Caring for the Caregiver Maureen Frayling  MNZAC Frayling Counselling & Consulting Ltd Ph: 4835181 / 02102537808
 
<ul><li>The experience of loss and illness in others also touches the helper personally in at least three ways: </li></ul>
<ul><li>Working with very ill, dying and grieving people may make us aware (sometimes painfully so) of our own losses. </l...
Why it is important to look after myself while caring for someone who is ill <ul><li>I am important .   </li></ul><ul><li>...
<ul><li>Balance in life : </li></ul><ul><li>It is essential to develop all facets of myself </li></ul>
<ul><li>Effectiveness:   </li></ul><ul><li>By taking care of myself I will be able to work more effectively, be clear head...
<ul><li>Health:   </li></ul><ul><li>If I do not take care of myself I may soon experience physical, emotional, mental and ...
Spin off onto families, personal relationships and friends:   I must have positive energy left for them; otherwise a negat...
Self awareness:   Encourages me to develop strategies for effectively dealing with stress signs
<ul><li>Self Esteem:   </li></ul><ul><li>A little pampering is great for my  </li></ul><ul><li>self esteem  </li></ul>
Reducing   Stress
<ul><li>Thou shalt not try to be all things to all people </li></ul><ul><li>Thou shalt leave things undone that ought to b...
<ul><li>Thou shalt learn to say no </li></ul><ul><li>Thou shalt switch off and do nothing regularly  </li></ul>
<ul><li>Thou shalt schedule time for thyself and thy supportive network </li></ul><ul><li>Thou shalt not spread thyself to...
<ul><li>Thou shalt not feel guilty </li></ul><ul><li>Especially thou shalt not be thine own worst enemy but be thy best fr...
Thou shalt be boring, untidy, inelegant and unattractive at times
Signs of Compassion Fatigue <ul><li>Inappropriate anger, hostility, or general irritability </li></ul><ul><li>Inability to...
<ul><li>Withdrawal from others </li></ul><ul><li>A feeling of being isolated from clients, colleagues, family and friends ...
<ul><li>Reluctance to cooperate with co-workers, or to participate on the team </li></ul>
<ul><li>A sense of being overwhelmed by endless tasks, both at home and on the job </li></ul><ul><li>A rigid approach to p...
<ul><li>A constant sense of pressure </li></ul><ul><li>A sense that one’s work has become routine </li></ul>
Signs of Burnout <ul><li>I’m Exhausted  </li></ul><ul><li>I’m losing weight </li></ul><ul><li>I’m gaining weight </li></ul...
<ul><li>You’re sure bugging me lately </li></ul><ul><li>No one gives a damn around here </li></ul><ul><li>I’m fed up its h...
<ul><li>Gee did I do that again </li></ul><ul><li>It’s those hassles that are getting to me </li></ul><ul><li>What the use...
<ul><li>My body aches </li></ul><ul><li>I’ cant shake off colds </li></ul><ul><li>I put myself down  </li></ul>
“ You cant wipe the tears off another person’s face without getting your hands wet” (Zulu proverb)
Suggestions for Building Self Esteem
<ul><li>Write a list of everything you can do </li></ul><ul><li>Acknowledge yourself each time you achieve something </li>...
<ul><li>Buy and wear clothes that make you feel good rather than what you think you ought to have </li></ul><ul><li>Practi...
<ul><li>The art of walking upright here </li></ul><ul><li>is the art of using both feet.  </li></ul><ul><li>One is for hol...
<ul><li>The events of care, those moments when skilled and dedicated doctors, nurses, and other health caregivers intensel...
<ul><li>It takes a real storm in the average person's life to make him realize how much worrying he has done over the squa...
<ul><li>Don't sweat the small stuff </li></ul><ul><li>It's all small stuff </li></ul>
If you can't fight or flee, then flow.
<ul><li>The Arrival of a good clown exercises a more beneficial influence upon the health of a town than the arrival of tw...
Live Well,  Love Much,  Laugh Often And don’t forget to dance
 
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    1. 1. Caring for the Caregiver Maureen Frayling MNZAC Frayling Counselling & Consulting Ltd Ph: 4835181 / 02102537808
    2. 3. <ul><li>The experience of loss and illness in others also touches the helper personally in at least three ways: </li></ul>
    3. 4. <ul><li>Working with very ill, dying and grieving people may make us aware (sometimes painfully so) of our own losses. </li></ul><ul><li>It may remind us of our own feared losses. </li></ul><ul><li>In working with grief caused by death our own personal death awareness may be heightened </li></ul>
    4. 5. Why it is important to look after myself while caring for someone who is ill <ul><li>I am important . </li></ul><ul><li>I must give myself time to do some off the things I like doing, activities that nurture me </li></ul>
    5. 6. <ul><li>Balance in life : </li></ul><ul><li>It is essential to develop all facets of myself </li></ul>
    6. 7. <ul><li>Effectiveness: </li></ul><ul><li>By taking care of myself I will be able to work more effectively, be clear headed </li></ul>
    7. 8. <ul><li>Health: </li></ul><ul><li>If I do not take care of myself I may soon experience physical, emotional, mental and spiritual burnout </li></ul>
    8. 9. Spin off onto families, personal relationships and friends: I must have positive energy left for them; otherwise a negative cycle will develop
    9. 10. Self awareness: Encourages me to develop strategies for effectively dealing with stress signs
    10. 11. <ul><li>Self Esteem: </li></ul><ul><li>A little pampering is great for my </li></ul><ul><li>self esteem </li></ul>
    11. 12. Reducing Stress
    12. 13. <ul><li>Thou shalt not try to be all things to all people </li></ul><ul><li>Thou shalt leave things undone that ought to be done </li></ul>
    13. 14. <ul><li>Thou shalt learn to say no </li></ul><ul><li>Thou shalt switch off and do nothing regularly </li></ul>
    14. 15. <ul><li>Thou shalt schedule time for thyself and thy supportive network </li></ul><ul><li>Thou shalt not spread thyself too thinly </li></ul>
    15. 16. <ul><li>Thou shalt not feel guilty </li></ul><ul><li>Especially thou shalt not be thine own worst enemy but be thy best friend </li></ul><ul><li>Thou shalt not be perfect, nor even try to be </li></ul>
    16. 17. Thou shalt be boring, untidy, inelegant and unattractive at times
    17. 18. Signs of Compassion Fatigue <ul><li>Inappropriate anger, hostility, or general irritability </li></ul><ul><li>Inability to enjoy life </li></ul>
    18. 19. <ul><li>Withdrawal from others </li></ul><ul><li>A feeling of being isolated from clients, colleagues, family and friends </li></ul>
    19. 20. <ul><li>Reluctance to cooperate with co-workers, or to participate on the team </li></ul>
    20. 21. <ul><li>A sense of being overwhelmed by endless tasks, both at home and on the job </li></ul><ul><li>A rigid approach to problems; inability to be flexible in the face of change or new demands </li></ul>
    21. 22. <ul><li>A constant sense of pressure </li></ul><ul><li>A sense that one’s work has become routine </li></ul>
    22. 23. Signs of Burnout <ul><li>I’m Exhausted </li></ul><ul><li>I’m losing weight </li></ul><ul><li>I’m gaining weight </li></ul><ul><li>I feel depressed </li></ul>
    23. 24. <ul><li>You’re sure bugging me lately </li></ul><ul><li>No one gives a damn around here </li></ul><ul><li>I’m fed up its hopeless </li></ul><ul><li>Everyone is out to get me </li></ul>
    24. 25. <ul><li>Gee did I do that again </li></ul><ul><li>It’s those hassles that are getting to me </li></ul><ul><li>What the use? </li></ul><ul><li>So what else is new? </li></ul>
    25. 26. <ul><li>My body aches </li></ul><ul><li>I’ cant shake off colds </li></ul><ul><li>I put myself down </li></ul>
    26. 27. “ You cant wipe the tears off another person’s face without getting your hands wet” (Zulu proverb)
    27. 28. Suggestions for Building Self Esteem
    28. 29. <ul><li>Write a list of everything you can do </li></ul><ul><li>Acknowledge yourself each time you achieve something </li></ul><ul><li>Practise allowing praise in-accepting compliments </li></ul>
    29. 30. <ul><li>Buy and wear clothes that make you feel good rather than what you think you ought to have </li></ul><ul><li>Practise affirmations </li></ul>
    30. 31. <ul><li>The art of walking upright here </li></ul><ul><li>is the art of using both feet. </li></ul><ul><li>One is for holding on. </li></ul><ul><li>One is for letting go. </li></ul><ul><li>Glenn Colquhoun </li></ul>
    31. 32. <ul><li>The events of care, those moments when skilled and dedicated doctors, nurses, and other health caregivers intensely focus their energies and time on the suffering of very sick or dying people are events within which humanity is achieved and made real </li></ul>
    32. 33. <ul><li>It takes a real storm in the average person's life to make him realize how much worrying he has done over the squalls.  - Unknown </li></ul>
    33. 34. <ul><li>Don't sweat the small stuff </li></ul><ul><li>It's all small stuff </li></ul>
    34. 35. If you can't fight or flee, then flow.
    35. 36. <ul><li>The Arrival of a good clown exercises a more beneficial influence upon the health of a town than the arrival of twenty asses laden with drugs . – </li></ul><ul><li>Thomas Sydenham, Seventeenth-Century Physician </li></ul>
    36. 37. Live Well, Love Much, Laugh Often And don’t forget to dance
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