Young Parents


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Young Parents
Presented by Jenny McLeish, Strategic Coordinator, National Teenage Pregnancy Midwifery Network

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Young Parents

  1. 1. Young ParentsJenny McLeishStrategic Coordinator,National Teenage Pregnancy Midwifery Network<br />
  2. 2. 15th May 2010<br />Jenny McLeish<br />National Teenage Pregnancy Midwifery Network<br /><br />Parenting challenges - Young parents<br />
  3. 3. “Although it’s really hard I’m so happy.”<br />
  4. 4. “My child...she’s the top of my heart. She makes it keep beating you know?”<br />
  5. 5. Vulnerability of young mothers and fathers<br /><ul><li>Deprived background
  6. 6. Poor housing
  7. 7. In care or care leaver
  8. 8. Physical or sexual abuse in childhood
  9. 9. Domestic abuse
  10. 10. Involved in crime
  11. 11. Educational problems
  12. 12. Learning difficulties
  13. 13. Mental health problems
  14. 14. Low self-esteem
  15. 15. Own mother was a teenage mother</li></li></ul><li>Postnatal challenges<br />Small, sick babies<br />Relationship breakdown<br />Navigating the system<br />Postnatal depression<br />Repeat unplanned pregnancy<br />
  16. 16. Adolescent times<br /><ul><li>Dependence Independence
  17. 17. Brains still work in progress (until 25!)
  18. 18. Emotional response not reasoned decision making
  19. 19. Impulsive, dramatic, reactive
  20. 20. Understanding others
  21. 21. Navigating family relationships
  22. 22. Volatile partnerships</li></li></ul><li>Reality bites<br /><ul><li>Much harder than expected
  23. 23. Poverty, poor housing
  24. 24. Missing out on the fun
  25. 25. Losing friends and social life</li></ul>“If you could just keep that maternal ‘I’ve got something to love’ kind of thing, but it’s not like that, it’s like a really long day when you’re stuck inside watching Teletubbies.”<br />
  26. 26. Negative messages<br />Public reactions<br />Professional reactions<br />Emphasis on not being a NEET<br />“The midwife said to my partner ‘What pain relief shall we give her? He said ‘I don’t know, ask her,’ and the midwife said, ‘She’s a bit young to make her own decisions.’ It made me feel a bit small.”<br />
  27. 27. The under-parented parent<br />Poor experiences of being parented<br />Looked after child<br />Abuse or neglect<br />Estrangement<br />“My mum went mental. She kicked me out.”<br />
  28. 28. Under-parented young people may...<br />Lack strong social & emotional skills<br />Lack self-esteem<br />Lack self-efficacy<br />Lack empathy<br />Find it hard to build warm trusting relationships<br />Be at risk of repeating poor patterns of attachment<br />
  29. 29. However! Young parents may also be..<br /><ul><li>resourceful
  30. 30. committed
  31. 31. hard-working
  32. 32. ambitious
  33. 33. fun
  34. 34. mature
  35. 35. happy</li></ul> and...<br /> and...<br /> and...<br />
  36. 36. “It’s the best job. You no longer have extra time to just hang with friends, party, or act irresponsible. You now have a baby to watch over and take care of. I couldn’t be happier, my children make my life complete. My boyfriend and I are doing OK for ourselves; we have a nice flat, steady income, nice things, and we have lots of fun together, and I am only 19 years old.”<br />
  37. 37. “It’s the most amazing thing that has ever happened in my life.”<br />