1. Physical bullying includes any physical contact that would hurt or injure a person like hitting, kicking, punching, etc. Taking something that belongs to someone else and destroying it would also be considered a type of physical bullying. For example, if someone was walking down the street and someone came up to them and shoved them to the ground, that would be physical bullying. In elementary and middle schools, 30.5% of all bullying is physical.
2. Verbal bullying is name-calling, making offensive remarks, or joking about a person's religion, gender, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, or the way they look. For example, if there was a group of kids who made fun of another kid because he couldn't run as fast as everyone else, it would be an example of verbal bullying. 46.5% of all bullying in schools is the verbal type. Verbal aggression is when a bully teases someone. It can also include a bully making verbal threats of violence or aggression against someone's personal property.
3. Indirect bullying includes spreading rumors or stories about someone, telling others about something that was told to you in private, and excluding others from groups. An example would be if you started a rumor that a boy in your class likes playing with dolls, and if the reason that you made up the story was because you thought it was funny. This would be indirect bullying. Indirect bullying accounts for 18.5% of all bullying.
Social alienation is when a bully excludes someone from a group on purpose. It also includes a bully spreading rumors, and also making fun of someone by pointing out their differences.
Intimidation is when a bully threatens someone else and frightens that person enough to make him or her do what the bully wants.
Cyberbullying is done by sending messages, pictures, or information using electronic media, computers (email & instant messages), or cell phones (text messaging & voicemail). For instance, if you sent a picture of a snake in an email to a person because you know that they are afraid of snakes, that would be an example of cyberbullying. According to a survey done in 2003 only 4% of bullying is listed as "other types" and this would include cyberbullying. Even though this number seems small, the growth of this type of bullying is going up fast because of the spread of technology around the world.
Bullying as become an epidemic that needs to be stopped!
The Harmful Cycle of Bullying
Comes home with damaged or missing clothing or other belongings
Reports losing items such as books, electronics, clothing, or jewelry
Has unexplained injuries
Complains frequently of headaches, stomachaches, or feeling sick
Has trouble sleeping or has frequent bad dreams
Has changes in eating habits
Are very hungry after school from not eating their lunch
Runs away from home
Loses interest in visiting or talking with friends
Is afraid of going to school or other activities with peers
Loses interest in school work or begins to do poorly in school
Appears sad, moody, angry, anxious or depressed when they come home
Talks about suicide
Often feels like they are not good enough
Blames themselves for their problems
Suddenly has fewer friends
Avoids certain places
Acts differently than usual
Becomes violent with others
Gets into physical or verbal fights with others
Gets sent to the principal’s office or detention a lot
Has extra money or new belongings that cannot be explained
Is quick to blame others
Will not accept responsibility for their actions
Has friends who bully others
Needs to win or be best at everything
*Over 75% of our students are subjected to harassment by a bully or Cyber-Bully and experience physical, psychological and/or emotional abuse.
*Over 20% of our kids admit to being a bully or participating in bully-like activities.
*Over one half of bullying & Cyber-Bullying events go unreported to authorities or parents.
*On a daily average 160,000 children miss school because they fear they will be bullied if they attend classes.
*On a monthly average 282,000 students are physically attacked by a bully each month.
*Every seven minutes a child is bullied on a school playground with over 85% of those instances occurring without any intervention
*46% of males and 26% of females admit to having been involved in physical fights as a result of being bullied.
*Over 85% of our teenagers say that revenge as an aftermath of being bullied is the leading cause for school shootings and homicide.
*The top 5 states in regards to reported incidents of bullying and Cyber-Bullying are California, New York, Illinois, Pennsylvania, and Washington.
*A child commits suicide as a direct result of being bullied once every half hour with 19,000 bullied children attempting to commit suicide over the course of one year.
As you can see from the school bullying statistics listed above it is indeed a serious problem that must be addressed whenever discovered.
Unfortunately, as indicated above, most instances of school bully activity go unreported by the student victims.
This makes it very difficult for teachers or parents to intervene on behalf of the victim and provide the proper counseling needed for the victim as well as the bully.
A relatively new type of bully, the Cyber-Bully, is relevant in schools as well as home and is a growing concern for parents when trying to protect their kids from this form of abuse.
Cyber-Bullying is the harassment of kids through the use of the internet and filters into the schools when kids return to classes.
It is so serious that over one third of our kids who frequent the internet are victims of the Cyber-Bully.
Tips to help out when you are the victim of Bullying
Talk to your parents or an adult you can trust, such as a teacher, school counselor, or principal.
Act confident. Hold your head up, stand up straight, make eye contact, and walk confidently. A bully will be less likely to single you out if your project self-confidence.
Books on Bullying:
This Dr. Seuss tale deals with the common peer
problems of exclusion and prejudice. The Star Belly
Sneetches have a star on their bellies to symbolize
superiority and prestige, and they reject the Plain
Belly sort. All of the Sneetches fall prey to a moneyhungry
stranger, and as a result join together and learn
a lesson about inclusion and tolerance in the end.
Move Over Twerp
The first day that Jeffrey rides the bus to school,
older boys shout at the youngster and remove him
from his seat in the back of the bus. Jeffrey makes a
daring plan to deal with the boys, and he gets just
what he wants.
Maxine in the Middle
In this easy-to-read story, Maxine, the middle child,
often feels left out and rejected. She believes that her
older sister and younger brother are the only children
who get new clothes and toys. Maxine runs away to
the family tree house, where she later becomes cold
and hungry. Maxine returns home and realizes how
much she enjoys spending time with her brother and
sister and that “sometimes middle things are best.”
What a Wimp!
Barney and his family move from the city to the
country where his Mom said that people were so
friendly. But, he soon becomes the target of Lenny
Coots who targets Barney as his easy, smaller, and
younger victim. Lenny waits for Barney daily after
school. Although his teacher, mother, and brother are
sympathetic and intervene, Barney learns he must
face up to Lenny and do something on his own.
Bully on the Bus
Carl W. Bosch
Written in a “choose your own ending” format, the
reader decides what action to take while dealing with
a bully. The reader can choose from many alternatives
that include ignoring, talking to an adult,
confronting the bully, fighting, and reconciling.
There are many options and opportunities for
excellent discussions with this book.
FACTS AND MYTHS ABOUT BULLYING
FACT: People who bully have power over those they bully.
People who bully others usually pick on those who have less social power (peer status), psychological power (know how to harm others), or physical power (size, strength). However, some people who bully also have been bullied by others. People who both bully and are bullied by others are at the highest risk for problems (such as depression and anxiety) and are more likely to become involved in risky or delinquent behavior.
FACT: Spreading rumors is a form of bullying.
Spreading rumors, name-calling, excluding others, and embarrassing them are all forms of social bullying that can cause serious and lasting harm.
MYTH: Only boys bully.
People think that physical bullying by boys is the most common form of bullying. However, verbal, social, and physical bullying happens among both boys and girls, especially as they grow older.
MYTH: People who bully are insecure and have low self-esteem.
Many people who bully are popular and have average or better-than-average self-esteem. They often take pride in their aggressive behavior and control over the people they bully. People who bully may be part of a group that thinks bullying is okay. Some people who bully may also have poor social skills and experience anxiety or depression. For them, bullying can be a way to gain social status.
MYTH: Bullying usually occurs when there are no other students around.
Students see about four out of every five bullying incidents at school. In fact, when they witness bullying, they give the student who is bullying positive attention or even join in about three-quarters of the time. Although 9 out of 10 students say there is bullying in their schools, adults rarely see bullying, even if they are looking for it.
MYTH: Bullying often resolves itself when you ignore it.
Bullying reflects an imbalance of power that happens again and again. Ignoring the bullying teaches students who bully that they can bully others without consequences. Adults and other students need to stand up for children who are bullied, and to ensure they are protected and safe.