How Men Fall In Love And For How Long

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  • 1. How Men Fall In Love And For How Long
  • 2. This presentation is taken from The Origin of Emotions which can be downloaded at: ww.theoriginofemotions.com Men In Love 19-Aug-09 2 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 3. This presentation will make the following assertions: • men can only fall in love with a stranger • men fall in love after 4 months of daily interaction • men fall out of love 46 months after meeting a stranger Men In Love 19-Aug-09 3 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 4. Men in love simultaneously feel three positive emotions when they see or hear the woman they love. positive emotion trigger purpose monogynistic love " The woman I love is happy." encourage men to support women visual/audible pleasure the sight or sound of women encourage men to seek women affection the sight or sound of familiar people encourage everyone to interact with kin Men In Love 19-Aug-09 4 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 5. Men fall in love 4 months after meeting a woman and fall out of love 42 months later or 46 months after meeting her. very strong monogynistic love strong moderate 42 months weak 0 4 8 12 16 20 24 28 32 36 40 44 46 48 52 56 60 months since first meeting a woman Men In Love 19-Aug-09 5 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 6. After 46 months, men continue to feel the weaker emotions of visual/audible pleasure and affection. very strong monogynistic love visual/audible pleasure strong affection moderate weak 0 4 8 12 16 20 24 28 32 36 40 44 46 48 52 56 60 months since first meeting a woman Men In Love 19-Aug-09 6 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 7. Men fall in love when one woman repeatedly triggers their visual/audible pleasure and affection for 4 months. very strong monogynistic love visual/audible pleasure strong affection moderate weak 0 4 8 12 16 20 24 28 32 36 40 44 46 48 52 56 60 months since first meeting a woman Men In Love 19-Aug-09 7 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 8. Visual/audible pleasure is triggered by the sight or sound of women. positive emotion trigger purpose monogynistic love " The woman I love is happy." encourage men to support women visual/audible pleasure the sight or sound of women encourage men to seek women affection the sight or sound of familiar people encourage everyone to interact with kin Men In Love 19-Aug-09 8 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 9. Visual/audible pleasure is specifically triggered by features that fertile, non-pregnant women have and other humans do not. children men post- fertile fertile menopausal pregnant non-pregnant women women women Men In Love 19-Aug-09 9 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 10. The following are features that fertile, non-pregnant women have and other humans do not. hourglass figure - combination of protruding breasts, wide hips, narrow waist protruding breasts plump lips wide hips - ideal hip-to-waist ratio is 0.7 slender appendages - face, neck, arms, hands, fingers, legs, feet, toes 8% shorter height - 8% is ideal (about 5½" shorter than a 5'10" man) feminine voice - pitch and resonance midway between men and children beardless face - beards evolved so men do not court men pubic hair non-grey hair narrow waist Men In Love 19-Aug-09 10 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 11. The more exclusive a feature is to fertile, non-pregnant women the stronger the visual/audible pleasure it triggers in men. post- fertile fertile strength menopausal pregnant non-pregnant of effect children men women women women strong hourglass figure protruding breasts moderate plump lips wide hips slender appendages weak 8% shorter height feminine voice beardless face pubic hair very weak non-grey hair narrow waist Men In Love 19-Aug-09 11 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 12. To fall in love, a man must feel strong visual/audible pleasure for 4 months. very strong monogynistic love visual/audible pleasure strong affection moderate weak 0 4 8 12 16 20 24 28 32 36 40 44 46 48 52 56 60 months since first meeting a woman Men In Love 19-Aug-09 12 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 13. Strong visual/audible pleasure can only be triggered by an hourglass figure, which confirms that a woman is fertile and non-pregnant. post- fertile fertile strength menopausal pregnant non-pregnant of effect children men women women women strong hourglass figure protruding breasts moderate plump lips wide hips slender appendages weak 8% shorter height feminine voice beardless face pubic hair very weak non-grey hair narrow waist Men In Love 19-Aug-09 13 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 14. 4 months of strong visual pleasure confirms that a woman was not impregnated by another man just before meeting. very strong visual/audible pleasure triggered by non-pregnant woman strong visual/audible pleasure triggered by woman impregnated moderate just before meeting a man as she loses her hourglass figure weak 0 4 8 12 16 20 24 28 32 36 40 44 46 48 52 56 60 months since first meeting a woman Men In Love 19-Aug-09 14 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 15. this is a tangent The visual/audible pleasure that a woman triggers in a man declines over time which encourages men to maximize the genetic diversity of their offspring. very strong visual/audible pleasure strong moderate weak 0 4 8 12 16 20 24 28 32 36 40 44 46 48 52 56 60 months since first meeting a woman Men In Love 19-Aug-09 15 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 16. this is a tangent Over 8 years, the visual audible pleasure that Elizabeth Hurley triggered in Hugh Grant declined enough that . . . very strong strong visual/audible pleasure moderate weak 1987 1988 1989 1990 1991 1992 1993 1994 1995 Men In Love 19-Aug-09 16 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 17. this is a tangent . . . that Divine Brown, a street prostitute, became relatively more attractive to Hugh. very strong strong visual/audible pleasure moderate weak 1987 1988 1989 1990 1991 1992 1993 1994 1995 Men In Love 19-Aug-09 17 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 18. this is a tangent Women frequently change their appearance to try to slow the decline of visual/audible pleasure. very strong visual/audible pleasure strong change appearance frequently moderate change appearance rarely weak 0 4 8 12 16 20 24 28 32 36 40 44 46 48 52 56 60 months since first meeting a woman Men In Love 19-Aug-09 18 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 19. Affection is triggered by the sight or sound of familiar people. positive emotion trigger purpose monogynistic love " The woman I love is happy." encourage men to support women visual/audible pleasure the sight or sound of women encourage men to seek women affection the sight or sound of familiar people encourage everyone to interact with kin Men In Love 19-Aug-09 19 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 20. Affection is specifically triggered by features that modern humans have and other primates do not. arboreal terrestrial small-brain modern primates primates humans humans Men In Love 19-Aug-09 20 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 21. The following are features that modern humans have and other primates do not. singing, poetry, alliteration - logically sequenced acoustics from human voice talking smiling - corners of mouth turned up, not showing teeth eyebrows, white eyes, nose, philtra, lips, chin - everted lips hands with long opposable thumbs walking bipedally - or dancing feet without opposable toes bums without tails Men In Love 19-Aug-09 21 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 22. The more exclusive a feature is to modern humans the stronger the affection it triggers in others. strength arboreal terrestrial small-brain modern of effect primates primates humans humans strong singing, poetry, alliteration talking smiling moderate eyebrows, white eyes, nose, philtra, lips, chin hands with long opposable thumbs walking bipedally feet without opposable toes weak bums without tails Men In Love 19-Aug-09 22 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 23. this is a tangent The affection a feature triggers is stronger if there is proof of interaction. • singing to music • dancing to music • making eye contact Men In Love 19-Aug-09 23 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 24. this is a tangent While seeing white eyes triggers moderate affection . . . Men In Love 19-Aug-09 24 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 25. this is a tangent . . . making eye contact triggers stronger affection because it confirms interaction. Men In Love 19-Aug-09 25 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 26. Affection starts weak and grows stronger the more time you spend with someone. very strong strong affection (full-time interaction) moderate affection weak (part-time interaction) 0 4 8 12 16 20 24 28 32 36 40 44 48 52 56 60 months since first meeting someone Men In Love 19-Aug-09 26 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 27. To fall in love, a man must feel affection that grows from weak-to-moderate strength in 4 months. very strong monogynistic love visual/audible pleasure strong affection moderate weak 0 4 8 12 16 20 24 28 32 36 40 44 46 48 52 56 60 months since first meeting a woman Men In Love 19-Aug-09 27 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 28. Only strangers can start at weak affection. very strong affection (old flames, family, friends) strong affection moderate (new women) weak 0 4 8 12 16 20 24 28 32 36 40 44 48 52 56 60 months since first meeting a woman Men In Love 19-Aug-09 28 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 29. Because men can only fall in love with strangers they maximize the genetic diversity of their offspring. woman child 1 child 2 child 3 child 4 child 5 child 6 Mike falls in love with one woman for life Anne MA MA MA MA MA MA Mike only falls in love with strangers Anne MA Betty MB Carol MC Dawn MD Elaine ME Francis MF Men In Love 19-Aug-09 29 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 30. Strangers can only trigger moderate affection by month 4 if they are interacting on a full-time basis. very strong strong affection (full-time interaction) moderate affection (part-time interaction) weak 0 4 8 12 16 20 24 28 32 36 40 44 48 52 56 60 months since first meeting a woman Men In Love 19-Aug-09 30 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 31. Because men can only fall in love with women who interact on full-time basis they do not fall in love with women who could have been simultaneously courting another man. very strong strong moderate affection (part-time with man 1) affection weak (part-time with man 2) 0 4 8 12 16 20 24 28 32 36 40 44 48 52 56 60 months since first meeting a woman Men In Love 19-Aug-09 31 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 32. Men fall out of love after 42 months or 46 months after meeting a woman. very strong monogynistic love visual/audible pleasure strong affection moderate 42 months weak 0 4 8 12 16 20 24 28 32 36 40 44 46 48 52 56 60 months since first meeting a woman Men In Love 19-Aug-09 32 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 33. Love encourages men to support women. positive emotion trigger purpose monogynistic love " The woman I love is happy." encourage men to support women visual/audible pleasure the sight or sound of women encourage men to seek women affection the sight or sound of familiar people encourage everyone to interact with kin Men In Love 19-Aug-09 33 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 34. By supporting women, men indirectly support their children. monogynistic love women men maternal love children Men In Love 19-Aug-09 34 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 35. Men maximize the number of two-parent children they have by starting the next child when the current child no longer needs full-time care. child 1 child 2 child 3 child 4 child 5 child 6 child no longer needs full-time care Anne MA Betty MB Carol MC Dawn MD Elaine ME Francis MF Men In Love 19-Aug-09 35 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 36. Children no longer need full-time care when their first set of teeth have fully erupted at 33 months. • before their first set of teeth fully erupt, children need assistance to eat • mothers must first breastfeed, then transfer of masticated food to their children Men In Love 19-Aug-09 36 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 37. Adding 9 months of gestation to 33 months of post-natal care equals a total support time of 42 months. very strong monogynistic love strong 9 months 33 months gestation post-natal support moderate 42 months weak 0 4 8 12 16 20 24 28 32 36 40 44 46 48 52 56 60 months since first meeting a woman Men In Love 19-Aug-09 37 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 38. There is ample evidence that men do not love one woman forever. • fireworks do not continue • 50% of marriages end in divorce • affection keeps the other 50% together Men In Love 19-Aug-09 38 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 39. Based on 2002 US Census Data, the average length of first marriages is 44 months. men women average age at first divorce 30.5 29.0 average age at first marriage 26.9 25.3 average length of marriage 3.6 3.7 average length of marriage 3.7 years average length of marriage 44 months Men In Love 19-Aug-09 39 copyright © Mark Devon 2009
  • 40. Assuming 16 months of courtship and 44 months of marriage, couples typically divorce 14 months after the man falls out of love. very strong monogynistic love strong 16 months 44 months of courtship of marriage moderate 14 months to divorce weak 0 4 8 12 16 20 24 28 32 36 40 44 46 48 52 56 60 months since first meeting a woman Men In Love 19-Aug-09 40 copyright © Mark Devon 2009