The dysfunctional church fear of conflictPresentation Transcript
Bible verses on ConflictColossians 3:13 NIVBear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.James 1:19‐20 NIVMy dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.
Fear of ConflictDo we agree because we’re afraid how our disagreement will be perceived?Do we conform because that is the expectation?Do we discuss the issues and not the individuals?Do we close our mouths because we are afraid of how our opinions will be interpreted?
What does a fear of conflict look like?Boring interactionsAn environment of politics and personal attacks thriveCritical conversational topics are avoidedOpinions and perspectives of others are ignored/not exploredTime and energy is wasted on focusing on one’s imageInfrequent admission when one says or does something inappropriateIssues are discussed outside of the proper forum and individuals that disagree, seek allies
Impact of Improperly handled conflictMissed learning opportunityIsolation of potentially important views, opinions and perspectivesSevered connections or new connections abortedDiminished cohesionImpairs the decision making ability of the churchDivision among members and an unhealthy atmosphereFailure to build authentic relationships
Churches without a Fear of Conflict:Have lively, interesting interactionsExtract and exploit the ideas of all team membersSolve real problems quicklyMinimize politicsNot afraid to have open discussions on critical topics
Bible verses on ConflictJohn 7:24Stop judging by mere appearances, but instead judge correctly.James 1:19‐20 NIVMy dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.