the human mind. Hamlet is ensnared in indecision because hishead is full of thoughts. Sometimes the thoughts convey one thing, sometimesanother. Hamlet cannot act with clarity and purpose because he cannot get beyondthe self-talk inside his own mind. My subjective opinion is that thoughts are like adouble-edged sword: They can be the best of our friends or the worst of ourenemies. Self-talk is a constant, silent dialogue that runs in your head. Your self-talk can be an internal pampering friend or an internal naysayer. Whichever wayyou slice it, self-talk is the controlling force of your life. Self-talk needs to bemonitored regularly, as more than 60,000 thoughts go through our brains each day.According to psychological researchers, such talk is 77% negative.So, spice up your life with routine bouts of positive self-talk. Make it your secondnature. To escape the hubbub of the city, two friends went to a shingle beach. One friendwas a drill instructor, the other a grammarian. The drill instructor said to thegrammarian, “Two dogs live inside me. One is a gray dog that is thepersonification of negative qualities. The other is a white dog that has a joyfulnature. The gray dog is always trying to trample over the white dog.” Thegrammarian asked, “Who wins?” The drill instructor answered, “Whomever I feedthe most.” Record your positive self-talk on a tape and listen to it – (1) While lounging (2) When traveling (3) After getting up in the morning (4) When going to bed at night (5) When you work out in the mornings
Negative self-talk vs. positive self-talk A young man took up engineering as a career option, purely and simply forthe lure of money. As the days went on, he began to realize that excelling in hisstudies was no walk in the park. He thought, “What hell this engineering life hasbeen for me. So much information to read in hardly any time! When am I going toget some time for fun and play? Huh, I am so stupid.” These thoughts knocked thestuffing out of him. He could not get past two semesters and quit his studies. Another guy took up engineering out of interest in the subject. In a word, hewas in love with this field of study. No wonder he did not get carried away by thevolume of pages to be covered. He thought, “This is a great opportunity to workhard and come out with flying colors. I have the resolve to succeed.” He completedhis course with outstanding grades. To take his dream to the next level, he went toNew York City for postgraduate study. Rubber band snap: When Blaine was a kid, he was raised in a protectivebubble. He “strolled” in sidewalk versions of sport utility vehicles and learned toswim in UV protective full-body suits. At age 16, one day, Blaine went to hismother (who was toasting her feet at the fireplace) to ask her for sage advice inlimiting negative thoughts. She said, “Walk around with a rubber band around yourwrist. The moment you run into negative self-talk, gently pull the band away fromyour skin and allow it to snap back. It will cause a little bit of pain, but it will bringyour thoughts to your attention and help you to stop them.” Blaine thanked hismother with an impromptu song. Be super-selective in absorbing the news Today, we have reached a point where television news channels offer amouth-watering menu of items ranging from parochial scandals to speculativefantasies about Britleen or Collney’s superego. Television news also purveyssecondhand news that is repeatedly repackaged and regurgitated by overworkeddesk-bound hacks. This is an era in which television news channels are jostling formore TRPs and viewership. Not to be left behind is the print media. Filthy,voyeuristic paparazzi are taking a toll on many celebrities. Wanton interference ofmedia in celebs’ lives is not at all good.
Do not absorb the negative, insensitive sensationalism of media. It does nothelp even the slightest bit, but it does manage to touch a raw nerve in you and fillyour mind with a barrage of stinking thoughts. AffirmationsWhat do you require to log in to computer accounts; retrieve email from servers:access programs, databases, networks, and websites; and even read the morningnewspaper online?Your password, of course! A password represents an individual’s identity for asystem. It acts like a barrier between the user and his personal information. If youhave to type your password many times a day, why not make the password user-friendly? Why not make the password a positive affirmation? From here on, for myconvenience I will use the plural form of “affirmation,” which is “affirmations.”Affirmations are positive statements (written, spoken, or read) that make an inroadinto your thought process. They replace a surfeit of negative thoughts embedded inyour mind with new, positive, and powerful thoughts. Affirmations are like superwonders. They work best when you repeat them while in a tranquil state of mindand body. Affirmations need to be orchestrated in an intelligent way to obtain thedesired results. We can use affirmations for health, abundance, love, weight loss, self-esteem, peace and harmony, joy, and happiness. We can use affirmations to staveoff fury, sadness, and tedium. Power of affirmations Peyton is a top-notch, revered film director. In a career spanning over two decades, he has made 27 films. (Peyton always used creative liberty to good effect.) To date, the unadjusted gross of all films directed by Peyton exceeds $4 billion worldwide. He has three richly deserved Oscar awards to his name. Prior to becoming a film director, he professed exuberantly and with confidence, “I am the most commercially successful director of all time.” Consequently, he demonstrated this reality by achieving superstardom in filmmaking. Peyton made good use of the concept of “affirmations.”
He was awarded the French Legion of Honor in recognition of his work. Time magazine listed him as one of the 100 Most Important People of the 20th century. Structuring of affirmations (1) Define the affirmations that are useful at this moment in time. (2) Right from the beginning, use an ebullient tone to construct affirmations. Avoid words like “not,” “won’t,” etc. (3) Have a special time and place for your affirmations. Recite them on a regular basis. It helps to make incremental improvement in your life. If an affirmation feels stale, change it or trash it, and start over. (4) Make the affirmations in a lucid way. Personalize them with your name. (5) Write the affirmations on index cards and put them in your wallet, on the dashboard of your car, in your briefcase… Have patience When you create an affirmation in your mind, it takes some time to kick in. During this phase, you need to be cool as a cucumber and wait. Mental discipline, too, plays a seminal role. One day I made an affirmation, “I am organized.” I frequently repeated itwith strong emotional involvement like, “It will definitely happen.” In the courseof time, it influenced my subconscious mind. Guess what? My life got a renewal(comparable to a ramshackle building getting a makeover). I organized the thingsstrewn all over my desk in a filing system or a bookcase. I set the printer and faxmachine on a rolling cart. I kept a picture of my loved ones on my desk. I addedartwork to my office walls by hanging a picture of a peaceful scene painted in softblues and greens. I bought popular houseplants—anthurium, dieffenbachia,philodendron, and syngonium—to create ambience and improve the air quality. Bydoing these things, I gave a whole new meaning to the word “orderliness.” It took three weeks to turn my affirmation into a reality.
Passing remark: To start with, an affirmation is only skin-deep. But it can gainstrength and sink into your subconscious mind with everyday actions.Remember, “When you dovetail affirmations with action steps, you’ll achievesuccess.” Sample affirmation statements:(1) Every relationship of mine is invigorating like a whiff of fresh air.(2) Getting into a virgin territory and learning new things excites me.(3) I’ll learn another language. It is all grist for the mill when it comes to getting a job.(4) It is beneath me to cheat.(5) I am technologically literate.