Breaking-point Bullyingand the increasing popularity ofThe Suicide “Solution”Recognizing populationsmost at risk     Rob G...
Suicide - The “American Way”Kurt Cobain (Nirvana) suicide –re-awakened the country 1994                                  D...
Bryans story:“I couldnt make it. I love you.”16-year-old Andress studentBullied for being openly homosexual
Tyler Clementi -"Jumping off the gw bridge sorry."(Facebook)Cyberbullying – spying on gay roommate,Webcast broadcasting se...
Drew Ferraro“... they just didnt like the way helooked.”15-year-old Drew Ferraro   Running jump from top of school building
Ashlynn Conner - 10-year-old Commits Suicide Because of Bullying Found hanged in closet, used scarf Called “fat,” “ugly,” ...
Era of Bully-cide1. Suicide is no longer foreign and taboo.It is commonly heard about in media.Now is somewhat “glorified”...
The Power of AwarenessKnowledge is raw power
Purpose of presentation1. to provide awareness of how bullying can  reach an intolerable breaking point for  particular po...
For many, the concept is  incomprehensible  For others - a reality or a real  “option”               Weighing possible sol...
Suicide profile data – accomplishedsuicide                                            Middle-aged men 25 – 54             ...
Phenomenon of Suicide – “option”gaining popularity         100 suicides      committed each day            in the United S...
The copy-cat phenomenon1. the highlight gives sense of prevalence2. those considering temporarily empowered
Perception of “insurmountablebattle” Middle-aged            Older            Native          Middle-           First      ...
What really is bullying?Bullying is the activity of repeated, aggressive behavior intended to hurt another person, physica...
Bullying Subjects or Issues that can lead to          suicide option selection      ISSUE      Typical Examples Possible r...
Killing Power of WordsPower of Body LanguageWords are like poison bullets70% of communication is non-verbal      “Retard!”...
Cyber-bullying examples
Videos posted on internet videosharing sites
Who is most typically picked on?The chubby kidThe skinny kidThe “nerd”“The gay dude”The mentally challenged  childThe rece...
Victim pre-disposition red flags There are often conditions which tend to pre-   dispose a child to bullying victimization...
Where does bullying in schools most typically take place?On the school busAt lunch in cafeteriaDuring recess playtimeIn ha...
Who is the typical bullyingperpetrator?Most physical bullying reports – MALE  perpetratorsIncreasing # female group taunti...
Typical bully behaviorNEEDS AN AUDIENCE in which to carry out his            bullying endeavors MODUS OPERANDI is often sn...
Power of rejection
Universal need for acceptance anddignityTOLERANCEPeople want to feel loved and neededDont have to like everyone, but we MU...
The LGBT populationGay, lesbian, and bisexual youth are two to  three times more likely to attempt suicide  than their het...
Reaching the “breaking point”Everyone has a limitEveryone has personal hurts and emotional  triggers      r  vato         ...
Suicide “perfect storm”  The storm warnings are very clear – How can    we miss them?                                     ...
When we see the signs ...We are civilly and morally obligated to protect and prevent
Challenge1. Be mindful of those most at risk of bullying.2. Be mindful of those who are like  perpetrators.3. Encourage a ...
Breaking-point Bullyingand the increasing popularity ofThe Suicide “Solution”Recognizing populationsmost at risk     Rob G...
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  1. 1. Breaking-point Bullyingand the increasing popularity ofThe Suicide “Solution”Recognizing populationsmost at risk Rob Gallardo, CI/PS – Director Operation No Gangs/Attitudinal Dynamics www.bullyfree-itsuptome.org
  2. 2. Suicide - The “American Way”Kurt Cobain (Nirvana) suicide –re-awakened the country 1994 Dylan Klebold Columbine HS Eric Harris 4/20/99
  3. 3. Bryans story:“I couldnt make it. I love you.”16-year-old Andress studentBullied for being openly homosexual
  4. 4. Tyler Clementi -"Jumping off the gw bridge sorry."(Facebook)Cyberbullying – spying on gay roommate,Webcast broadcasting sexual encounter
  5. 5. Drew Ferraro“... they just didnt like the way helooked.”15-year-old Drew Ferraro Running jump from top of school building
  6. 6. Ashlynn Conner - 10-year-old Commits Suicide Because of Bullying Found hanged in closet, used scarf Called “fat,” “ugly,” “slut”Gender-basedAppearance-based
  7. 7. Era of Bully-cide1. Suicide is no longer foreign and taboo.It is commonly heard about in media.Now is somewhat “glorified” action.2. Pressures and social demands of today appear, to many, greater than at any time before.3. Accessibility of firearms and drugs4. Broadcasted bullying through internet venues - CYBERBULLYING
  8. 8. The Power of AwarenessKnowledge is raw power
  9. 9. Purpose of presentation1. to provide awareness of how bullying can reach an intolerable breaking point for particular populations2. to identify victims most likely bullying targets3. to identify individuals most likely bullying perpetrators4. to identify typical bullying venues5. to emphasize that suicide is a winnable battle The Suicide Option is avoidable if we are aware of signs and the phenomena of bullying and suicide and are familiar with the
  10. 10. For many, the concept is incomprehensible For others - a reality or a real “option” Weighing possible solutions Insurmountable issue x exaAdults: Finances mp Employment Issues les Marital or other family issues Mental disturbances, psychological Work it out – but how? Health issues Stick it out – but how?Youth: Appearance How do I stop the pain? Social adroitness issues Romantic relationship difficulties Sexual orientation Bullying Exiting the insurmountable solution appears most viable route to some
  11. 11. Suicide profile data – accomplishedsuicide Middle-aged men 25 – 54 Senior adults 80+ Native American men Middle-aged women 45—54 First responders LGBT questioning adolescents aged 18- 24 Returning war veterans Young Texans Suicide = 3rd leading cause of death 2nd leading cause of death for college-age youth Men 3x Women
  12. 12. Phenomenon of Suicide – “option”gaining popularity 100 suicides committed each day in the United States
  13. 13. The copy-cat phenomenon1. the highlight gives sense of prevalence2. those considering temporarily empowered
  14. 14. Perception of “insurmountablebattle” Middle-aged Older Native Middle- First LGBT Men Seniors American aged Responders/ adolescents Men Women Returning Veterans Stigma of Sense of Stigma of Sense of not PTSD issues Bullying seeking help burden to seeking help knowing others which course Psychologica PTSD issuesSense of failure Isolated of action to l strain of “Not much culture take work Sense of Inability to wait left to live for (bridging abnormality out solutions anyway” difficulties) Sense of Often sense due to hopelessnes of futility, Limited perceived s powerlessnes network of seriousness s understanding individuals Limited network of Isolation/ understanding Ostracism individualsSense of hopelessness
  15. 15. What really is bullying?Bullying is the activity of repeated, aggressive behavior intended to hurt another person, physically or mentally.Bullying is characterized by an individual behaving in a certain way to gain power over another person.Bullying can be non-verbal: a look, a facialexpression, a movement, a gaze or stare
  16. 16. Bullying Subjects or Issues that can lead to suicide option selection ISSUE Typical Examples Possible reasons why clarification non-acceptancePresumed sexual orientation Culture of Machismo Urban Thug media idealization Religious upbringing Cultural upbringingBMI: Obesity, thinness, Media-perfect peopledeformity, physical height imagery popularitySmartness/“nerdiness” Cool and with-it peoplePerceived mental “slowness” imagery popularityOther appearance issues Hairstyles Tattoos “Thats just weird ...” Makeup use Pigmentation Clothing/style choicesSocial maladroitness - “an odd The “goofy” one Cool and with-it peopleone” The “airhead” imagery popularity The intentional “loner” Culture of MachismoEthnicity, nationality, religion Mixed nationality origin Cultural upbringing Recent immigrants Fear of terrorism or cultural Recent Middle-East tension changes to national landscapeAssociations, activities Male cheerleader Cultural upbringing
  17. 17. Killing Power of WordsPower of Body LanguageWords are like poison bullets70% of communication is non-verbal “Retard!” “So “OH! Its unc Ms. Goodie oo l!” Two-shoes”
  18. 18. Cyber-bullying examples
  19. 19. Videos posted on internet videosharing sites
  20. 20. Who is most typically picked on?The chubby kidThe skinny kidThe “nerd”“The gay dude”The mentally challenged childThe recent immigrant“That kid from the Middle East”“That kid who always talks to himself and keeps to himself”
  21. 21. Victim pre-disposition red flags There are often conditions which tend to pre- dispose a child to bullying victimization – the withdrawn or aloof child– the “quiet” or non-assertive child– a child who is “different” from peers (stands out in style, appearance, capability, activities)– child who is patently insecure (self-esteem consideration)– the “indefensible” child in a group of much physically or psychically stronger peers
  22. 22. Where does bullying in schools most typically take place?On the school busAt lunch in cafeteriaDuring recess playtimeIn hallways during transitionsDuring physical education classtime activitiesAfter-school departure
  23. 23. Who is the typical bullyingperpetrator?Most physical bullying reports – MALE perpetratorsIncreasing # female group tauntings- carries self in brash wordings and actions, careless in word-larger, stronger or more verbally-adept- leader of weaker peers, leader of outcasts or middle-of-the-roaders- often pre-branded or historically observed as “troublemaker” in other settings
  24. 24. Typical bully behaviorNEEDS AN AUDIENCE in which to carry out his bullying endeavors MODUS OPERANDI is often sniping (off-cuff) remarks with a sting- seeks opportunities to intimidate in front of others so as to create imbalance of power - When perceives assured indefensibility or when enraged, may progress to physical aggression
  25. 25. Power of rejection
  26. 26. Universal need for acceptance anddignityTOLERANCEPeople want to feel loved and neededDont have to like everyone, but we MUST RESPECT EVERYONE
  27. 27. The LGBT populationGay, lesbian, and bisexual youth are two to three times more likely to attempt suicide than their heterosexual counterparts.30% of suicides are committed by LGBT youth(in some communities) Culture
  28. 28. Reaching the “breaking point”Everyone has a limitEveryone has personal hurts and emotional triggers r vato Pushed to the edge raAgg
  29. 29. Suicide “perfect storm” The storm warnings are very clear – How can we miss them? Sense of highly Sense of loss Confusion Limited of control Support network Sense of Loss of dignity “no viable resolution options”Aggravator Aggravator Drug or Mental disorder Alcohol Use
  30. 30. When we see the signs ...We are civilly and morally obligated to protect and prevent
  31. 31. Challenge1. Be mindful of those most at risk of bullying.2. Be mindful of those who are like perpetrators.3. Encourage a culture of awareness and tolerance.4. Insist on zero-tolerance of bullying.5. Ensure that a wrap-around is provided for possible suicide risk-takers6. Dont sit back and wait for a tragedy to happen.
  32. 32. Breaking-point Bullyingand the increasing popularity ofThe Suicide “Solution”Recognizing populationsmost at risk Rob Gallardo, CI/PS – Director Operation No Gangs/Attitudinal Dynamics www.bullyfree-itsuptome.org

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