Introduction Home and family are in serious decline Marriages are falling apart Difference in “home” and “house” Use analogy of building a house, apply to home What if your house burned to the ground? Lose – THINGS Still have home, family, memories, character Today – 3 Demands of the Architect
Text – Genesis 2:21-2421 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. 22 Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. 23 And Adam said: "This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; he shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man." 24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
SEVERANCE LEAVE FATHER AND MOTHER Cut the cord with parents Parents – cut the apron strings Children – no longer dependent Love, respect, honor, seek advice At wedding – father “gives away” the bride
SEVERANCE LEAVE FATHER AND MOTHER How old is she, Billy Boy, Billy Boy? How old is she charming Billy? Three times six and four times seven Twenty-eight and eleven. Shes a young thing and cannot leave her mother. NOTE: She is 85 years old.
SEVERANCE LEAVE FATHER AND MOTHER Problems will arise in every relationship DONT call your parents CALL your spouse In argument some say, “Do what I want or I will go home to mama.”
PERMANENCE JOINED TO HIS WIFE KJV - “cleave” Cleave = bound, glued, stick together Greek word – means “to glue”, join together Winston Churchill - “Wars are not won by evacuation.”
UNITY BECOME ONE Not instant – Work at it, learn to become one Blend your: Temperaments Gifts Habits Backgrounds Values
UNITY BECOME ONE Unity is not a duplicate, a clone Uniformity = donut machine, assembly line Unity = 2 people who blend into each other
The Floor Plan Proverbs 24:3-4 3 Through wisdom a house is built, And by understanding it is established; 4 By knowledge the rooms are filled With all precious and pleasant riches.
The Floor Plan BUILT WITH WISDOM Built – To construct, repair, assemble, put together Building takes time and energy Wisdom – Seeing with discernment Use your “common sense”
The Floor Plan BUILT WITH WISDOM ESTABLISHED WITH UNDERSTANDING Establish – To erect, put upright position Set the foundation and build from there Understanding – Responding with insight Seek to understand each other
The Floor Plan BUILT WITH WISDOM ESTABLISHED WITH UNDERSTANDING FILLED WITH KNOWLEDGE Filled – Overflowing More than just “getting by” Knowledge – Learning with perception
Final Thought Charlie Shedd, author“Marriage . . . is not so muchfinding the right person as it is being the right person.”