We studied 3 cases that shows how family can influence child’s moral
In this 3 cases, we will discuss what makes a child act in a certain way based on
Our samples’ age are from 14 until 22
Our cases is derived from first and second source
A style of parenting that is low in nurturance and communication,
but high in control and maturity demands.
Set a very high standards.
No explanations and reasoning.
A style of parenting that is low in nurturance, maturity
demands, control and communication.
Parents do not involved in children’s matters.
Give the responsibility to the care giver.
The worst parenting style.
A style of parenting that is high in nurturance and low in maturity
demands, control and communication.
Give full freedom to the children.
A style of parenting that is high in nurturance, maturity demands,
control and communication.
Set a high but realistic standards.
Communicate with children.
Expect standards to be lived up to.
Monitor whether standards are being met or not.
The best parenting style.
Provide support, love, encouragement, warmth
CASE STUDY 1
A twenty two year-old girl.
Facing problem when communicating.
Lack of communication between she and her father.
Only speak necessary things.
Only speak to answer her father question.
CASE STUDY 2
A twenty year-old girl.
Cling onto someone.
E.g. Grandparents, partner
Cannot accept separation.
Was sent to her grandparents since five years old.
Her parents rarely meet her.
Formal grandparents express strong interest
in the grandchild but maintain a hands-off
attitude toward child rearing
-They were interested but not intrusive. They
were faithful to the grandparenting role as it
was commonly perceived
Fun-seeking grandparents see themselves as a primary
source of fun for their grandchildren but avoid more
-Rather than the grandparent giving the grandchild a
good time, the two had fun together
Distant grandparents have little contact with children,
except as part of holidays or other family celebrations
-They had infrequent contact with their grandchildren,
most often on holidays and family occasion.
Dispensing-family-wisdom grandparents provide
information and advice to parents and child alike
-Grandparents were the guardian/ authority of special
skills and resources.
Surrogate-parent grandparents assume many of the
normal roles and responsibilities of a parent
-Grandparents assumed a great deal of responsibility
for the care of the child.
CASE STUDY 3
A fourteen year-old boy.
Caught stealing by the teachers.
Want to get attention from parents, teachers and friend.
Permissive parenting style.
Islamic Points of View.
1. The Holy Quran says:
“Kill not your children for fear of poverty.” (17:32)
“O you who have faith! Save yourselves and your
families from a Fire.”(66:6)
2. Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said:
a. “One should play with his children until the age of
seven, then for the next seven years, one should teach his children
manners, and then for the next seven years, one should be a friend to his
b. "When a person dies, his deeds also come to an end. But
there are three things done by him for which he goes on getting the
reward from Allah. Firstly, is he who leaves some charitable trust for the
benefit of the people. Secondly, he leaves behind some knowledge which
is continuously benefiting the people and thirdly he leaves behind a
pious child who goes on praying for his forgiveness.“
Parents should know their responsibilities
Parents need to understand the child’s rights
Establish a sense of open communication
Maintaining an Islamic environment
Aishah, Haizum, Jannah, Dila, Fa