The Definition of Anger Anger is an emotional state that may range from minor irritation to intense rage. The physical effects of anger include increased heart rate, blood pressure, and levels of adrenaline and noradrenalin. Some view Anger as part of the fight or flight brain response to the perceived threat of pain. Anger becomes the predominant feeling behaviorally, cognitively and physiologically when a person makes the conscious choice to take action to immediately stop the threatening behavior of another outside force.

Anger is an emotional state that may range from minor irritation to intense rage. The physical effects of anger include increased heart rate, blood pressure, and levels of adrenaline and noradrenalin.

Some view Anger as part of the fight or flight brain response to the perceived threat of pain.

Anger becomes the predominant feeling behaviorally, cognitively and physiologically when a person makes the conscious choice to take action to immediately stop the threatening behavior of another outside force.

Anger Anger is a NORMAL emotion Protects our rights and freedoms Says “I AM” Most difficult of human emotions

Anger

Anger is a NORMAL emotion

Protects our rights and freedoms

Says “I AM”

Most difficult of human emotions

What is bad about anger? Stressful , especially when unreasonable Risk of dangerous consequences What is good about anger? Provides energy and strength to oppose a threat Is anger good or bad?

What is bad about anger?

Stressful , especially when unreasonable

Risk of dangerous consequences

What is good about anger?

Provides energy and strength to oppose a threat

Advantages of Anger Feelings of Power Self-Righteous Get people’s attention Make them do what you want

Feelings of Power

Self-Righteous

Get people’s attention

Make them do what you want

Disadvantages of Anger Physical Symptoms: Tension Fatigue Psychological Symptoms: Remorse Guilt May cause fear rather than respect

Physical Symptoms:

Tension

Fatigue

Psychological Symptoms:

Remorse

Guilt

May cause fear rather than respect

How Does Anger Affect Relationships? Anger can result in domestic violence. People who are around the angry person tend to shut down in order not to anger that person. Others get their feelings hurt. Other people become defiant, become indifferent, avoid you, or lose respect for the angry person.

Anger can result in domestic violence.

People who are around the angry person tend to shut down in order not to anger that person.

Others get their feelings hurt.

Other people become defiant, become indifferent, avoid you, or lose respect for the angry person.

ANGER MANAGEMENT HOW DO I DO IT?

ANGER MANAGEMENT Skills needed in dealing with your anger: Identify a range of feelings including anger Identify aggressive acts by self and others Identify the potential consequences to self and other from these aggressive acts Identify self-destructive behavior Identify thoughts prior to aggressive acts Identify internal cues to feelings of anger Develop coping mechanisms for dealing with anger Express anger without loss of control

Skills needed in dealing with your anger:

Identify a range of feelings including anger

Identify aggressive acts by self and others

Identify the potential consequences to self and other from these aggressive acts

Identify self-destructive behavior

Identify thoughts prior to aggressive acts

Identify internal cues to feelings of anger

Develop coping mechanisms for dealing with anger

Express anger without loss of control

ANGER MANAGEMENT Identify a range of feelings including anger: Embarrassment Excitement Disappointment Jealousy Fear Helpless Sadness Left-out

Identify a range of feelings including anger:

Embarrassment

Excitement

Disappointment

Jealousy

Fear

Helpless

Sadness

Left-out

ANGER MANAGEMENT I am in charge of my own feelings: I own my feelings. It is okay to feel angry. Anger is part of being human. I learn how to express my anger in helpful ways.

I am in charge of my own feelings:

I own my feelings.

It is okay to feel angry.

Anger is part of being human.

I learn how to express my anger in helpful ways.

ANGER MANAGEMENT Identify aggressive acts shown by self and others: Throw something Kick someone or something Get in someone’s face Shoving, grabbing, hitting Break something Call someone names Give someone a dirty look Silent treatment Get others to “gang up” Spread rumors

Identify aggressive acts shown by self and others:

Throw something

Kick someone or something

Get in someone’s face

Shoving, grabbing, hitting

Break something

Call someone names

Give someone a dirty look

Silent treatment

Get others to “gang up”

Spread rumors

ANGER MANAGEMENT I choose to feel good about myself through expressing my feelings. I express angry feelings in ways that are fair to others and me. I use fair words…e.g. “I feel when you”

I choose to feel good about myself through expressing my feelings.

I express angry feelings in ways that are fair to others and me.

I use fair words…e.g. “I feel when you”

ANGER MANAGEMENT The more I learn to take care of my anger the more powerful I become. I need to control what I do with my anger. I control how I let my anger out. I practice cooling off. I watch my thoughts.

The more I learn to take care of my anger the more powerful I become.

I need to control what I do with my anger.

I control how I let my anger out.

I practice cooling off.

I watch my thoughts.

ANGER MANAGEMENT Know the difference between anger and aggression . Anger is an emotion. It is ok to be angry. Aggression is acting out inappropriately and is not ok. Learn to check your aggression and express your anger appropriately.

Know the difference between anger and aggression .

Anger is an emotion. It is ok to be angry.

Aggression is acting out inappropriately and is not ok. Learn to check your aggression and express your anger appropriately.

ANGER MANAGEMENT Ways to Keep Cool: Get exercise every day. Eat right. Get enough sleep. Learn to relax. Know your feelings. Write about those feelings.

Ways to Keep Cool:

Get exercise every day.

Eat right.

Get enough sleep.

Learn to relax.

Know your feelings.

Write about those feelings.

ANGER MANAGEMENT Ways to Keep Cool: Find a quiet place. Take a time out. Find fun distractions. Make good decisions about what you see and hear. Choose friends who make you feel good. Learn to forgive and forget.

Ways to Keep Cool:

Find a quiet place.

Take a time out.

Find fun distractions.

Make good decisions about what you see and hear.

Choose friends who make you feel good.

Learn to forgive and forget.

ANGER MANAGEMENT Identify potential consequences of your anger to others and yourself…what can that mean for you? Physical harm to someone or self Destruction of property Loss of family/friends Loss of job Loss of social privileges Going to jail Getting a bad reputation

Identify potential consequences of your anger to others and yourself…what can that mean for you?

Physical harm to someone or self

Destruction of property

Loss of family/friends

Loss of job

Loss of social privileges

Going to jail

Getting a bad reputation

ANGER MANAGEMENT Identify self-destructive behavior…How does that help or hurt you? Negative self-talk Blaming everyone else Taking everything personally Assuming Overeating, drinking Driving recklessly Taking drugs Looking for fights Feeling outraged

Identify self-destructive behavior…How does that help or hurt you?

Negative self-talk

Blaming everyone else

Taking everything personally

Assuming

Overeating, drinking

Driving recklessly

Taking drugs

Looking for fights

Feeling outraged

ANGER MANAGEMENT I stop blaming others and myself. Blaming only keeps people upset. Blaming is a way of not respecting people. I express my feelings and then try to work things out.

I stop blaming others and myself.

Blaming only keeps people upset.

Blaming is a way of not respecting people.

I express my feelings and then try to work things out.

ANGER MANAGEMENT Identify thoughts prior to aggressive acts: You did that on purpose… You wanted to hurt me… You deserve this… You never even asked me… You’re being unreasonable… You think you’re so good… I’ll show you… You started it… There’s no justice…

Identify thoughts prior to aggressive acts:

You did that on purpose…

You wanted to hurt me…

You deserve this…

You never even asked me…

You’re being unreasonable…

You think you’re so good…

I’ll show you…

You started it…

There’s no justice…

ANGER MANAGEMENT Identify internal cues to feelings of anger: Stomach gets tight/upset Heart is beating faster Clenching fists Feel myself getting flushed Pressure on my temples Sweaty palms Clenched jaw

Identify internal cues to feelings of anger:

Stomach gets tight/upset

Heart is beating faster

Clenching fists

Feel myself getting flushed

Pressure on my temples

Sweaty palms

Clenched jaw

ANGER MANAGEMENT I don’t have to hold on to my anger. I find ways to let it go I talk about hurt and angry feelings. I look for someone to discuss my anger. I discuss my words and actions that hurt others.

I don’t have to hold on to my anger.

I find ways to let it go

I talk about hurt and angry feelings.

I look for someone to discuss my anger.

I discuss my words and actions that hurt others.

ANGER MANAGEMENT Steps to taming anger Know what pushes your buttons. Know your body’s anger signs. Stop and think! Cage your rage…it’s your choice. Decide what to do.

Steps to taming anger

Know what pushes your buttons.

Know your body’s anger signs.

Stop and think!

Cage your rage…it’s your choice.

Decide what to do.

ANGER MANAGEMENT I take power. I stand up for myself and others being hurt. I learn to defeat negative self-talk. I feel good about learning about myself. I am strong when I use fair and firm words instead of fists.

I take power.

I stand up for myself and others being hurt.

I learn to defeat negative self-talk.

I feel good about learning about myself.

I am strong when I use fair and firm words instead of fists.

ANGER MANAGEMENT I remember that people are precious. I watch my thoughts, words, and actions. I stop hurting people with my words and actions. I take ownership of the hurtful things I do and say. “ Bullying” hurts everyone.

I remember that people are precious.

I watch my thoughts, words, and actions.

I stop hurting people with my words and actions.

I take ownership of the hurtful things I do and say.

“ Bullying” hurts everyone.

ANGER MANAGEMENT Calm down Name the problem Find solutions Pick the best solution Congratulate yourself Evaluate the solution Make changes if necessary

Calm down

Name the problem

Find solutions

Pick the best solution

Congratulate yourself

Evaluate the solution

Make changes if necessary

ANGER MANAGEMENT Can you identify any of the steps in resolving conflict, controlling your anger and avoiding aggressive behavior? Well…(then click)

Can you identify any of the steps in resolving conflict, controlling your anger and avoiding aggressive behavior?

Well…(then click)

ANGER MANAGEMENT Calm down Show mutual respect Name the problem Find solutions Choose the best solution Congratulate yourself Review the solution that was picked

Calm down

Show mutual respect

Name the problem

Find solutions

Choose the best solution

Congratulate yourself

Review the solution that was picked